Do you have (and use?) locks on your bedroom doors?

@mommyboo (13174)
United States
October 5, 2008 3:01pm CST
Did your house come this way, did you install them yourself, or do you not have them at all? Are they the sort you can jimmy open with a knife, screwdriver, or do you have keys? Did you disable or remove the ones on your kids' doors? I recently heard that it is illegal in California to have locks on bedroom doors if they are on the outside so the person inside cannot get out. We have locks installed on all the doors, but they are the kind you can easily unlock from the outside with a screwdriver and from inside from just opening the door or turning the handle. I like door locks for privacy purposes, but that is just my opinion. What do you think?
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@Humbug25 (12540)
5 Oct 08
Hi there mommyboo Every door in my house has a lock on it but it they are the type of locks that need a key. I took the one out of the bathroom door because I was scared one of my son's might lock themselves in there one day and I would not be able to get them out. My son's understand that if my bedroom door is locked then are not to come in because I am pobably getting dressed so they wait until I open the door again.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
6 Oct 08
Maybe it would be good to have the sort of lock you can pop with a screwdriver on the bathroom door lol. It's too bad that locks are sometimes needed to have privacy but I'm grateful for them on occasion!
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
6 Oct 08
There are o locks on my bedroom door, but someitmes, I wish there were. Unfortunately, my doors are not the kind that one can easily install locks on, nor does my lease allow it. I had locks on the bedroom door in my old house, and though it didn't get locked all of the time, it sure was nice to have that privacy.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Children just don't understand privacy, or the need until they get older. They also develop that awareness at different times - my little sister and her friend were changing after running in the sprinklers one afternoon, I think she was about 5, maybe 6. Our brother, who is about 15 months older than her walked in the room to get something and her friend started FREAKING OUT, screaming yelling 'there's a BOY in here, there's a BOY in here!!' My sister whips around going 'WHERE?? WHERE? What are you talking about?' Then she goes 'oh, that's just my brother'. Her friend was turning red and grabbing at her clothes, I don't think my sister even cared.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
6 Oct 08
It's always nice to have that privacy OPTION when you need it. That's odd that a lease would not allow door locks? Is this an apartment or a house rental?
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
6 Oct 08
It is a house, and the lease does not allow us to make any changes to the house. We could create something that is not permanent, and we occassionally do, but ou privay only comes after the children are sound asleep.
@katkat (2378)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
All the doors on our house have locks and you can only open it with the keys. I always locked my room as I don’t want any member of my family sneaking in my room. For me my room is my place and I don’t want for others to see it. I am privacy in my own room.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
14 Oct 08
Makes sense to me! Some people swear by the fact that people respect closed doors, but all it takes is once when somebody does not respect a closed door to make you decide to use a lock. Better to MAKE SURE nobody invades your space than to hope that people will respect it. I do hope for the best but I prepare for the worst lol.
@fwidman (11514)
• United States
5 Oct 08
There are locks on both bedroom doors in this house. One was there when I moved in, one was put in when Shelly and I swapped rooms with the child. I don't really care much for locks on bedroom doors, but Shelly wanted one so that the brat couldn't just come in the room if we were fooling around in bed I don't know why anyone would want a lock on a door that would prevent the person inside from being able to get out. Isn't that called prison?
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
6 Oct 08
LOL! Well... I hear you totally on keeping the kid out of the bedroom at uhm... certain times when you don't want disturbances. We have locked out our twerps too from time to time, only one of them will then start yelling and sticking her hands under the door and complaining that she can't get in, and the other one will turn up his stereo really g-d loud to drown out the one yelling that she can't get in. Mood killer Anyway, I did just mention a scenario such as if your kid is a sleepwalker who opens doors regularly and wanders outside, and if they are really little, it can be a safety issue. Another reason might be if you have a kid who regularly destroys your house whenever they get mad because you told them no about something, so being able to contain them to their bedroom (without anything which they could damage or hurt themselves with) would clearly be an excellent idea.
