"Would u Agree to have a Arrange Marriage by Parents"

No I don't believe in fixed/arranged/forced marriages. I think it goes against the purpose of marriage. In marriage both partners should accept to marry the other part of their own free will. A marriage is a celebration of love and both partners should be free to decide whom they love for the rest of their life.

In the old times,my country China has the same culture.but now,it is seldom to hear that.I think you are right,your children have their own choise.

wow!!! that will be the worse thing will happen to my life if my parent will marry me to the person i never know or i never love, but if will be the traditional way, still will dis-agree, but most of muslim country they used that thier parent choice for thier merried. for my daughter i will i will let her choice for her own good.

Hello iyah. Well, I think that this all depends. If it the arrange marriage is not a satisfactory one to me, I will surely refuse it because a happy marriage is based on each other's preference. Now in new China, young people are free to choose their own marriage. But before 1949, it was a different story. Thank you for the discussion.

Well, if you look at it, arrange marriage is not good. But in a culture like yours which is arrange marriage is there, we have nothing to do but accept it. For me, if i live in Kuwait and that my parents would arrange me to marry someone, it would really depends on who I am going to marry. I will not against them at first, I will look at first whom I am going to marry and if he reach my standards. I am going to be practical here, i will say yes to marry him if 1. he is good looking 2. he is able to support me and give me a stable life, 3. if he is a good man and would not hurt me physically and emotionally. If he possess those I think it would not be hard for us women to fall in love with him. But if those qualities are not in the man they arrange me to marry, I am sorry but i will not marry him. I will do anything not to marry the guy (heehee). I hope this will not offend you iyah. Still the decision is yours. happy mylotting!

Wud agree,if i'm not able to find my guy :P Will search from my side,if i'm not able to find,will leave things to their choice(He he he Just kidding here) Well,my opinion is I also prefer arrange marriages. Love usually blossoms during our teens,we'll not be able to differentiate between love,infactuation or lust at that age,most of them(don't want to generalise)will not have mental maturity at that stage of life. Marriage life is just a probability,it can be good or bad depending on the understanding and other factors. Arranged marriages will provide us some moral support from our family side. Trying not to hurt our parents who spared their life to make ours is also ethical,they'll not harm :) Good luck 4 ur future

no I wouldn't agree to it. the only person who has the right to choose a life partner is the person themself. only they can tell who they love and who they want to be with forever. yes, parents can look at it from a less emotional point of view, but that's no way to choose who to spend your whole life with. advice from parents is valuable in such situations, but the descision must always be made by those whose lives it effects most. I am glad to hear that you will be allowing your children to make this important choice for themselves, and I hope they will always be able to turn to you for help and advice without feeling you'd take such a choice away from them.

Hello iyah10, I don't agree with arranged marriage. It was practiced here long time ago, during my parents time. Even my mom and dad married after being arranged by their families. My late father told us once - he won't look for daughter/son in law for his children and we can choose whoever we feel right for us but never ever get the parents involved later when we have problem in marriage life in regards of our choice. He didn't want to hear we complain about the man/woman that we chose personally. I have a boy right now and when he grows up, I will let him choose himself and never will arrange someone for him.

I would never agree to an arranged marriage. I do not think that who a person marries should be chosen by anyone other than the people getting married. I think arranged marriages are wrong.

yeah why not?but most adult or if you are in a right age no need parents to arrange it.in my case we did our own.or lets say my hubby did it

hi "Kaif a haluka" & there is Answer in Islam & World The Best rule is Guys Married With Love But Girls Married with arrange system because Guys more than intelligent for girls & girls are very weak for Choose Our Partner Happy my lotting.

that will never work for me... i hate arranged marriages... my stepfather is a chinese and i know that arranged marriages is very common to them... he used to always pair me up with his friend or somebody he knew.. whenever he does that my temper really bursts! and i always tell my friends or my sister that if the time comes that he will really pair me up with someone i don't like, i will really stay away from my family... and i will hate him for the rest of my life... hehehe

i will be more then happy to have an arrange marriage settled by my parents because they have grown me up and they know me better and they will chose the right one for me and i have the right to say no and then i believe that they are more successful then love marriages as the level of expectation is very high n the love marriages and that is why they don't last very long. just an opinion

hell no! why would i marry someone who i barely know or i don't know at all. i love my parents so much but i will never ever let them control my life. i am the one who will live with the person they choose for me. if i became miserable with him...will they feel bad for me? will they blame themselves? will they do something about it?

Absolutely not, not, not! I would chose my own partner or not get married at all! No one going to tell me who to marry. It seems kind of pedophile-like for your parents to be telling you (their kid)who to sleep with, in my opinion.

I think arranged marriages are wrong. If a person makes the choice for themselves then if that is the wrong choice they have no one else to blame. I certainly wouldn't want to marry someone who I really did not know.

I couldnt do it. I don't think I would be very happy in that kind of relationship. People should be able to choose for themselves who they want to be with. I want to know who I am marrying, what they are like, what they don't like, etc. What if I like cuddling and he hates it? You know what I mean? I don't want to wake up in the middle of the night and look at a strange man next to me. Arranged marriages maybe ok for some, but not my cup of tea.

Hmm. I don't think I can accept an arranged marriage. As I don't like to be forced in doing something that I don't like.Even if its arranged, I prefer to get to know the future other half first. See whether can it work out not.

I could not even imagine it. I could see that parents may want to play "matchmaker" by introducing their child to someone they admire but to go so far as to set up a marriage to someone that you don't love would be very creapy to me. I realize that other cultures feel differently and if I came from somewhere else and this was a normal occurence in my surroundings, I might feel differently.I have to say though that I admire people who have done this and have made successful marriages out of it.

maybe, i do not want to accept that. as for i am 23 years old ,every one think it is time for married,my youger sister have a baby this year,my older sister all married ,only me. but i do not want to married arrange by my parents. also ,my relative or any others also ask me to have blind date.i won't go before,i wait they find one suitable ,maybe i will go to see. lol....