Why Can't People Let people Grieve!!

I don't know about Canada, but here the states her boss would not be able to legally treat her like that. I wish I could remember the name of act that enables people to take time off for things like medical leave. I would think that grieving would go under it. I know some places of empolyment have a Leave of Absence. They don't necessarily get paid, but depending upon their position can have a week up to a year off without losing their job. Now, they might not have the same job when they get back, but they will still have employment. I do agree with you though, if she really doesn't need that job, I wouldn't want her to go back to work there. The guy has no compassion.

OMG how rude and careless this boss of hers. I think she really needs to quit that job of hers. That is horrible not to let his employee time to grieve especially the person she lose is her 9 year old daughter. I really think that she could find a much better and caring job there is out there. I hope this boss of her would not encounter the same problem as she has.

Most companies have some sort of bereavement time they allow employees. I'd say this boss is a cold hearted human being and report him to a labor board or ethics committee in your area. It's like you said, some people just don't care. Please let your sister know that some of us understand what she is going through. My thoughts and prayers are with her. Losing a child is very hard to do.

hi Bluebell. am sorry to hear what you shared. i feel for you and your sister. i hope she's all better now. she's lucky to have you by her side. grieve with her. it's not easy losing a family. whoever her boss is, i hope this doesn't happen to him. so that he won't feel how difficult it is to wake from grief. just to share, from where i work, employees are given bereavement leave. it's a human right. plus it's part of the the right an employee or a laborer. it's even stated in most labor codes. in the first place, work is second priority to life. God! how insensitive. what a selfish little world. just to sympathize, your sister doesn't need the yelling and definitely doesn't deserve that kind of a company. if such management can't respect what is due to a person, then they don't need her services. the least thing they can do is treat her that way. hopefully your sister carries on with life in the time that is perfect for her. for now, let her weep. as a sign of love for her child.

first, i am very sorry for the loss of your friend's daughter. i have had two loved ones die of cancer and i know it is a terrible thing to watch someone go through and suffer with. i can only imagine how it must feel, on top of that, to have it be your own child, and at such a young age when she still had so much ahead of her. :( that is truly tragic. now i have to say, what the heck is wrong with people? you are right- some people are only out for themselves and that is too bad. it's awful that your friend has to deal not only with the tragic loss of her young daughter, but on top of it deal with a jerk of a boss who obviously cares about no one but himself. she really should quit. can she? i would have a hard time not telling him off if it was me! i know it is probably not the right or the best thing to do, but some people just deserve it! honestly, though, it sounds like no matter what your friend did, it would not phase him one bit. i hope that he goes easier on her. tell her good luck!

You Should Have Called Her Boss And Told Him "Get A Life" Freak. Leave The Whereas Report This To The Authorities. Call 911. He Should Be Punished For Using Abusing Language And Threatning. He Gotta SIt Behind The Bars For A Long Time. According to the law you may take a leave of a week For a family cause Maybe her Boss For Got THe Law

That's really shocking. That man has no heart and you are right, she should tell him to stick his job, But are there no laws there which give employees the right to take time off work for reasons of bereavement? I am horrified by that man's callous attitude to her loss and his attitude to her as an employee as well. He's treating her like a slave who has no rights at all. She should take the time off that she needs to grieve and see what he does then, there's always the chance that he'd tell her he's sacking her then she could sue the sod for unfair dismissal.

OMG BlueBell! I'm in tears at the moment because I can't believe that your sisters boss is treating her like this!:( This is very disturbing that there are people like your sisters boss who have zero compassion and no heart. I have worked with people like your sisters boss before and I ended up quitting my job because these people are so mean and heartless to people who don't deserve such treatment. I really can't tell you why there are people like your sisters boss because people that evil I don't understand because logic alone cannot explain such appalling unbelievable behavior. Your sister deserves to grieve! Losing a child is the worst thing that can ever happen to a parent and this jerk of a boss needs to be put in his place.. Your sister needs to quit because she doesn't need to be working with such a nasty heartless person. If you believe in karma, then this mean boss will get what is coming to him. I'm so sorry about your niece.You and your sister are in my prayers.

