people you went to school with

I have experienced this before. I think they just don't know what to say. One thing I always remember is that we're all grown up now, it isn't 10, 15, 20 years ago when there was that adolescent angst and urge to fit in and be perfect blah blah. They may have changed a lot and honestly been glad to see you. I can say that my first initial reaction is the same as yours, to blurt out 'you know, I didn't like you in school, why would I talk to you now??' but I try not to lower myself to the level they were at back then.

I have experienced this before when i've bumped into people I originally knew from school. Because I have changed so much in my appearance since the school I often find many don't recognise me and I won't go out of my way to talk to someone if I spot someone I knew from school and wasn't keen on back then. Although some people in the past have spotted me and are so over friendly it often leaves you wondering why they are being so nice. Have they suddenly grown up during those few years you haven't seen them....hard to believe. A couple of months ago on my usual gym visit a girl I used to know from school started working there behind reception. She never once spoke to me during my time at school and suddenly she's acting like my best friend inviting me to her new fitness class she holds at the centre every Thurday evening. I have never taken her up on this offer as I am sure she doing it just to make conversation.

Every once in a while I bump into someone from school. It's never very exciting because I don't miss school or any of the people there. Not that high school was bad, but all of the people who I was friends with and want to see, I still do. Not because I bump into them but because we are friends and still spend time together. There is no one in particular who I liked or hated, I'm just neutral about them all. I've had one person do that- act all excited as if we were long lost best friends, and I barely knew her in school. I guess some people are stuck in the glory days of high school and want to relive it and pretend everything was fabulous. For me there is no nostalgia associated with high school.

What you didn't say is how long it has been since you graduated and how long since you had seen her last. People do mature with age and as things happen to each of us in life...or should I say, as life happens to us, we start to realize that the way we behaved in high school wasn't the right way to behave. Maybe this has happened to her and she might have been genuinely happy to see you.

I had a similar experience at a class reunion once. I didn't understand why this former cheerleader, who had nothing to do with me in school, suddenly felt all chummy with me. But, being an adult I let it go and chatted with her. My near future should prove interestiug. I moved away from my home town in 1978. Now, 30 years later and I'm planning to move back there. I'm sure I'll run into classmates at the store and such. And I'm not really sure I want to. LOL

I believe it's been a long time since you have left the school. School time was a wonderful time. Though we thought we were restricted from everything at that time, we are much more free at that time than now. We didn't have responsibilities like we do have today. We must have had many friends at that time of many types. Some today, after many years are in different states in the society. Why do we need to have those ideas now also after many years? People might have changed a lot. Meeting somebody belong to that age is a treamendous joy for me, be him or her was a good friend or not.

Maybe through life she has changed. Maybe she knew she wasn't too nice to you in school and was just trying to be friendly. I know a lot of people I have run into that I went to school with was just glad to see someone from their school days. We all change as we go through life, and maybe we was a snob in school, and I think school and the kids makes one that way. Sometimes we have to live up to the image. But then as we go on we get a different outlook on life, so she could of just been trying to be fiendly. Maybe you should of forgotten what happen a long time ago and be friendly back.

I bumped into someone I went to high school with the other day as well. We were in marching band together. As I recall, she was picked on quite a bit by a lot of band members, and I was just generally accepted (though by no means the most popular member of the group). I don't remember actually participating in the picking on her, although I might have a couple of times. I know that some of the people I hung out with WERE among the ones who picked on her most often. I imagine that she might have felt the way you do, about bumping into me. I wouldn't blame her if she did, actually. I may not have been mean to her, but I never did anything to stop people from doing it, either. But I was genuinely happy to bump into her. She changed her hair color and style from high school, and it looks really good on her, so when I complimented it I was being genuine. Maybe she was being genuine. Although if she was a snob in school and hasn't changed, maybe she thought that she was being nice by giving you an opportunity to be seen with her. Wasn't that nice of her? LOL

This has happen to me over the years but you know what we are all adults and things that happen in school is in the past. I speak with them in a welcoming tone because it is always good to see the persons that I attend school with and to catch up with their lives. You know sometimes the snobbery ones are the ones that are not doing so well.

Well I guess she still thinks she's all that because she assumed you were friends. Just because she recognized you and knew your name, doesn't make two people friends, or even acquaintances. You say she wasn't so friendly in school.. Some people just don't change. Maybe she has no clue of how she appeared then and now! If that's the case it makes me feel kinda sorry for someone like that. Yes, it must have been very uncomfortable for you. Congrats on doing the right thing

I think that i would do the same thing you did and just listen to her and be friendly to her. I am sure she was just excited because she recognized you. She probably assumed that you were both adults now and mature enough to get past all the high school stuff and have a mature conversation. I have ran into people that I used to go to school with that I did not get along with so well and I have done the same thing. Have a nice day!

I have meet people who are my schoolmate before. I dont actually say hi to people i dont like so most of the time they didnt anymore talk to me since i am obviously ignoring them. But if a person i didnt like in school will talk to me and was nice i will be polite and just be civil with her. Anyway it is already part of the past and perhaps she might have change already.

Hello dustinnikki, i once met a person from my school at my local library, fortunately we were great friends back in school. We went to get lunch together and i had a great time!

Now it is a real word.You will be lost something if you only do what you like. Once more it is simple era in the school. It is not benefit and it is friendship. You can try to make friend with them,you can do it .I believe you!

i know how you feel as things like this have happened to me in the past too. if it is someone who was not nice to me in school and is basically just being nosy trying to find out about your life and what you have done with it i would just say hello and say i was in a hurry and have to go. if they were genuinely changed and have become nicer over the years i would chat for a bit but that is all. sometimes people are snobby in high school because they do not know better and go with the "in" crowd so to speak but people grow up and can realize the error of their ways too.

i run into people every month at the store and i dont say anything maybe i should and see what happens. dont think of that school person anymore. they all change who knows maybe you will like them now instead of then. everyone changes sometimes for the good. next time go for it and see for yourself. take a chance and see where it goes.

I Often met friend from my junior high school, and i was the one who said hello and started the conversation because in the past i was a very shy person, and they didnt much recognized me. for me, it is good can met an old friend, coz there must be a lot of things can be talk, and it doesnt matter whether in the past he was your enemy