is everybody basically selfish?

No i cant agree that everybody basically selfish. because i knew very well about me, i am not a selfish. But if i am lost to anyone, i will make a promo myself that i should beat him in future. But i agree that i was made selfish on my enemies once upon a time. ie., before 10 years, when i am a school boy. every man may be selfish during one of his period. but, some peoples are always.. & i am not the second type, in nature..

i guess your pertaining to love to one self.selfishness has somewhat a negative impact to others.of course we really need to love our selves more than anyone else.in this way,we do not lose oyr selves,do you get what i mean,our identity.and loving one self should always come first.if you dont love thyself,you cannot say that you are loving another person completely.

I use to be a lot more selfish then I am now. I was pretty self absorbed also for years, but after having my son I pretty much changed. Having chidren make's you less selfish and self absorbed because you don't hardly have any time to think of yourself all the time when you jumping up every few minutes to tend to you kids in one fashion or another. I think this happens with most good parents. Then after you become a busy parent you stop for a few seconds and think " Wow, when was the last time I've done anything for me?" then when it get's to the point to where you can't even remember the last selfish thing you have done yourself, you try to make it a point to do something for yourself weekly, even if it's a visit to you're favorite restaurant without the kids. Sometimes we need to be selfish so we don't lose ourselves in the daily madness of life.

I dont think everybody is selfish. Some people dont have the heart to be selfish. I for one can say that i am not selfish. I dont use other people to succeed in life or to have a better life. I dont think being selfish is good either. I think loving yourself is not selfish. We should love ourselves before we give love to other people. It means you have to value yourself first and know at what point in your life you think its enough. Sometimes when you give your everything to someone you can be possesive and you on the other hand cant be happy at all since you have lots of fear. You have fear of rejection and you cant handle pain. That is the reason why you should not give away your everything without leaving some for yourself. And that for me is just right and is not a selfish thing to do. I agree that some people can be selfish since they dont care of anything but themselves but i dont think everyone of us has that kind of attitude.

I respect your opinion, may be you have you own reason or may be you have encountered such bitterness with those person around you which you have trusted before. Honestly I understand how you feel. I'm hoping you may find genuine care and love soon. Personally I believe there are still person who can give unconditional love.

i believe that in every person in this world...there's this side of us that we are selfish. even kids are sometimes selfish, ya know :)

We all need to look out for ourselves, but not if it will cost someone else something. I don't mean we need to make sacrifices that will hurt us just for someone else, I mean we need to watch our for ourselves, but not get so swept up in ourselves so as to hurt someone else.

Im not so sure I do agree with you. I was brought up to not be selfish. Thou at times I guess I could be and should be. I used to be the type of person that always put myself last. I have slowly changed that and if that makes me selfish, I guess so be it. Im not one to sell love short or other people. I however have come to learn I need me time, which I dont know if it is selfish to go ahead and have that time or not. Either way I do and I dont regret it as it gives me a break and Im able to come back home more relaxed and ready to deal with 3 teens and 2 babies. Im also not out to impress anyone, I have never figured out people that do this. It would seem to me to be to much of a chore to act as something Im not and I have enough chores .. lol I also believe the more you give the better you feel. I dont mean money wise either, just being there for someone in need or helping someone if you are capable of doing so.

actually i think tht everyone should eb n are selfish because at the ned of the day its we who gonna make our presense.....though there are some people who are not much selfish but...they are mostly the ones which are used by selfish peoples.....so its better to be selfish then being used by some other selfish person...wht say??

Yes, basically. We are just humans. We are just looking for the best only for ourselves. If still there are people who are not selfish, that's good. But I think they are just pretending in order to be appreciated. As what I have observed from the people around me and from the people I saw in the televisions, I can strongly conclude that everybody is basically selfish. Anyway, I think it's not really bad at all as long as you know how to balance. Sharing is so good but be sure to have something left fo yourself. If you keep on sharing what you have, in the end, you are the one to suffer because others might not share to you.

to some extend yes and because everyone has his/her own belly and they need to fill it so,they will try to do everything that can help them in that cause. now the other way of looking it at is that it is a necessity and they not everyone will do it. so, what i believe is that there are two ways of doing everything, one is the right way and other the wrong one. when you try getting your work out by the correct just way then it is not being selfish,you are getting what you are working for. but when you use unjust ways of doing things and short cuts then that is mean and the sole purpose is to get maximum satisfaction for your own self and you be hurting others in that way. that is selfish so to me,it depends on the moral values and the way that person was brought up but in today world you need to be a bit mean and selfish or others will get the advantages from you.

well all of us is some way or another selfish coz we all thought about ourselves. for me selfishness is just another way of protecting yourself. its our in born instinct to protect ones self.but using ppl for personal is not selfishness its called a SCAM.

There is a good say,,," A baby fish ask her mother.. why cannot we go on earth leaving water..her mother replies,,earth is only for selfish people".

I agree that everybody has selfish ways or has been selfish in their life...the more you think selfishly the more selfish yoo are...its has to be a balance..if you think of yourslef when tryin to help others you are selfish..if you truely think about the well being of others you are a good person...

i totally agree with you. i guess everybody is more or less selfish.and this is an instinct of humain.not strange

I think we all need to do what is best for ourselves sometimes, but if selfishness means lying or cheating for our own benefit that is not good as it could hurt or harm someone else. We can all be selfish at times but we should all try to do things for the benefit of others, and generally we do things for those we love without hesitation. When I love someone their happiness is more important to me than my own. Sadly not everyone feels that way. Some people will always put their own needs first.

i don't like to think of myself as selfish. imay be wrong have been alot of times.

I remember a saying "Selfishness is not good.. It is evil by definition". However what i feel is it may be good or bad based on individual's situation and circumstances he is in when he does any selfish act.. I think every individual on this earth is selfish to some extent. Whether or not in our daily activities human is always striving to make their life comfortable and worthy which i think is a small act of self concern. So it may be good or bad depending upon the reason and the situation which has made the person do that act... .. Cheers!!!! Happy myLotting!!!!

When relationships r going to be mutual we can't say we r being selfish. We need people around us. We shud co-exist. We do few things for others and we get few works done by others. I'd say ppl r selfish only when they exploit others in the name of love and care. I admit there are ppl with that attitude too.. But I just don't want to generalise. Not all of them r selfish :) Take care!!

I dont know if we are selfish all the time...i dont think it is possible to be selfish all the time.There are instances when you dont really think about yourself, like when we bring up children and look after our old parents.some may argue that it is with self interest that we bring up our children and that we are paying back by looking after our parents..but one cannot measure the feeling and love behind these actions and bond between people...