what does your current have that your ex didnt?
By jhl930
@jhl930 (3601)
United States
October 4, 2008 8:47pm CST
usually we have a good reason for having ex's like they do a lot of things we didn't like or they treated us badly or they just weren't for us, its usually one of those, and i know that with my current she is a good girl and thats something i can't really say about my ex because i had a lot of times when i was disappointed, so i was just wondering about all of you, what does your current other have that your ex didn't like does this one treat you better or what...etc....i want to thank you for taking the time out of your day to come by and read and review my discussion, and hopefully answer, i hope that you all have had a great week and that you have a happy and safe evening and weekend, thanks again for taking the time to come by!
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16 responses
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
Well.. Not really what my current "have" but the dates that he plan for us to do/go. I think the difference between my current and my ex is that the one I'm currently dating with takes me to the church so that we can attend mass together while my ex (whom I dated for 5 years!) never even tried or even planned to attend mass together with me. Uhmm. I can't think of any difference anymore.
best of luck
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@carolscash (9492)
• United States
5 Oct 08
I believe that my husband was just a lot more responsible and a lot more loving than my ex fiance. I can't say that there is a big diffeerence in the way that they treat me. However, my husband has shown more responsibility than the ex fiance ever has.
@huddoggzntheehouse (66)
• United States
5 Oct 08
That's a hard one and has caused me to think really hard about this- From talking to people and with counselours many times wee seek out people you may have the same qualities that our ex's have- I found a new girl and she is wonderful and I think the world of her but over time as we spent more an more time she had many of the same qualities as my ex- There are some major differences but when ther are some things that are the same- For example, I married my first wife at then court house, now I married my second wife the same way at the court house- I had no honeymoon, I was attending college and my first wife lived where we met for the first year of our marriage, my current wife does not live with me either we love apart until we find our own place- Two different people but I seem to be in the same pattern- I look for all the qualities that are special about the current one, but many things that she does is what my ex-has done-I think maybe the way we break up with the ex has soemthing to do with the next person we seek out and suconciously we look for similar traits in the new- I think we gravitate towards people who have the same interests as ouselves and much of that may be in the new one we seek out, something we like in that person that made you fall in love with the current is the same thing we found in the old- But relationships are not all the same neither are people-
@faln_angel1205 (1192)
• United States
5 Oct 08
My current has a career, and a sense of responsibility. The ex, couldnt hold down a job for very long, so he never took responsibility for anything, even at this exact moment hes living with his parents. He does have a job (for about 3 days now..lol) I am still friends with his parents which is why i know all this..and i still care about the guy, but in most aspects he is what we call "a loser" the only thing he has going for him in a relationship aspect, is he is fun, has a heart of gold, and very respectful to the women he dates. He just needs to grow up!
@geekyjock (371)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
I'm so happy with my current now (fiance). To be honest I don't like to compare but this is the first time i ever encounter this topic so I'm kinda open to make a response and compare my current with my ex. First and foremost, my fiance is way hotter than my ex (no question, sexier). A lot nicer compare to my ex who's kinda bad mouthed. My current is a person who practices good morality compared to my ex. My current is very faithful my ex is polygamous, my current loves me with what I am and what I have and my ex loves money and material things, I'm glad we broke up, because if not I wouldn't be in cloud nine right now
@emarie (5442)
• United States
5 Oct 08
wow, where to start. he has a car, money, a job..haha my ex was pretty much a loser that seduced me and didn't even treat me well, it was more like an object he could play with when he was bored. that's my ex made me feel. i actually met my husband while complaining about my ex. right now, my husband cares for me and that's more then i could say about my ex. he's sacrificed for me, and works hard for me so i can stay home and watch our children. he takes risks and protects me with everything he's got and he cherishes me.
@shana123 (2095)
• India
5 Oct 08
I dint have an ex boy friend or something but some of my friends had , they all together complain that their ex suspected them a lot , they just end up with fight only suspecting and nothing , no love nor care they had for these girls and now in their current relationship these girls can get the real love from their boy friends.This suspection from their ex' that is why they broke up
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
5 Oct 08
My husband actually listens to me. He takes what I have to say into consideration instead of just disregarding it and ignoring it. That is what my ex did. He was and still is, very controlling. He would hold things over me to get me to do what he wanted. My husband doesn't do this at all.
My husband and I are also pretty like-minded. We enjoy a lot of the same things. There are enough differences that keep it interesting though. My ex and I weren't alike at all. The only thing that was similar was that we graduated from the same school. I don't know how we stayed together 9 years.
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
5 Oct 08
Interesting question. Both my ex boyfriend and my current partner have some things in common, they are both very masculine men but in the areas that matter they are quite different. My partner loves me, cares for my welfare, he is compassionate, understanding and nurturing as well as being supportive.
My ex did not love me, had no compassion, while he cared for my welfare a bit he cared more for himself than anyone else and did not even know what nurturing was. He was a taker and who had no idea how to return what was given.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Oct 08
What does my current Boyfriend have that my ex doesn't? Me!
My real answer: Ex wasn't here with me the last 8 months of our relationship. We were trying out the long distance relationship but it wasn't working out. Now Boyfriend and I see each other everyday. He is almost always the first person I see in when I wake up and the last person I talk to when I go to sleep.
@asselg1984 (375)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
hi, i really am wondering why, why my relationship with my ex before lasted for almost 4 years when he has cheated on me since our relationship started. i guess it was me who kept on holding on and saving our relationship when in fact he always told me that "everything is up to me"..it was me who wanted us to last, just me, not him and it is sad. well, first he lied about his age, his true status like he said he just broke up with his gf, when in fact, she was really his wife, and he did not tell me the truth, i found it out when i searched his info in the internet. he fooled me but then i kept on loving him, well in fairness, he cared about my education that he sent me allowances but the emotional torture can never be paid by money. he broke my trust and so we never lasted. my current guy is too frank, he tells me his naughty side, his past and his true situation on the very first day we met, his weaknesses and insecurities. he may not be as sophisticated as charles, my ex, but he has more heart than him. i like it when he calls me many endearments like bebe, cute, sweetie, babe. and soon, we will be together I hope.
@evonteddy (31)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 08
Oh pal. Would suggest not get into compare situation as we can't compare that anyway. The reason is there don't have a measurement for you to compare that, even you can set that, when it comes to end result, it will confuse you more. Also, we can change people to what we wants. =P So, is good to focus on current and understand more and see what we can improve the existing relationship. Ex is past, then keep it for sweet memories then. =)
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
5 Oct 08
Hello jhl. My current is nice and loyal to me while my ex was not, who betrayed me after four years of being together. I am happy that I have found Miss. Right instead of the former one, which made me feel unsafe to be with her emotionally.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
5 Oct 08
Brains? Okay so maybe that's a bit harsh, but yes, like you said, my fiance treats me alot better. I feel like I am much happier with my fiance, I feel like he is already so much apart of me!
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