Have you deleted a myLot friend in your list? Why?
By Morning Girl
@salonga (27775)
Philippines
October 7, 2008 5:05am CST
Well I just did and this is the second time! Why? One major reason why a friend will be deleted in my list is when he takes in vain the name of Jesus in his discussion. I have always given the name of Jesus the highest regard he alone deserves. If therefore a friend take his name in vain...for the sake of earning money here, I have no recourse but delete his name. I have all my friends' notification turned on so that if their posts hit my interest I could always respond. However, I can't tolerate reading from my e-mail a post that use the name of Jesus in non-sense discussions.
How about you? Have you deleted a myLot friend so far, what would be your reason for deleting a friend?
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44 responses
@super_jj (1416)
• Philippines
7 Oct 08
Well, first off, i enjoy being in mylot because of the sensible and fun discussions i reply to. And i also make it a point not to post stupid discussions. And i would say that, although it's great that we are earning here with every discussion of comment we post, i'm not really here for the money only. The money is just a benefit. So i deleted this one friend i had who was obviously just here for the money, Although i dont mind that most of his discussions were, i'm sorry, mostly stupid, i just got annoyed when he had to post i discussion almost every minute! My friends discussion box was full of discussions from one person, and i could not see the ones from my other friends. It was quite annoying. He just kept posting and posting and posting! He doesnt even bother to comment on the responses!It got to me because i enjoy two-way conversations here in mylot, not polls or surveys. It's the traffic of ideas and opinions that attracted me here and that one "friend" ruined it for me. So, i had to delete him on my friends list.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
7 Oct 08
Ha!ha!ha! I like you! You are so frank and yet you talk with sense. Well, that is indeed annoying. You seemed to be a very sensible person so you cannot really jibe with a senseless one. I can't blame you if you deleted that friend. You have all the reasons! Ha!ha!ha! Thanks for making me laugh!
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
7 Oct 08
I do agree with your line of reasoning.I would not tolerate someone to make fun of my beliefs by mentioning in vain the name of Jesus Christ. I try to respect everyone and their opinions. But I do require that my opinions are respected too.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
Thank you friend for sharing the same opinion with me! I think we are all entitled to our opinion and we have to respect others as well. Deleting friends who are putting the name of Jesus in very offensive topics is a prerogative of mine so although I do not meddle with their own belief, I just can't tolerate making friends with them still and let their vain discussion on Jesus flood my email! Thank you for your kind understanding! Have a nice day!
@walijo2008 (4644)
• United States
7 Oct 08
I haven't deleted any friends so far, I don't think I would, but it would have to be a very good reason for me to delete them, like the reason you gave here. If someone takes the name of Jesus in vain, then I would have to consider deleting them, I feel as you do, I hold Jesus in high regards in my life. Have a good day
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
I also thought I wouldn't be doing that. I thought I would keep my friends inactive or inactive as long as I am here but I was so offended with topics that put the name of Jesus in senseless and malicious topics. I can't keep friends like that. I am so glad you also give high regard to Jesus. God will bless you for that. Thank you for sharing!
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
7 Oct 08
yes, i have. one woman i deleted ididn't like her attitude, very bossy & know it all. i deleted a guy that was trying to get a little closer than i wanted him to.
@zhuuraan (961)
• United States
7 Oct 08
I don't mean to be so critical, but that's a little bit of a harsh reason to delete someone. Not everyone is a Christian and not all that are are so quick to judge others. If someone is a non-christian, of course they aren't going to believe the line about not taking the lord's name in vain or whatever. You gotta realize there are people from all walks of life here and if you sit there and nit pick over religious little things like that, and it's not even a major issue, then you are violating another section of the Bible that says thou shalt not judge. According to my knowledge, it is your responsibility to live by the teachings of the bible and your responsibility to not take the lord's name in vain. It does not matter what others do and if you believe in god, then he is the one who will judge his children, not you or me or anyone else
Now, to answer your question from my point of view, I used to delete inactive people, but not really anymore. I usually only delete people now if they only start discussions that violate the rules, like one liners, or if they send me a bunch of spam PMs or something, which nobody ever really has here. Those are things I can do without. But, if someone in my friends list has a differing point of view from me, and even if it causes a slight conflict, I might be a little irritated for a bit but I won't delete them because I realize we are different from different walks of life and often different countries so our perspectives won't always be the same. Still, to me it is fun to get to know a slew of different people and get to know what they think, even if it differs from my own thoughts. It's how we can better ourselves by learning about and understanding others, even if we disagree with them.
I am sorry if this response sounded harsh as it was not meant to, and of course you are entitled to do what you want, but you asked for everyone's opinion and I gave it. I can be very opinionated and occasionally offensive without even realizing it which is a bit of a failing, but I hope you don't hold it against me. Nice discussion!
