My friend is in love with me
By bcote212
@bcote212 (1112)
United States
October 9, 2008 1:53pm CST
My friend the other day told me that he was in love with me. I recently got out of a 6 year relationship, and I have very strong feelings for my friend. Though I think that I need to probably spend some time single and maybe date a few people before setteling down again. How should I tell this to him? I do also need to mention that he is not only my friend, but also my roomate. Hope you mylotters can help me. I do have feelings for him, but I find myself supressing them because I dont want to be hurt again.
5 responses
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
14 Oct 08
bc,
If you were older I'd say don't hold back. But you are awfully young to jump right back in, especially when you are feeling the need to experience the world a little. Listen to your heart. I know that sounds cliche' but seriously listen to your heart. When you do something like hold back from his affections, does your heart hurt? Do you feel frustrated and unhappy? Or do you feel pressured? Being roommates adds another level of difficulty. If you are denying your feelings out of fear of getting hurt again, then you may be denying the love of your life. Take it slow. If he can't move at your pace then he will lose. Listen to your heart sweetie and everything will work out. Good luck!! I've been there, so I know exactly what you are going through. I finally listened to my heart, against all advice and married him. I was never sorry.
leenie
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
9 Oct 08
yeah this is hard. i understand where you're coming from. i think if you two feel that much for each other, hey why not. life is too short to wait.
@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
9 Oct 08
Take it slowwww, friend. Rebounding can be really horrible, and when you're already living together, it could be torture! Be honest and be friends! Gcod luck.
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
9 Oct 08
That is awkward. He is your friend and at the same time he is your room mate. If you do not feel the same way to him all you have to do is to be honest and tell him. If you think he is only friend for you then maybe you have to show him that. But I am sure there will be a gap between you and him and also the friendship after he confessed to you.
@deeesfamilyvalues (318)
• United States
9 Oct 08
Oh tough one, It is hard enough to get out of a relationship, but to hear this. I would say steer clear of it for awhile. You need time to heal from your last relationship, and spend time with you. *not that you have to be alone* Maybe just tell him you need time and would like to continue being friends. It is tough and you don't want to hurt him. Maybe if you explain this he will be ok. At the same time if there is NO way you ever want to date him, or be in any relationship tell him that. It is fair to him , and to you. Then there will never be a surprise if you bring another gentleman home. I hope this helps you.
