why Cant We Tell Our Grown Children We Love them?

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Hatley how sad. My husband also had a heart attack but he is fine now. It brought us closer because we know life is precious. You just never know when the last time you will see someone.

My mom was also my best friend. We always told each other "I love ya!". I can not recall the last time dad told anyone he loved them. Even to mom. I still tell dad I love him though. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~

hi gardengerty my dad never said it not ever, I bent over backward toplease,got a A why wasnt it an A plus, made best in English why didnt you make best in math, and on and on. He didnt approve of the man I married, he didnt approve of my having two children in 11 months, he didnt approve of the list goes on and on. maybe he neve got approval, my mom did all the approving but my dad did really approve of my first born he would carry my son around and brag to everyone hes my grandson so he did approve of something I did after alol.

hi grandpa bob yes I can remember learning your daughter was minnie, and thinking what a wonderful relationship you two had as mine with my dad was really bad, and I always felt bad about it but we could never seem to get it mended, He did something to me when I was a kid that was unforgibeable but in his older years he wou ld not apologize but he seemed to mellow more towards me. if I had wanted to I could have turned him in for what he did, but I was only 8 and I did not w ant to hurt my mom. anyway I just wished it cou ld have been different. mymom and I were very close.

hi yes its so hard to say positve things and yet we can sure pop off with the negatives but we need to really make our grown kids know we mean it from the bottom of our hearts.

hiprarie style I have told my son that a lot lately and he aways turns red and gets shy but I think he does like it.

Hi PrarieStyle, I like your answer and I am not going to say this to try and change you. I just wanted to share something with you. I have three grown children, ages 28, 26, & 25, I tell them I love them all the time. I also tell them that I respect them for the adults that they have become. Yeah, I raised them, but I can now see which things they learned and kept and which things they decided I did wrong, so they choose not to do them. The other thing is I quit years ago telling my kids that I was proud of them. I realized that pride takes responsibility and when they make their own decisions it is their responsibility whether it is a good decision or not. I tell them that I am honored to be their mother or that their behavior or decision or choice has honored me as their mother. I really think it has made a difference in our already good relationship. I agree with you in the fact that we don't, as a whole, tell our grown children often enough when they are doing it right. God bless. Rev Wendy

hi agrant yes older generations were raised to show but not to talk about love, and that was okay but I made up my mind to t ell my husband and son and little daughter that I loved them often I am glad that I did.

thuhuong I think this varies in our different cultures also as in our US we do tell each othe how we feel, and dont worryabut it making usdependent.

revwendy hi yes for a lot of parents its so hard, never heard my dad say that but my mom did say it often to me. I s ay it often to my son. too.

hi tess I also dont know why p eople find it so hard, I have always told my hubby when he was alive how much I loved him, and I often tell my adult son I love him and am proud of him.

hi belk I always love it when the man in the family has no problem showing his love for his mom and his wife and kids as some guys find it so hard.

hi jackiew those threewords are the best in ourlanguage.

hi rogercarie yes I brought about the change too, altho my mom oftent told me she loved me, but my dad and grandad never did.I always told my kids and they liked thattoo.

hi joe yes it is easier to say how you feel on the internet, I agree with you therel

hi nana arent computers great to keepin touch I do that with my son a lot too. we mothers generally are ones to make sure our kids always know we love them no matter what. my mom could be upset with me but she always told me she loved me anyway.

hio barbietre true there is nothing stopping you from telling your loved ones how much you love them. no matter if you may have had words, you c an still overcome that.

bhebie when you get to be twenty you will think your parents are really smart. lol then you should tell them how much you really care. when I w as your age I had a hard time relating with my dad. but it got better as I grew older.