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
"Thou shalt not take The Name of The Lord thy God in vain; for The Lord will not hold him guiltless that taketh His Name in vain." (Exodus 20:7 )
It seems that you have gotten so overwhelmed that you went to the extent of disputing my major reason why I deleted my 2 friends. Kindly note that I am NOT asking your opinion on that particular issue. I am only asking why you will delete a friend or if you have already deleted. I am not asking you if my reasons are okay with you. That is my reason and I am entitled to that just as you are also entitled to yours. However, inasmuch as you have disputed my reason then I hope you will not mind if I dispute your opinions as well. This is a healthy discussion and I hope you will not mind if I would. First, I want to tell you that the friends I deleted are taking the name of my God in a topic I found so offensive. As the Bible verse was written on the heading of this post, I want to impart the importance of this commandment and how severe would be the punishment of those who violated as implied in the commandment itself. I know my Bible and I know how holy the name of God is. Jesus is my God and he deserves the highest regard in my heart. I don't care about how those 2 ex-friends take Jesus in their own life. I don't meddle in their belief. For as long as they are not asking my opinion on their belief then I will always respect their personal life. But what I can't take is letting their offensive discussions on Jesus flood my mailbox. As I said I am putting all my notifications on because I want to give first priorities to discussions of my friends. Now considering the fact that I have such a high regard for Jesus... then in the morning as I open my mailbox I would see discussions that will destroy my day... don't you think that would be so unfair for me? Why would I keep friends like that?
I also want to tell you that I did not do any judgment here. I just performed an action to which I am entitled. Anyone here is entitled to add, to accept, to deny and to delete any friend depending on his own reasons. So I found your quoting the Bible on thou shalt not judge, out of context! Sorry you have to read more to know how to apply that verse before using it. I am not doing any judgmental action here but rather I am using the wisdom given to me by God. God has given me the wisdom to discern what is right and what is wrong. I know that taking the name of God in vain is wrong so why would I tolerate seeing those discussion enter my mailbox? You are very wrong in saying that it does not matter what others do. That will of course matter to me if the vain things he is is talking about my Lord keep flooding my mailbox! If you love your spouse so much and then you read an e-mail each morning about a topics that put your spouse the object of joke in a discussion or in a hypothesis not fitting to the decency of your spouse will you not ever get affected and will you not delete those e-mails and put that person's e-mail address in the Block List? Now if that will not affect you at all then that is your life and you are entitled to your own feeling. However to me that is not tolerable so I have to do the needful! I have enough discernment to know for myself what is the best to do and I am decided to perform all action in accordance with the order of the Lord. I hope you just respect that just as I respect yours. Good day!
@mrsgoodygoody00 (895)
• United States
7 Oct 08
I don't have that many people in my friends list yet, and that's just fine by me. I see people with over hundreds of friends, and I don't know how they can catch everyone's discussions that way. If I should ever get too many friends, I will delete some of them probabably especially if I have no reason to keep them.
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@austere (2812)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
nope, i havent done that.. an di hope i wont have to. i have a lot of friends here and i am proud to say that for most of them they have been really helpful. they respond to my discussions and they send me messages if they have new sites that helps me earn.. so far so good is what i can say.. but i were in your shoes.. guess i will be forced to delete that friend as well..
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
It's nice to have helpful and supportive friends. I hope you gain more friends of that kind. It's always a pleasure to add friends but deleting some can't be avoided especially if you have valid reason. Thank you for understanding my reasons. Have a nice day!
@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
7 Oct 08
well, not yet. so far i never delete a friend from my list. i just let it there. anyway, if sometime i decide to delete a friend, it won't because of his/her religious orientation. i will delete it if i think they do improper things like sending lots of referral links, never commenting on the respond of their discussions, using improper words on their post etc.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
7 Oct 08
Well for one I hope you did not misunderstood my post. I will not delete any one for religions orientation... I have an atheist friend here but she is very sensible and she post sensible topics and never did malign of make a joke out of the name of Jesus. What I can't take is a foolish discussion using the name of Jesus. It does not have anything to do with religion.
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@momforwork (161)
• Philippines
7 Oct 08
Hi friend...
Well it would be rightly so for you to have done that. If he were on my list of friends, I'd definitely do the same. Religion and God, no matter what affinity, are matters well taken with reverence and respect...least of all common courtesy.
Other than this, I haven't really had any untoward experience to delete a mylot friend yet. I'd probably just turn off the notification first.
Happy mylotting...see you around...
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
Thank you my friend for understanding my stand! I appreciate it! I've always been patient with friends...but when it comes to lack of respect to Jesus...that I can't tolerate. It's a good thing you have not had bad experience yet with friends. Hope that remains! Have a nice day!
@animeniak (425)
• United States
7 Oct 08
I never deleted myLot friends from my list, and frankly speaking, I really don't get the purpose of requesting to add people to your friends list, when you really don't know that person. If I had one great conversation with another person over myLot (maybe by chatting or soemthing like that) then maybe I would consider adding that person to my friends list. (speaking of which, I really don't know why I have been adding other people to my friends list when they requested to do so, pretty hypocritic rite? lol). well that's my little response there. happy mylotting :)
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@zhuuraan (961)
• United States
7 Oct 08
You don't have to search through today's top to find them, they are in the friends started section. But yeah adding friends is a good thing whether you know them or not. Think of it as a foot in the door toward getting to know more people. If they aren't in your friends, the odds of them finding your discussions and getting to know you are minimal, but if you add them to your friends, they can go to discussions my friends started and see your discussions that way. I normally only accept people I have seen before though, like ones I have responded or who have responded to me.
