If someone give you a favor, would you be thinking of returning one to him ?

You know torchablaze, I always appreciate a favor. I may bot be consciously thinking about returning hat favor right away, but I there if anything is needed. Does that make sense? If they ask of me I would do it with in reason. I think it is so important for us to show people-everyone_how much we appreciate the things they do for us. Big or Small. I am not sure if it is a cultural thing, but in Wisconsin where I grew up it was kind of a "good ole boy" mentality. I think it is kind of like what you are explaining. I don't notice it as much here in Arizona. Funny how things are different in each place you live.

yes i would.i considered it one of my purposes in life.and of course i would not mind being helped in return especially if i do need the help.helping each other is common.as the saying goes,no man is an island.no man can exist and live on his own. we will basically sought for someones help at a certain point in our lives.and as return,we should do the same to those who needs our help.

Hi torch'-if someone does a favour for me then I try to do one for them when they need it...or if I do a favour for someone I don't expect it in return as that is one thing that makes them happy and me for the giving..in our culture in the UK it is not always expected to return the favour but it is nice if you can...littleowl

I definitely like to pay back favours - but I don't ever ask for them if I can help it. I think it's courteous to do something nice for someone who does something for you - and also to send them 'thank you' notes for gifts or meals at their home. I don't think it's necessarily cultural in Australia - but it's certainly good manners.

YES, I was raised that if somebody does something nice for you, then it is just common courtesy to do something nice back to them. However, if I do something nice for them, I do NOT expect to get it back. I have found most people just expect you to do even more once you've done something for them!!!

In my opinion, it depends on the favor..If it is for or to borrow money, then yes, a favor or money needs to be given back. If it is for a charitable cause, then no, the favor should just be made. it is nice however to be able to give and get back when doing a favor. Best Wishes~

In my country it seems as if people no longer feel obligated to return favors, as least not our young people. But I have a mental "favor bank" and when I do a good turn, they ask what they can do in return and I say I just put it on their tab and I may ask them for something later. I never do. But I have a lot of favors in the bank! When someone does me a favor I always repay it. I consider it on the same level as borrowing money, I've borrowed good will and it needs to be repaid.

well, we have similarly cultural value in this regard. if someone give a favor to us, we will consider it as "utang budi", and we will try our best to pay it back. personally, for me it's a little bit different. i will still very appreciate the person giving a favor to me, and i will try to pay it back, but it's not necessary to him alone. i means, i can give my "paying back" to him or to someone else in need. i also don't except the return if i give a favor to someone. i consider we are on the earth is a big family which have to help each other.

torchablazed when someone does me a favor, I feel obligated' to repay it,and I always find some way of repaying that favor by doing one for him or her. I think most americans' feel that way too.

I dont think hard enough or force it so that I would be able to say that we're even but whenever the person who did a favor for me asked for something in the future then I would gladly be of service to him/her as long as I can do it. "Utang-na-loob"...that is probably the hardest and the longest debt anyone can ever have. I mean it doesnt have any monetary value, its for favors that has a lot of range from the simple getting a drink of water for someone to saving a life. I think once you are indebted to someone in the context of "utang-na-loob" you would be subject to them for as long as you live and for as long as you can do those favors even if you dont like to especially when the favors done to you are huge. But then again thats just what I think.^_^

If someone does me a favor then I will return the favor, yes. I do it out of politeness and manners as opposed to thinking I owe them a debt Besides, you never know when you may need them to do you another favor sometime

Hi torch! Well, a favor for a favor! Hmmm, well in my country it is not supposed to be expected that if you do a favor for someone that you are expecting something in return. If you are doing something for someone it is supposed to be because you want to do it out of the kindness of your heart and not expecting to get something back. But, most of the time the person that gets the favor does feel like they owe the person something and will usually do something at some other time to make up for that particular act of kindness.

I do consider myself to returned the good thing that this person give me in the future either it is anything else unless it would not give me nay harm then i would do it to give it to them in return......

I do believe in the idea of give and take! If someone does you a favour and helps you out in someway then I believe it is appropriate to be there for that person in their time of need. That's not to say that you should give in hopes of getting something in return, this would be totally false and ingenuine! I think giving and taking though makes the world go round, it makes the world a far better place! As crazy as this sounds, we all need eachother in someway. It's good to help others and it's also good to receive help from others. Andrew

Hi torchablazed, Our culture says the same. There is no written law as such but we all know that when someone does something good for us, we must do something for him as well. Most do it out of compulsion though. All the give and take relationships have been working like that. You give one, get one. Having said this, when I do something , I do it from my heart and never expect anything from him. And trust me, that saves me from lot of hurts and pains. Expectation has no ends and we keep on expecting from others and get pains in the process. Selfless giving is what desirable and I would endorse that no matter what. Thanks dearie.

well iam grateful for the favor it,s not that i look to return it but rather i want them to know i will try my best to be there for them if they need me.

Hi! I'm Pinay, this "utang-na-loob" is very much Filipino. But regardless of culture, its human nature that folks return some favor or other towards someone who somehow have extended help in matters big or small. Personally, whenever I do ask a favor from someone, I know deep inside me that without really promising it or anything, I somehow would repay it back in whatever possible way. Have a nice day torchablazed!

hello,torchablazed,i have two answers about your question.first,if you'd like to be a really great person,you needn't any favour when you have given someone or favor.but we need the response in fact in our life ,for example,we must go working to change our food,etc.i think it is right that we need returning.but on the other hand,if the exchange of the favour between bestfriends is used to get some purpose,it's wrong.there are also the same things in my country,i don't like it.of course,we should give our favor to everyone who needs help in the world.

in our cutlture, it's just like yours. if someone do you a favor, you always should return it back using maybe another ways. as for myself, i think it's important. it means we are friends. if you have a problem, i can help you and when i get into trouble, you can help me out. i think it's great.

yes, if someone had helped me in the past when i needed help, i would make it a point to do my utmost to help him when he is in need of assistance. i would extend the same to all my friends if they need my help regardless of whether they had help me in the past. we should not be calculative about helping one only if he had help us in the past, if not, this would defeat the meaning of friendship. like what we always said to our friends "what are friends for". there is a chinese saying translated into english as "in society, we rely on friends, at home, we rely on family members". so friends and family members are equally important in our lives.