Dealing with Emotions
By Pose123
@Pose123 (21635)
Canada
October 4, 2008 9:27am CST
Have you ever had to deal with a chaotic, sad or cruel experience in your
life? Most of us have at some time or other and such powerful emotions can be very challenging. At such times we may feel that we have only two options, we can let our sentiments out in an immediate and unreasonable way or we can bottle them up by suppressing them. Most of us make the second choice, by repressing our feelings in an attempt to deny them. Denying our feeling however, can be very unhealthy for both the mind and the body and can even impede our short term memory.
Although we don’t always realize it, there are more positive ways to behave at such times. Perhaps we might be able to talk about it with a trusted friend or family member, or if not ready to share our feelings, maybe we could try writing them down using such words as “lucid“, “angry“, “excited” or “rage” to really get it out of our system. Even just speaking our feelings out loud to ourselves can be a healing release. While burying negative and uncomfortable thoughts may dull the pain for a little while, it can also curb our ability to experience more positive and pleasurable feelings in the future. We may find ourselves afraid to open up for fear of getting hurt again. Another helpful antidote might be to just get busy, go for a long walk, do something constructive that will make you feel good about yourself. Get lost in the joy of living.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
4 Oct 08
To me going for a walk with my dogs releases all my stress ,and going to Barnes and Nobles and getting myself a good book to read is a very constructive way to concentrate on positive things. I really believe in confrontation because this way you tell people what they deserve to hear ,and you move on with your life.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Oct 08
hi Rose wow great discussion. I just now am dealing with anger, frustatrion, relief, etc. I order groceries on line,and was already in the midst of checking out, had even placed the time of delivery and wham, my computer froze. I could not go any further then the whole albertson screen went blank and I could not retrieve my order.So finally I called customer service, and wouldnt you know I got a guy whose accent made it really hard to know what he was saying, but we finally connected and he had me get back on screen at Albertsons.com and walked me through it,we retrieved my order and got all the i's dotted and the t's crossed and now I am okay again. but I was shaking as though I had just run a mile and this was just a glitch, not a horrible emergency, but I was so frustrated, my computer would do such a thing right in the midst of checking out my order. see this website moves so slow it had taken me almost two hours to place the order, and for a while it looked like I would have to do it all over. bummer.so for me just telling about this has reduced my heart rate, and my anger scale from ten to one.your advice is right on. thanks much.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
27 Nov 09
I do a lot of writing, and it's public writing. I could just write in a diary, but i feel like I'm talking to a wall. For me talking to a wall, or talking to myself does not make a lot of sense. I like to get things out in the open where i can get some feedback, and some new ideas from people around me.
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
5 Oct 08
Yes When I was young I used to react with anger and frustration. In fact I remember a boy conmplaining about me to my mum once because I was not behaving the way a girl was supposed to. I was supposed to be all shy and girlish apparently. He had pushed me over and I was furious. I got up and kicked him in the shin for it. What a wimp complaining like that. I remember being attacked once by the bullies at school as well. Picked on the wrong girl, just because I kept to myself and did not complain they thought I was an easy target but when they jumped me I fought back and suddenly its all a matter of hey we were just having a bit of fun, no need to take it seriously. I can look back on this now and laugh. I was so angry at the time.
Then as I got older I learned to suppress my emotions and not react and try and ignore problems. Then I did a couple of self awareness courses and I learned to control and direct my emotions and use the anger to give me the strength to stand up for people who were being unfairly treated and could not stand up for themselves.
If managed, anger is a great source of strength, all powerful emotions are. I am not saying people cannot hurt me now but they rarely try it twice. I am still vulnerable and the hardest one of all is when you are hurt by those you love.
@dorothy21 (43)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
It is estimated that a floating iceberg is only one tenth visible. Nine tenth of the ice block remains submerged beneath the surface of the water. A similar estimate has been suggested with regard to human emotions. The part that we are able to see is only about one tenth of the total reality. The implication of this suggestion is not that people show only one tenth of their true, recognized feelings to himself.He will never allow himself success or enjoyment without qualification. Repressed fears and angers may be "acted out" physically as insomnia, headaches, ulcers. If such fears and angers had been consciously accepted and reported in detail to another, there would have been no necessity for the sleeplessness, the tension headaches or ulcers.
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
14 Oct 08
Every one has to deal with some turbulent form of emotion sometime or other in their lives.Willingness to accept and deal with these emotions help one to progress in life.
The most often felt emotions we have to deal with are happiness, joy, anger, fear,jealousy,boredom and tension.But chaotic or cruel experiences often leave a permanent mark on our souls..
Very often such experinces often help to gear us up to face life's challenges bravely.As we mature ,we tend to become more able in recognising and handling our emotions in the right way,by borrowing a leaf from our past experinces.Talking about it to another person,engaging in physical activities to give vent to built up tension,listening to soothing music,and engaging in spiritual discourses are some of the options that are available to deal with such emotions......
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@positiveminded1977 (7072)
• India
6 Oct 08
I try the writing out method. All the rants are typed out at top speed and then deleted. Or sometimes, I use a technique called mental self-talk. It works. I ask myself: "these terrible thoughts of anger and resentment are not yours because they don't always come. Where are they coming from?" I usually get the answer there. For example, the other day, the Internet conked just when I wanted to get some important things done. And that made me so frustrated it triggered a lot of forgotten misery and thoughts of anger and resentment. I just has to sit and talk calmly to myself or rather the wise sage in me had to talk to the truculent kid. It worked. The kid finally realized that the only problem in life was a lousy Internet and the kid took the help of the wise sage to find solutions to problem. I went to bed happy. There is a wise sage and a silly kid in all of us. Sometimes, the two have to sit and talk. A lot of problems get solved this way.
Cheers and happy mylotting
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@ameng328 (66)
• China
28 Nov 09
whenever i feel uncomfortable and being not myself i'll do meditation,which helps me sort out what's going on and what to do next.In this way i can quickly come back to myself and start a new life.Reading and listening to light music can help doing the meditation and having a real relax.Be positive and you'll find not that much emotions have to be dealt with.Best of luck.
