Do you believe that you can still be friends with your ex after broke up?
By ajaxian
@ajaxian (94)
Hong Kong
October 8, 2008 5:25am CST
Hi all, there's always a saying like 'after goodbye, we are still friends' in my country. Do you guys agree with this? In my own experience, I tried to be nice and friendly to her but I think she did not really want to talk to me after we broke up. I really want to keep a friend like her but well, things seem not to be going as I wanted to. Do you guys have similar experiences to share or any opinion on the saying?
3 responses
@lalaine829 (113)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
hello ajaxian...I think its possible to be friends with your ex, in my own experience I remained a friend to him and vice versa and it works well for both of us. On the other hand, others find it difficult to be friends with their ex and it depends on how the couple parted ways, there were those that parted in not so good situation that's why it's difficult for them to remain friends and there were also those that parted in favorable situation for both party so it's much easier for them to be friends again. Moreover, I believe that time heals all wounds and as for your situation perhaps you have to be patient and wait for the time when shes ready to be friends with you again and while waiting enjoy life. :-)
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@lalaine829 (113)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Thank you for sharing that to me ajaxian.. Congrats and good luck in your new relationship. :-)
@ajaxian (94)
• Hong Kong
8 Oct 08
Hi lalaine thanks for joining the discussion. I agree with you that this matter really depends on how the lovers broke up. If they broke up because any one of the side did some bad things to the other, it's almost impossible. So I would hereby put the focus on 'peacefully broke up' lovers. And that's also in my case. So I just cannot understand why she tried to avoide me. Well may be that's how girl treat love. Anyway, time will tell and in addition, I am now having a very good girlfriend.
@the_ruler (1442)
• Turkey
8 Oct 08
It depends on some conditions in my opinion. If the issue is between two people only, then it is up to them and sometimes it is possible, sometimes not. I mean, I believe it is depended on the type of relationship you had with him, or her.
If you loved each other so much, shared so many private, personal things, had real important experiences together and broking up with a very big sadness of at least one of the sides, then I can easily say you can't be friends anymore. You should stay away from each other since seeing the other one will be a cause for his, or her mate.
Friendships are also important things and I believe it can still be shared if you had something more friendly with your ex. You know, there are some relationships and they usually look and work like friendships. So, if your relationship is on that way and it is going on in that way naturally, then that means you are not meant to be lovers, and the nature is pulling you two towards a friendship.
So, if the relationship is finding an end, it will already give the signals whether you can stay as friends or not
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@ajaxian (94)
• Hong Kong
8 Oct 08
Hi the_ruler welcome to this discussion. Like I replied in the second reply, I agree with you about the "broke up reason" theory, which means how they broke up would eventually made them friends or foes.
One more point to add, if the lover relation was developed starting from friendship and they broke up peacefully, they are more likely to become friend more easily again.
