Have you ever hurt your best friend?
By tulipstrader
@tulipstrader (1467)
India
October 4, 2008 11:01am CST
Yesterday me and my friend were almost on the verge of breaking up our friendship. I was responsible for the whole trouble. previous night we had a little misunderstanding between us and i said that i want to break the friendship for ever. next day morning she tried to make up for everything and asked me to meet. again i goofed it up. this time i just feigned as if i am very serious about ending it. suddenly she started to cry. i could not take it any more. she made up her mind to live with the reality and wished me good things in life. its at this moment reality hit me, i'm losing my best friend and pushed her into emotional loneliness once more. with much difficulty i got her back to normalcy. that 1 hour was wrose than hell for me. did anyone had such experience and how did you manage the situation.
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13 responses
@positiveminded1977 (7072)
• India
6 Oct 08
Are you a guy? Sorry, but this is typically a guy's problem or the problem of girls who have more masculine features in them. My ex used to treat me that way--as if he did not give a damn, playing hard to get, letting quarrels last for days and acting grim if I tried to make it up. Needless to say, the relationship went phut. He lost me; of course, it is his loss, not mine. I am enjoying the stress free life. :)
Cheers and happy mylotting
@vivivivi (7)
• China
5 Oct 08
i have to admit sometimes i am a bit fish-blooded. i always feel there is a certain distance between me and my friends, except my boyfriend. i always feel hurt when i first tell the girls my feeling. i thought they did not take care of it. when i talked to them, they listened for a while, and talked about their own. i know i am so sensitive and it made me decide i will never tell them more about my secret. so i hardly have any friend that need to fall out. sometimes i think it is a kind of failure.
@mercuryman3a (2477)
• India
5 Oct 08
It does happen once in a while. Havigna tiff andfighting and making up is a part of developing a better understanding. We all have quarrels, be it husband andwife, parents and children or friends. it is natural and xpected. To maintain the relationship, we ahve to make adjsutments and compromises all the time. If we are rigid, we will keep breaking up with eveyone.
@tobepure (187)
• China
5 Oct 08
sorry for you and happy for you!SORRY coz you have gone through a tough time and did hurt your best friends.HAPPY coz you did something to make up for it,and i believe both of you will treasure the friendship more than before. my friends and i also have such unhappy time.when it happens,we'll both be silent for a while and think about the whole thing.when we all have figure out the problem ,we'll smile to each other and keep the lesson forgetting the unhappiness! TOAST to the great FRIENDSHIP and happy mylotting!
@amlegend (945)
• Pakistan
5 Oct 08
i don't really know if i did or not but we are never ever close to breaking up and we have great understanding and we know what one likes and don't and that helps us and we care of it. if ever it happens then i am confident that i will go forward and say sorry and we hopefully he be ok and i pray no such day comes and friends like these make our lives happy and full of fun.
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
5 Oct 08
Well me and my bestfriend had our longest fight with a only a simple thing ( only a pieve of paper). We are having our quiz that time when we don't have our papers. She asked me to go with her and we will buy a paper but i didn't go with her maybe so she's angry and never talked to me again. Our quarrel lasted until graduation when i asked forgiveness and she asked forgiveness too.
@vijigopi (991)
• United States
5 Oct 08
I was terribly hurt when one of my best friends misunderstood me. I kept crying for two weeks, then eventually tried to forgive and forget. We talked over everything and then things came back to normalcy. I know how difficult it would be to lose a dear friend. And I don't ever want it to happen again in my life!! 
@potrish78 (742)
• Philippines
4 Oct 08
I did several times although most of them are unintentionally. When me and my bestfriend had a fight it lasted for months. We didn't talk. We never had any kind of communication and it hurts so badly cuz I've been missing her so much. I never wanted to lose my friend ever so no matter how painful it is that we actually have to fight, I will try to make peace with her. Our friendship has been tested through time. And no matter how many times have we fought the friendship is still strong.
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
4 Oct 08
There was a time when I thought of thinking all the negative stuff about this certain friend who seemed to be so immature and such a brat. I was almost decided to just let go of the friendship, then I realized that what matters most is the friendship and that we have grown up together. Then we talked about how i felt, and waited for her explanation. Then things went well.
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 08
I think everybody hurt people that they love sometimes. And best friend is someone that too close that not to be hurt once in a while. But a best friend is a best friend and they stayed even the hard times come. I know I hurt my best friend sometimes. They were hurt when we did something stupid, they were hurt when we harm ourselves, and they were hurt when we were in trouble. I believe that we hurt them not in purpose.
I believe that we were hurt sometimes to by the way they treat us or they threat themselves. But somehow, there is something in this best friend bond that makes us stay even we know that there was nothing that we can do. Because like what every best friend says, "Best friend stays in the hardest moment of your life" :)
@evonteddy (31)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 08
Oh dear, sorry to hear that. But do feel great as after both of you can solve or overcome that, yours relationship will get stronger and better. Previously i do lost my best friend because of some miss-understanding, but when i found out, it is too late. So the experience learn is never feel shy to call back or contact back he/she because best friend is not easy to find and is very difficult to built up again the existing relationship. So, all the best to you!
@jeleen_tintoy05 (109)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
Someone I thought was my bestfriend went behind my back and told bad stuff to all my other friends.We hate each other now and we don't talk at all. There crazy though they have threatened me so many times I don't even care anymore. I just go far away from them and everything turned out great.