@fwidman (11514)
• United States
6 Oct 08
I've never had a sleepwalking kid. A wife, not a kid Yep, kids can be real mood killers at times. Bummer
@sandra966 (269)
• Spain
11 Oct 08
We have locks on all the bathrooms, but we never use them. If the door is closed, then knock if you want the person, or come back to use the room. We never had a lock on our bedroom door, but once when we were 'in the mood' our daughter came running in from a nightmare and almost caught us out. When I told my sister, she suggested we buy a lock - which we did. Now, no surprises.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
14 Oct 08
As always, the best reason for a lock... lol! Kids will think somebody is being hurt otherwise!
@dookie03 (578)
• United States
5 Oct 08
Yea we lock our doors everynight. To the house and to our bedroom. Luckily for us we have one of those damn dogs that bark at every little sound. I think it's a sense of security for us since i grew up to lock your door everynight before you go to sleep.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
6 Oct 08
We always lock the house, in fact sometimes it is locked even when I'm home lol. I don't have a four legged shedding noise maker but that would indeed alert you to anything out of the ordinary. Some of my neighbors have dogs and I have been woken up before because the whole PACK of them are barking. I think I have a neighbor somewhere over the back who leaves in the middle of the night for work. I can't figure out another reason all the dogs begin a racket like they do.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
5 Oct 08
I did not know that it is against the law in California to have locks in bedroom doors. I have locks in bedroom doors for privacy reasons mainly. Although we never really lock the doors. When a door is closed it is already a sign of no entry and whoever wishes to enter has to knock on the door.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
6 Oct 08
I heard that it is only if the lock is on the outside so that the child can be locked in with no way of getting out. I can understand this might be a problem in the event an emergency happens but under normal circumstances, it would be no cause for alarm. I mean I don't know what you'd do if you have a kid who sleepwalks constantly and manages to get outside the house and they happen to be three years old. I really think that people should consider the reasons why someone might have to physically prevent their kid from getting out of a room, into the rest of the house, or outside while the adults are sleeping.... I don't lock my door very often either because I simply expect others not to barge in. If someone has shown a tendency to keep barging in though, then I will lock the door and ignore them if they pound on it.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
6 Oct 08
i am not comfortable to have locks on the bedroom doors. for the most part we all knock on the door before we just go inside. i don't mind the doors being closed, but i am not ok with my children locking themselves in their rooms. i am all for giving them their space, but locked doors, no i am not comfortable with that. I don't have a lock on my bedroom door and my kids know to knock and wait for me to answer before they come busting in.
@greysfreak (1384)
• United States
6 Oct 08
My room has a lock, and the extra room that would be my computer room but it's full of stuff from when we moved here, that has a lock, but whoever owned it before put it on you can tell. It's a lock that slides into a little thingy on the door or whatever. I'm not sure if my mom's room has a lock, I'm thinking it doesn't. We a double-wide mobile home on a permanent foundation, so it isn't like a typical house, but it's nice. I sometimes lock my bedroom door, but I try not to because I think about what if something happened and my mom couldn't get in to help me. You know? Not likely, but I'm paranoid. Actually, that is usually the same reason I lock my door, sometimes late at night or when I'm alone I will lock it if I'm having an panic attack. We live way out in the country, so most likely nobody is breaking in, but during those bad moments, reality doesn't really account for much. I do feel slightly safer when I lock my door, it's just a psychological thing I guess. There is a little "key" thingy to open my room and the bathroom locks, it used to be in the bathroom, until I had a panic attack one night and got it out of the bathroom and put it in my room. LOL I swear I'm not crazy, just a bit paranoid at times, sometimes nightmares tend to trigger my locking the door. I think door locks are a good thing, for safety and privacy purposes. In my case, I have a lot of privacy to begin with, no brother and sisters or kids, just the dogs and cats.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
6 Oct 08
Since you don't have to worry about your privacy being violated, it doesn't matter as much lol. It's good to hear from you btw, haven't seen you around lately!
