my responsibility as a daughter
@damsel_prerna (863)
India
October 7, 2008 10:33am CST
my parents want me to marry someone they decide for me.. even if i dont like him much.. should i marry him.. they say that they know what is right for me and i have know doubts in that.. i am sure i will be happy with who ever i marry.. but it is important for me to know that person i am going to get married to.. help guys?
2 responses
@Galena (9110)
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7 Oct 08
no. you should never marry someone you don't like. it's bad enough if your parents are expecting you to marry someone without being in love with them, let alone that you don't even like.
they may say they know what is best for you, but they are not the ones expected to live the rest of their lives with this man, you are. only you can truly tell if this is someone you can be with forever. and if you don't like him now, what kind of a future can you have with him.
this is YOUR life. not your parents life. and if you do not want to marry this person it is nothing short of barbaric if your parents try to make you.
@damsel_prerna (863)
• India
8 Oct 08
you are right galena.. but i dont like him because of his looks.. and i dont know him as a person.. do you think i should say no because of his looks.. thanks for responding..
@Galena (9110)
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8 Oct 08
it depends how important looks are to you. the thing to remember is a good looking person will age, just as much as a less good looking one.
there is no harm in getting to know him, and seeing if you get on well. in most situations I would say it's not wise to marry someone without knowing them for several years, and if you tell your parents you need time to get to know him before deciding, then hopefully they will see you are taking a sensible and thought out approach to it.
and if you find you don't want to marry him, then they have to respect that. any parent that would try and push their child into an unwanted marriage is not a good parent, and doesn't want what's best for you, whatever they're saying.
@damsel_prerna (863)
• India
8 Oct 08
yeah thanks i will surely let my parents know that.. tc.. all the best in life..
@faye070574 (45)
• United States
8 Oct 08
i don't think you should! being a good daughter doesn't rely on obeying everything you're told. it's your life we're talking about here. i would suggest that you talk to them and explain your heart out. who knows they might understand you and change their minds eventually. good luck!
@damsel_prerna (863)
• India
9 Oct 08
thanks faye.. i really need good luck.. thanks a ton.. all the best in life.. tc..
