How has divorce affected your adulthood?

I know staying together can be just as damaging as divorcing, my parents being a prime examples. They were rarely if ever happy, and it really effected us. My own divorce has hurt my kids a great deal, mostly because I can't talk about the reasons for it with my teenagers who really feel the need to know after nine years. I've always taken the blame, but they're figuring it out on their own. So, I guess, even though my folks didn't actually divorce, the seeds were there and it effected how I approached everything. Too long a story, but I believe it's really what ended me in divorce.

Unfortunately a friend of mine is passing from a separation. His three children are divided. Two are staying with him (they preferred to live with him and not with their mother and a strange man inside their home) while his eldest daughter is staying at her mother's house who lives with her boyfriend. The kids seem divided and wanting the attention of both parents. They don't seem to have problems at school, they are well cared for, all they lack is the attention of their mother.

My parents divorce when I was 14, and I myself was divorced after 19 years of marriage. My kids suffered a great deal because of it and I pray that they will be able to make strong marriages that last. They did see how I hung on and tried my best, though, and did not file for divorce. So they know that a person should try to salvage a marriage and also that one should be very careful whom they marry. I hope they'll be okay.

Hi bamakelly. I am divorced and remarried, 22 years this time. My first son is from my first marriage. I feel so badly to this day about that, concerning my son because there is nothing like the natural love of a parent. I didn't keep my son from his dad. It was his dad who stayed away, even moved away. My son was so "awkward" at social things, I think because of that void of natural love he was insecure or felt awkward, unsure. I have seen it with lots of kids. My son has gotten better and is a productive person. I Thank God for that.

i havent had any divorce yet and dont plan nor think of getting a divorce but i am a product of a broken family. there's no divorce in the Philippines and my parents sure cant afford to file an annulment. anyways, it's really hard for me and my siblings but we were mature enough despite our age to accept it coz we're tired of watching them fight all the time

My parents divorced when I was 2. The divorce didn't affect my life as much as my father not ever taking any kind of a part in our lives has. He lived 2 miles down the road the entire time I was growing up. He still might live in the same house for all I know. Not having him in my life is the main reason I choose the wrong man to marry, resulting in my getting divorced too.

I found that my parents' divorce when I was a young married affected me emotionally for a long time. It made me distrust my own marriage. I had a hard time figuring out what to do with my feelings about it. I became depressed. My husband had a depressive illness, but he is the one who called my broken state to my attention, and it was because of him, and his honesty with me, that I got through it and stayed married. Sometimes, you look at something bad and just remember that that is what you do not want to do.

Well my parents have been together for 27 years, so not in my house has divorce affected us. But I did know cousins and friends and other family members going through this. When I started dating my boyfriends mom was going through a divorce from her second husband. I learned a lot about the laws, the greed, the grief, the stress, and everything thing that went with it as she was like a mother in law to me and it was affecting our home life. She started sleeping at our house and invading our space which made us split up. Her stress was taken out on us and we suffered from it more then her it seems. She wasn't happy so know one around her could be. I learned everything I ever need to or want to know about divorce. So far it has only been break ups for me. The guy I am with now is pretty good and were looking into buying a house and settling down. I have never had that before so I hope things turn out and we don't need a divorce if we ever get married. We have been together for about a year and known each other longer then that. So we figure a house is our next step.

i have become productive in spite of divorced parents, but it took me 4 divorces of my own anyway, i see no difference in how kids turn out because of divorce. you see kids turn out the same in different enviroments and/or experiences. i think it just depends on a persons reasoning about things in their mind and how their mind processes things.