Hi BlueBell, I have never heard of such a thing happening before and surly your sister can get a job somewhere else. This is not a good place for anyone to work and such a person should not be a boss. In recent years more and more companies are realizing that the better they treat their employees, the more productive they will be. I have a friend who lost her son in an accident a number of years ago and her boss told her to take all the time she needed. It was probably more than a month before she felt well enough to go back to work. Blessings.

I think the boss is a jerk. People should not yell at other people. In my country there are instances of abusive bosses being massacred by their house help. It is usually those bosses who are very abusive and the helper becomes crazy and kills everyone in the household.

That is terrible,I feel so sorry for your sister and your family.She needs to take time to grieve and then find another job,then quit without notice.The heck with him/her that is no way to treat a parent that is dealing with what she has been going through.Shame on him,we can only hope that God will take care of him in the end.Your sister needs to move on who wants to work for people who have no heart. God bless you,I wish you well.

That's so sad. My condolences go out to you and your sister. I can't believe her boss could be so insensitive. It's not like it's some far relative or something, it's her child. He seems to just want to use his workers like a work horse. I agree with other comments that he should be reported. When someone is in grief they don't need that extra stress. He should have been understanding and I'm sure if it were his family member he would have been. It's really sad that there are actually people out there that are like this. I'm not going to say that you're sister should quit because I don't know her financial situation and I don't know what job opportunities are for where she lives. If I were her though I would try to look for another job and hope that the people there are more understanding. :(

I am really sorry for your loss !! I think your sister should stop working under that boss !! He seems to be a moron and doesn't really care for people !! I have never heard of such cruel boss who doesn't care for their employees, He should let her come back to work when ever she wanted, atleast he should have some sympathy for her loss !!

I am really sorry for your loss !! I think your sister should stop working under that boss !! He seems to be a moron and doesn't really care for people !! I have never heard of such cruel boss who doesn't care for their employees, He should let her come back to work when ever she wanted, atleast he should have some sympathy for her loss !!

Is he born without heart and only with brains? The mother has lost her small child , wont she take sometime to get back to work , she is physically and mentally down , how cruel is the boss , i have never heard of any such cruel idiots so far , that job is really not needed for you sister , ask her to search a new one and quit this ! Will he do the same for his child too? when your sister quits the job ask her to ask this question face to face to his boss.By reading this including me many mylotters have felt sorry for you and your sister , then why the people who are very known are acting so stupid.. i cant imagine it.. !!!

First let me offer my sincere condolences. Loosing a loved on is bad enough but to lose a child is just devastating. My heart goes out to her and her family. I hope she can put her faith in God and remember the joy she had in what little time she was with her. As for her boss.... Oh my Gosh, He must be the boss from hell! I would have told him to F-off. I don't usually get mad at people like that because I try to see their reasoning but this time I would have lost it, big time. But I would still have taken my time off and he could just fire me. I then would have signed up for my unemployment. People like him live a lonely life. Now we see why. Thank goodness she has you to stand beside her in these days of sorrow.

OMG I can't believe he doesn't have a heart to allow your sister some time off, she lost a daughter/her child - geez, what a horrible boss. I know I wouldn't be working for him if he did that to me ... show some compassion aargh some people!

If i were your sister i will leave that work. Some people just dont have the heart and her boss is one of those people who dont have feelings at all. I wonder how did your sister able to work in that kind of environment knowing that her boss is a mean person. He obviously doesnt have a family or perhaps doesnt have anyone who loves him. Coz he happen not to care at all that your sister is grieving and in need of her time to recover. She deserved to be treated with respect.

I don't think in his csae that preventing her grieving was the issue. He is just an insensitive brute. If she has an alternative she should leave that job. People like that should not be in her world. It is too bad for him that he has such a black heart.

My deep grievances :( In this fast moving world such things have become so common. Emotions and relations are being given the least preference. MONEY brings this difference. Such type of ppl will never bother even when they face such sitution. But not all r d same. There r also true caring good souls out there. Hopefully ur sister shud meet such ppl in her life here afterwards. My prayers with her.