is a perfume a bad gift for your girlfriend's birthday?
@sutanhartanto (4122)
Indonesia
October 8, 2008 4:39am CST
because it implies that we want to say "you are smell!"
and you gals are not to gift a watch to your boyfriends in his birthday, as it means you think he always late.
years ago, my friend had a nice girlfriend. they are love each other so much. i think they are a nice harmonic couple. once the girl were celebrating her birthday. my friend planned to buy a perfume for her and he told me the plan. i say, a perfume will be a nice gift, but please try another gift. he did accordingly, trying to find another suitable gift but he didn't get better ideas so he ended up buying the perfume. he gift the perfume to her girlfriend on her birthday and they ended up breaking up....the girl break him up.
do you think the girl's decision is reasonable? is it true that a certain gift has a certain meaning so we have to be careful in choosing a gift for our beloved one? is there any other "dangerous" gifts besides the perfume and the watch?
thanks in advanced for sharing your experiences and thought 
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
12 Oct 08
Well.. I bought perfume for my partner not so long time ago, I don't think that it is a great idea, because it turned out that perfume is actually expensive LOL. I don't believe with those superstitious of 'dangerous gifts' but I don't want to take the risk. If someone gave you those dangerous gifts, the only way to 'break the curse' is by giving the gift giver a coin.
The other gifts that are dangerous if given before marriage:
- shoes = you want them go away from you
- clothes = you think he's not stylish
- cosmetics = your make up sucks
- toiletries = you need to go to bath
- underwear = i want to have s3x with you
- razor = shave!!
- a picture of another girl/boy = yeah! that's not a gift, that's a breaking up sign definitely!!
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@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
12 Oct 08
LOL, so the price that makes the perfume dangerous hahah...
wow, i didn't think before that gifting a gift can be so complicated and tricky and dangerous. but even if it's not superstitiously dangerous, why do people gift toiletries, razors or a picture of another girl/boy? LOL.
well, using the common sense like you, i think i won't give these gifts:
- bracelet : you want to tie her hand and bound her.
- necklace : you want to tie her neck and bound her.
- music concert ticket : you think she cannot afford to buy the ticket.
- cotton buds : clear
- mouthwash : clear
- slimming tea : clear
- complimenting "you looks so young!" : you think she is old already
- complimenting "you looks beautiful with the dress" : you think she looks ugly without dress
my goodness, so the safest gift is greeting "happy birthday?" LOL.
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
13 Oct 08
LOL. that's so funny LOL. Now if you can make that, the safest gift is to bring nothing, say nothing and just make a surprise party for them so that they don't have any time to think about the meaning about anything LOL. Ah LOL, I can't stop laughing about that.
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
16 Oct 08
LOL. NO!! Even a surprise party is something bad. I don't know what to give. Maybe a gift card, or a voucher would be fine. She can take whatever she wanted LOL (and maybe she would say that we're to lazy to find a birthday gift and doesn't care about her anymore... oh let's not celebrate anything..LOL)
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@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
9 Oct 08
flower 
why didn't he think about that? thanks for inspiring!
why didn't he think about that? thanks for inspiring!@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
10 Oct 08
yes, i heard also that different flowers have different meanings. anyway, what's bad with the fully bloomed rose? it is wilting soon?
@diansinta (7544)
• Indonesia
9 Oct 08
"You are stink!" hehehe just like this 
ninja emoticon. Heheheh
I don't think its relevant. For me any gift is a blessing to got a gift from someone.(now give me one!) Hahahah But connecting with people nose is very sensy somtimes. Perhaps from the scents she can't tell that this guy aren't connecting with hers. He smell it good, but for her,... bleh! or she even sneazing.
Like me , you will be surprise that i likes axe better that- that she lalala
honest.
ninja emoticon. Heheheh
I don't think its relevant. For me any gift is a blessing to got a gift from someone.(now give me one!) Hahahah But connecting with people nose is very sensy somtimes. Perhaps from the scents she can't tell that this guy aren't connecting with hers. He smell it good, but for her,... bleh! or she even sneazing.
