unable to handle my daughter
By mummy111
@mummy111 (6)
South Africa
October 7, 2008 2:52am CST
my daughter is 14 and a handfull she is rude, stubborn and backchats. this morning i lost my cool and hit her. talking to her taking away favourite things, or sother forms of punishment just does not work. she is ADD and i know that has nothing to do with the way she is. my son is 19 and not a days trouble. i do not compare my son to her because that is wrong, but geewiz i am at my end she has been like this from a little girl and i tried handling it in different ways she is untidy and just plainly refuses to do as told it is always "i will do it now" and it never happens. she does not have any friends beause of this. and does not get on very well with others girls her age as they are at this stage into boys and some how she is still a bit immature. i had her at group therapy as well.
4 responses
@iamnes (324)
• Philippines
7 Oct 08
this is a tough one. when i was growing up i can say that i am a handful also, i am always being punished and scolded but i kept on getting into trouble. these days, i realized that i was doing the same mistakes and troubles because i never fully understand why i am always being reprimanded. i just thought that my mom is just always on my case and doesn't want me to be happy because she never experienced a happy childhood. after looking back at all the events and the things that my mother did and told me, i realized that we just lack communication and understanding. my suggestion is, when you talk to her and teach her - explain to her what she is doing, what's wrong with it and how she can improve her ways for her own good and so that she won't get you upset. talk to her in a calm way because if you do it loudly, it would only upset her and she would not want to listen to you at all.
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@masquedxangel (99)
• United States
11 Oct 08
Hate to break it to you but she's FOURTEEN. She's probably flying on hormones, bratty, annoying, all the frustrating crap that comes with being a teenager - remember?
My mom whacked me pretty good too when I was that age and it sure did get me to shut up.
I really hate seeing "she backtalks" though. REALLY? You're going to get mad because your kid is wittier than you are? Let her have her say. Words are useless anyway, if she still does what you tell her? Pft. Let her have her words. Small victory.
Does she really love the internet? Cellphone? Reading? SOMETHING she loves is prey. My mom used to take away the internet for me. Sure got a reaction when it was "clean your room or you don't get online."
I'd say she may have ODD, which goes with ADD, but that usually comes in young childhood. Honestly, though... I think she's just a teen. Chicks are INSANE as teens. And I know all the sensitives now whine about how you should never strike a kid -- PFT. My mom got a lot of good hits on me, and I never LIKED it but I sure did learn a lesson.
@CyberSlave (180)
• South Africa
7 Oct 08
Sounds like she has an attention disorder, obviously! But on a more serious note sit down and try to find the root of the problem and don't hit her it won't help! It could have adverse effects, either she'll become more reclusive or more violent herself!Be patient and try offering some kind of reward to encourage her to fulfill her promises and if that doesn't work see a specialist! I'm not an expert and I might be wrong!
