is it fair to entertain suitors when you already have a boyfriend ?

Hi there! Of course it isn't right. I think your friend should confront his girlfriend about the matter. I think his girlfriend doesn't really love him. Why would she do that if she loves him? But, before jumping to any conclusion he should talk to his girlfriend and settle the matter. Have a nice day!!

maybe some other girls is like that even she had a boyfriend, she also entertaining other because the reason is.....she cannot contented with her bf or the guy have not enough time for her gf....

Well I am a man but if that situation happens to me maybe I wont like the idea. A relationship is a commitment. I think he should open it out to her what he feels not only what he feels but also what is also in his mind. Relationship works if you both want to work it out, but not keeping but thoughts, and having doubts. Usually my gf has always have admirers and she tell them directly that she is committed and serious about the relationship, she can only be a friend nothing more nothing less. I think your friend lacks communication and expressing what he feels. Love sometimes your blinded with emotions and feelings that was not really meant for you. Some people doesn't mind even they get hurt, as long as they feel love then not having love at all. Have a nice day!

I really think that these things should be discussed between both people at the very beginning of the relationship so that both people are on the same page. It just avoids hurt feelings later on. Personally, if I'm seeing someone and even if it hasn't gotten serious...I only see that person. Others date around and that too is perfectly ok as long as they are clear on it. Communication is the most important thing here.

I dont think it is right to entertain suitors when you already have a bf. I think your friends gf is a two timer. If shes doing that she obviously dont love your friend or even respect him as a person.If i were your friend i will not stay on the relationship unless she stop entertaining other suitor. If shes not ready to commit into a relationship it is better that she tell your friend right away than keep on hurting him. He deserved someone better and he should not waste his time and tears on a girl like that.

Of course not! Because myself never do that..That girl doesnt love your friend anyway. She just want to hurt your friend..That is the doings of someone who dont care to hurt others feelings. Maybe that girl wants to have break up and then she just cant say it so that is why.

When 2 people are in any type of Relationship that is considered as Dating, it would be wrong for them to also Date other people unless that is the statement agreed on from the beginning. To do so is considered Cheating, and would not be adviseable for anyone to stick with them, as they would probably continue to do so again in the future as well. Your Best advice to offer to your friend would be even if it makes him feel like a loser, is to tell this Girl his feelings, and break up with her and wish her the best from there on out.

I really think it's not fair to entertain suitors when you already have a boyfriend. What's the use of entertaining one? If you entertain suitors even if you're committed to someone, it only means that you don't love him and that you're not serious with him. I really can't see the point with it. well happy mylotting!

obviously not... its not fair at all. my bf made it perfectly clear. and sometimes, its not the girl anymore especially for persistent suitors. there were instances where i feel that men still wanted to court me even when they already knew i have a bf. well, in your friend's case, let him talk to her gf and tell her that this is bothering him. i dont see anything wrong with that. i mean, the girl should have known! :)

Having a boyfriend/girlfriend denotes that you are already taken, that you announce to everybody that you are exclusively dating this particular person. Allowing suitors while you have a boyfriend is a no-no in a relationship. Entertaining suitors means she is entertaining the thought of choosing among her suitors and eventually leave her current boyfriend for another. Your friend should be firm about the exclusivity of dating her girl or else they should break up. Your friend would just end up crying and feeling hurt.

for me it's not a good thing... i think it would be very unfair to your partner... it's like you are not contented to him, even if you are, coz you still entertain other suitors.. it would be an insult to his part..

never! because i choose to love that man, I will love him eternally and entertaining a suitor when i am a relationship is like fooling everybody around. i'd rather be filled with love rather than giving heartaches. If i was the man i'll tell her everything so she'll be able to understand, that she is giving me heartache that leads to break up because the man loves you but you didn't show him what he needs, your love, no more than that. love only evolves to two persons that love each other and fooling it is like hurting your partner's heart, so you better fall in love to your loved one not to the one who wants to have you. things can be complicated if you become a person who is like a two timer. Stick to one! stick to your love because i'm sure she can't live without you.

It's really not fair... As if she is entertaining so that she can have a choice between his boyfriend and a suitor... As if she is changing her clothes, eating a food and haven't finish it yet and splurge to another food. Your friend should talk to his girlfreind about it and make things clear!!! It really hurts knowing that the person you love, trust and respect do such things. It's somewhat cheating... Right?!

Of course it is not fair to entertain suitors especially if your a girl. When you have a boyfriend it means saying "YES" to him you really mean that you love him and it is only him you love. Because entering a relationship is just the first step in getting to marriage its a step by step process. Maybe the girl doesn't really love your friend so I think he better consult his girl.

I don't think it's fair at all. I think that entaining the idea is going to her you in trouble. Because if you are entaining the idea you are more likely to cheat. And that just causes alot of hurt for all parties. I think that if they want to entertain the idea of someone else they should leave the relationship they are in first. It is the right and most respectful things to do.

Maybe this girl was just joking around, but her bf took it too seriously. Whatever, please do tell her your feeling, advise her comment and try to reach agreements. Communication makes life easier, and the relationship firmer.

it's never fair to entertain new or possible new relationships if you're in a relationship. doing this would only mean that you're not happy with your current bf or gf. you can't stop people from showing how they feel for you but you can stop them from hoping to still get you. if i'm the guy, i would tell her to stop it or i'll get out of her life. communication is the key to his problem. you're correct when you advised him to speak up and tell the girl how he feels. because if the love is only 1 sided, relationship will not work. that's guaranteed.