@littleone3 (2063)
5 Oct 08
No we don't have any locks on our bedroom doors. My children know that if our door is closed it means they have to knock before they come in. And when we leave the door open they know it is alright for them to come in. I always knock before i go into their bedrooms as well. Have never felt the need to have locks on the bedroom doors.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
6 Oct 08
See, I never barged into my parents' room when I was a kid, and even as an adult were I to visit, I still wouldn't. To me that's disrespectful unless you knock. We leave our bedroom door open most of the time, and expect people to knock if it is closed. We do lock it though sometimes when we don't want someone coming in when we ignore the knocking.
@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
6 Oct 08
We have locks at home. I think it came with the house already. I mean, you eed to get a door knob for the doors right? And all knobs naturally have a lock built in? I don't know I've never really seen a know without a lock. But anyway the point is all our rooms have locks and we lock up every night before we sleep to guard against intruders.
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
6 Oct 08
Every door in my house has a lock on it, it is the type of lock that you can jimmy with a screwdriver or knife. I never lock my bedroom doors, I have no reason too I live a lone. But when my grand boys (the twins) come over if they are having a little fight they will go in one of the rooms and lock the door, put a sign up (Keep Out), to keep the other one out of the room. Gotta love those grand children.
• India
6 Oct 08
I have locks on my bed room door for privacy and security both. Although thehouse is locked whenwe go home, we put a lockon the bedroom door too as all our valuables are kept there. i do not permit any domestic help to come to our bedroom. i do not like people prying around specially when are not at home.That is why I like to keep the bedroom door locked.
@shoeb000 (321)
• India
6 Oct 08
no, we dont use locks in bedrooms. there isnt any need for that.
• United States
6 Oct 08
hi I have inner lock for the bedroom...but it can easily be opened if needed.It have a lock inside and generally we dont use that.We just keep the door for our pivacy and nobody will enter the room untill we ourselfs open the door back.If they are in urgent need of me they will knock the door inorder to enter the room.So i think we have nothind to do with our bedroom locks.
• Philippines
6 Oct 08
Yes, all the doors in our house got a lock, the type of thing that needs a key to lock it. However, we didn't lock all of our bedrooms doors and only lock it for privacy purposes. Like me, I only lock my door when I'm changing my clothes, but other than that it stays open especially in the afternoon, I close the door as well but not lock it when I wanted some peace and quiet when I am sleeping or working.
• Philippines
6 Oct 08
yeah. my mother makes sure we are all safe so she bought locks. nowadays, people prioritize safety because of the growing number of crimes committed so i guess it's just right to make sure about everybody's safety.
@mapi26 (549)
• Philippines
6 Oct 08
there's no special laws here in our country so it's a good thing. i'm a complete lock freak. when i was still living with my parents even though i was only in highschool back then they allowed me to lock my own room. and since i lived in a boarding houe when i was in college, we need to lock our rooms so that our things will not be stolen. now that i live in our apartment (with my hubby), we still make sure to lock our bedrooms whether we're alone or not. i guess not only an i a lock freak but i'm afraid of other people. i keep my privacy as well so cloasing the doors for me is my own way of safety.
• Philippines
6 Oct 08
No locks. Only on the bathroom and outside entrace doors. Don't think they are necessary. When a family is together you should have all have enough respect for each other to value their space. If a bedroom door is closed for privacy then respect that and if you want something, knock first. Someone locking themselves in a bedroom kinda give the impression you are hiding something.
• Australia
6 Oct 08
Yes, we do have locks, but in our family on the parents are aloud to lock the doors. My parents have a No Locked door rule. But just like you, our locks are easy to open with a screw driver but family members know that if a doors locked, you knock on the door and wait. its interesting to hear that it is illegal to have bedroom doors locked, friends of mine actually installed the locks on their kids bedrooms the wrong way around so that the kids couldn't lock them selfs in their bedrooms.