Can ex's be friends? I need a guy to English Dictionary!
By bcote212
@bcote212 (1112)
United States
October 7, 2008 1:44pm CST
So I was with my ex for 6 years and we decided to call it quits. It was me that ended the relationship, but soon after I realized that I had made a mistake and wanted him back. Of course he did not want that, and a few months later started dating someone. Now after dating this person for something like a month he wants to be my friend again. He even stated yesterday "We could be like Vince Vaugn and Jennifer Anniston in that Breakup movie." I need a guy to english dictionary, anyone have any idea what he is saying? And can ex's actually be friends, or get back together?
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6 responses
@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
9 Oct 08
well, the relationship is over and he has found someone new. i think he wants to move on with his life. don't read too much into what he is saying. i didn't watch the 'breakup' movie so i'm not sure if they got back together in the end. if in the end you got back together it's great. but if you start a friendship with the expectation of getting back together, you might be sorely disappointed in the end. also, the expectation might drive you to do something out of character. finally, yes to your question about whether ex's can become friends and the get-back-together part. good luck :)
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
Well, there are some people after the break up can be a good friends but there are some don't want to be friends with their ex.. I think it depends to you if you want him to become his friend and accept him in your life not like a boyfriend but only as a friend.. In my situation, all of my ex's never been my friend after the break up since I hate them so much and most of all we didn't end in a good way.. For me, it is really impossible for us to be friends especially if there are hatred...
Of course,it is up to you whether you want him to become your friend.. Maybe, he was trying to get you back.. You never knew if may be still in love with you.. I don't know, this is just my opinion..
@kaleegirl45 (1515)
• United States
7 Oct 08
hi bcote,
some people can become friends while others can't stand the site of each other.
@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
9 Oct 08
According to page 455 you cannot be friends with an ex, he'll only want to sleep with you because there are no strings attached. I suggest just ending the friendship because he'll be lonely for somebody and you're familiar and if your lonely then it won't be too hard to fall back for him since he'll probably use the moves on you that worked on his other lady. Just chalk it up to an experience learned and a lesson taught.
@bwaybaby (903)
• United States
8 Oct 08
My sister and one of her ex's are friends now after not talking to each other for, like, a year. I think it is possible for ex's to be friends. I talk to guys who I kind of dated a couple times, but I never really would call them my ex, since I didn't really think we were dating exclusively.
I haven't actually seen "The Break-Up", so I don't quite know what type of relationship they ended up having in the film.
@jacobs12 (72)
• Philippines
7 Oct 08
As a guy myself I think he's making his move to be close to you again and hopefully get you back. How do I know? I somewhat did that before when my gf and I broke up because of my stupidity.. I tried to be friend with her for a long time and finally I got her back.