I can't get over with my EX
By yarababe1
@yarababe1 (34)
October 8, 2008 11:20am CST
It's been 9 months since my EX broke up with me and until now I still can't move on. I have tried so hard to forget about him but whenever I'm alone, his thoughts keep haunting me. My mom even feels the same way. Everytime I see her she would always ask if we saw each other or if we still talk. These questions add more to my burden. It isn't the thought that we've been together for almost 4 years that makes me feel this way. It's more of the thought that we could no longer be together because he is now so stiff that he won't consider of reconciling with me. I was a good gf and I know even him won't question that. It just gives me an irky feeling that I was left alone for no acceptable reason at all. I don't know until when I could carry the load or if a time would still come that i'll forget about the feeling but the sad thing is I'm stuck to it.
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5 responses
@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I know how it feels when something controls your thoughts, but you sound like a really devoted person, and I don't know a single person who wouldn't kill for someone to be devoted to them! You would never cheat and you would stand by someone else, someone who could also be devoted to you. Think about what's important. You don't need him to make you happy, do you?
@yarababe1 (34)
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9 Oct 08
I wish that there will come a time that he realizes my value the way that you do. Thank you!
@granmeme (162)
• United States
8 Oct 08
Believe me you will get over it just go a day at a time. Sounds like part of the problem is their was not any closure. If your bf no longer cared as much for you as he use to and wanted to break up that is a reason in its self. I know it is hard to accept that someone can quit caring but it does happen people are always changing and growing in different directions perhaps this what happened. Talk to your Mom and tell her it bothers you to be asked about him. Explain that you are trying to get on with your life and you need to be thinking of other things. Go and and do things with friends, read good books, go the the movies, start walking. Do things that keep your mind off of him and try not to go to the same places you went to as a couple or the places that you are likely to see him. Seeing him and knowing how he feels will just make you hurt more so stay away if you can. Good luck and I hop the pain lessens each day.
@yarababe1 (34)
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8 Oct 08
Thank you! Your response really made me cry. I'm at work right now and everyone's asking why tears keep falling. By you giving me an advise made me feel that someone understand and care somehow. I'll do everything you said. I'll let time manage my ways and by time that I could no longer feel and remember the pain I will go back to this page and update you guys. I just really hope that this experience will make me stronger and be a better person.
@yanny2008 (56)
• China
10 Oct 08
it takes time to get over ,when the love can retrieve back,the only thing you can do is to do what you usually do ,cherish every moment that you can cherish,the past has passed already,I should become what we are really ! lucky!
@breezinthru43 (8)
• United States
8 Oct 08
eventually you will not think of him as much, it just takes time. It took me about a year to get over my ex husband. I still think about him sometimes and every now and then i run into him somewhere and i am not upset any more. it has been 3years now and i remember him but don't get upset or cry.
@ziggyngr (14)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
some say that time can heal all wounds. it may take time for you to move on but i think eventually you will. what you need to do is to focus on other things. people tend to think that you're incomplete if you don't have a love life. but it's not the case. i bet you have a lot of friends and career to look up to. the right man will come to you and you'll see, by that time, you can finally say, "this is it. i'm over my ex." as per your mom, maybe she's so used to seeing you and your ex together. trust me, she can move on as well.
on the other hand, as i see it, you're still thinking of reconciling with him. come on! it's 2008! if you still love him, tell him. at least you would not have any regrets. no what ifs. it will now depend on him, if he still has feelings for you or if he has already moved on. if he had moved on, then maybe that's the closure that you are waiting for you to move on as well.
it's a matter of decision making and setting up your priorities. a matter of eating your pride or just let the situation be.
