Is your husband your competitor?
By limcyjain
@limcyjain (3516)
India
October 4, 2008 11:41am CST
This question goes to especially those females who are themselves working woman. Although those woman who are housewives too have a key role to play but still there is lack of competition with their husband as they are caring for the house and the husband is an earning member. But where both are working there sometimes appears to be competition as to who is on a heigher post and who earns more. This needs to be taken care of othewise both would be together yet apart. There is a need to spare time for one's spouse in the busy schedule and also there should be a sense of joy at the success of the spouse rather than being jealous. Do tell me how are things at your end.
4 responses
@evonteddy (31)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 08
Hi limcyjain, you are right, both husband and wife really need to figure out on the situation when both is busy with work. For me, the competition is for good and it help both to archive higher positions and pays. Of course, it should have so called work life balance, else the relationship might get into trouble then. Actually i feel that if only 1 person is keep improving and the other not, the conversation gap might happened as the topic to discuss is lesser except household issue. =)
@benita2008 (102)
• China
4 Oct 08
In my opinion, a husband shouldn't be a competitor but a helper in the family. He plays a very important role. if as a competitor, then the others in the family will feel tense and upset.
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
4 Oct 08
Sometimes I do that. When I tell him that I don't earn much money as he do. But he always tells me that his money is mine and mine is his. There's nothing to be worried or upset who gets paid higher between us. As long as we pay our bills every month on or before the due date and we have our things that we need, for him that's already fine. That makes me feel better every time he say that. That makes me feel also that he is not a competitor for me but a helper. I love it when he tells me how proud he is for me because I really tried my best to earn and to help him even just in little ways. It is funny because he earns a lot than me, but I spend a lot than him. But for him, it was totally fine as long as I am happy and that is important.