Like me , you will be surprise that i likes axe better that- that she lalala honest.
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@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
9 Oct 08
LOL, does a ninja usually gift perfume to his girlfriend?
yup, i agree with you that a gift is always a blessing regardless whatever it is. i got your point. perhaps the girl didn't like the scent, as the scent didn't fit her and cannot represent her personality.
but you prefer axe? then a beautiful girl in your internet cafe will act as if she loses her cellphone, borrow yours to miscalls her number just to let you know her number and expect your upcoming call LOL.
yup, i agree with you that a gift is always a blessing regardless whatever it is. i got your point. perhaps the girl didn't like the scent, as the scent didn't fit her and cannot represent her personality.
but you prefer axe? then a beautiful girl in your internet cafe will act as if she loses her cellphone, borrow yours to miscalls her number just to let you know her number and expect your upcoming call LOL.
@djoyce71 (2511)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
It's not a bad gift. Anything given by heart is a great gift specially if it was given by someone beloved. I would accept it even if I don't like the smell.This is just me.
I just appreciate it so much when somebody gives me something, whether it's cheap, expensive or little things. It makes me happy. They're special to me, so I keep them.
This is just me.
I just appreciate it so much when somebody gives me something, whether it's cheap, expensive or little things. It makes me happy. They're special to me, so I keep them.@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
13 Oct 08
that's so sweet, and that's true. it's not the gift which matters, it's the heart behind the gift. i read a fairy tale about that. for some reason, a beautiful girl which is a member of a royal family pretend to be a poor homeless girl, wandering around her family's kingdom. and she find a simple and nice guy, and they liked each other and became friends of each other. what made her happy is that the guy like her for her beauty (she "looked" ugly in that time) or her attribute as a member of the royal family.
sometime the guy attend a party. eating and having fun in the party, the guy remember his friend, and he took a patch of meat and keep it in his pocket. the next day, when he met the girl, he gave the meat as he now that the girl is not so easy to get food for herself. the meat smelled and spoiled already, but the girl received and eat it happily. and, yeah, as it's a happy ending story, they ended up loving each other
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
13 Oct 08
I gave Boyfriend an expensive watch on his birthday during our first year together. It's been the only watch he's worn since then and we've been together more than 5 years now. He hasn't given me a perfume/cologne or any type of cosmetics or clothing because he thinks they're more personal in a way that he won't really know for sure if I'll like what he gets me (and he's illiterate when it comes to these lady stuff). But I've always enjoyed everything I've gotten from him. I think the MOST important thing in buying a gift for someone else is the thought itself. I don't know if your friend getting his ex-girlfriend the perfume the only reason for their break-up. If it was, then it's a pretty shallow reason, in my opinion.
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@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
16 Oct 08
you guys are really a sweet couple. and your boyfriend played safe. i will also use his strategy: avoid gifting lady stuff. i prefer drive her to a mall and let her choose what she like.
your boyfriend played safe. i will also use his strategy: avoid gifting lady stuff. i prefer drive her to a mall and let her choose what she like.
@genihanna (358)
• United States
8 Oct 08
Perfume is okay just as long as it's not cheap perfume (cologne) - but perhaps present it in combination with something else - perhaps a perfume gift set, or perfume and a necklace, or perfume and a day at the spa or just perfume and a really thoughtful card. I think your friend's girlfriend more than likely broke up up with him for more reasons than just the gift she received.
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@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
8 Oct 08
that's a good idea to give the perfume combined with another gift (
but a necklace is expensive LOL).
well, i think you are right that there are other stories behind their breaking up. i think the perfume was just the visible part of an iceberg. thanks for responding.
but a necklace is expensive LOL).
well, i think you are right that there are other stories behind their breaking up. i think the perfume was just the visible part of an iceberg. thanks for responding.