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@amlegend (945)
• Pakistan
7 Oct 08
just one and i haven't been here for so long but it seems ages to me.i deleted that friends because he used to say in the end of his discussion please please reply and i hate that and i hope most of the mylotters will. if one is here to make money, no problem we are all making some but one should not show that he/she is desperate and wants our posts but they should make some that will attract others to reply them and they are showing that they have less confidence in their abilities.
other than that 1 i have been very busy in making friends and not deleting them.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
It's difficult to maintain a friend who look likes money! Well you can always delete any friend that does not go by your standard. We all do have certain kind of standard when it comes to friendship and we are all entitled to deleting anyone who did not pass that. I understand your point. Thanks for your contribution.
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@JOIEMARVIC (2335)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
i agree with you,forsaking Jesus name is a major no no..i would also delete my friend if he does it to..We should always pay respect to each and everyones religion.We may believe in different things,have different religions,but we should respect that.
Me,i have deleted a friend in my list beacause he put my countries name in
vain and is still continously doing it,though he avoids mentioning the name of my country again,but still makes fun of it..
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
I appreciate you for having reverence to Jesus name as well. Thanks my dear! So you've encountered people here putting our country's name in vain. I hope I can encounter his post one of these day so I can stick a knife into his throat. We Filipinos should depend our country here! Calling all Filipino, please be with us!
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
I still can't find! Well, maybe I should search more, thanks for the tip!
@JOIEMARVIC (2335)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
the truth is,he as well as his bunch of friends is making fun of our nation...go to the new discussion category..you will find it unless its deleted..
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
Welcome to myLot jelai! I hope you enjoy your stay here and hope also that you have good friends who will not give you problems! Soon you will understand my post once you get used to myLot. Happy lotting!
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
17 Oct 08
Hello, salonga.
I'm sorry to hear that one of your friends has not pleased you with their words. In more than a year of myLotting, I didn't need to delete any friend of my list. I can't remember if I have done it before, but if I did it was because the friend was not active anymore. Then it is better to delete them.
Actually, I am not pretty sure of who is on my friend list. I just know that there are faces I'm regularly seeing here, making posts. Faces that I feel glad to respond to, when checking the "Friends started" discussions. Others are really inactive, to the point of never appearing in any response nor creating any discussion.
Respectfully,
Munhozmib.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
Hi friend! Nice to hear from you! You make me laugh when you say you don't know who is on your friends list! That is very true to so many here. But as for me I try to memorize my friends and you are one of them. Well... I also have inactive friends but I never delete them. I keep them because although they have been inactive they never said or posted anything that hurt me so I treasure them.
@gloreymay (882)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
I haven't done it yet so far! I hope that it will not happened! I want to keep my friends as long as it can be. Take care!
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
Hi! Nice to hear from you. I hope you keep your friends list intact for long. Take care too!
@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
Hi there!
I have never deleted a friend in my list. So far my friends list are fine with me. All of them are posting nice topics. Though some aren't active and missing right now they will still remain in my list.
My friends list have been chosen very carefully. I don't accept a friend request right away. I give them about a week to decide and check on their profile first and discussions started cause somehow I would know what kind of person they are. And if they aren't active enough they're request will be pending even if it takes months. I'd rather not accept a friend in the first place rather then delete them after.
But if ever I would find a friend of mine making bad posts, I will turn off his/her notification and would never respond to that user anymore.
Ciao!
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
I think that is a smart way of keeping a good list of friends. I think I learned something from you. I always approve anyone's request for friendship because I thought it would not hurt me in the first place. I can always delete if they misbehave but now I realized I was mistaken. Thank you for your useful views!
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@LadyStrawberry (173)
• Slovenia
16 Oct 08
No, I haven't - but then again I haven't been that much on MyLot...
Also, I don't remember anyone of my friends posting anything offensive... If they did say things that would show a lot of prejudice or hateful speeach toward any race or creed or color I would probably delete them too...
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
Hi! Yes, you haven't been that much here and it's a pleasure hearing from you again. I'm glad you have not deleted any so far. Your reason for deleting a friend should you would...is quite valid. I'd do the same!Thanks for sharing! Have a nice day!
@don_naces (464)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
I only have few friends. I have not tried deleting any one of them. If I do't like their discussion, I will not reply. I do not want them to be offended.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
Well I hope you get more good friends here. It's good you have not deleted any. It's good to avoid offending your friends but I hope they too will avoid offending you so that your friendship remains. Have a nice day!
@sati123 (184)
•
14 Oct 08
No have not yet. I am new here and I think I am not familiar yet with here but the reason why you delete your friend is I think valid, some people have different beliefs and to you taking Jesus name in vain is no good, I respect you fully and if I will encounter some one that would talk about things that I have high regards I think I would the same.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
Oh thank you Sati for sharing. I appreciate as well that you understand my reason why I deleted those friends. Certainly my reasons are valid because they did not respect the name of Jesus and I would not want to see the same discussions again in my mailbox so I deleted them. Thanks again and hope to see more of you here!