Would U take your child out of Day Care if your Mom-in-Law moves into your home?
By jenj38
@jenj38 (51)
United States
October 10, 2008 9:17am CST
I was caring for a child for a friend because she said she could not afford the regular prices for day care. I offered a very good deal so she ended up letting me care for her child. I was told by her and her husband that i am the best childcare provider for there child and ask me to care for him until he starts school. I accepted the deal happily. Everything was great until her hubby mom moved into there home. Of course they kicked me to the curb and now the in-law has the child. Her in-law was suppose to be just visiting. Part of me feels like i was used. I mean...if the in-law was coming and they needed me until she got there, then i would feel better if they had asked or told me that. I would have kept him until then. It seems like they had a plan and i was not clued in. I feel sad and i don't think i can trust anyone else. I think i'm in need of some advice to make me feel better. Can anyone out there help?
2 responses
@jenboops (96)
• United States
12 Oct 08
I have several answers for this. I wouldn't have my mother in law living with me, and I don't trust her as well as many other people with my son. If they did know when they asked you I think they should have told you, but my guess is that they don't even realize they hurt and that they probably think they were helping you out of something that they may have thought you only did as a favor. I do think that if the mother in law is living with them and capable of caring for the child then why would they pay a sitter especially if they have financial issues.
GL
Jenboops
@jenj38 (51)
• United States
12 Oct 08
LOL...I'm the same as you. I wouldn't have my mother in law living with me either. Not because i don't think she can't take care of my kids but it seems like it will cause problems in my marriage. No Intimacy. No Privacy. Gotta stay dressed all the way up to bedtime. It will probably drive me crazy. My husband won't dare to ask....LOL. But anyway...They are paying the mother in law to keep the baby because she can't find a job. Financial issues...I doubt it. They have 4 incomes, 4 cars and a condo sized apartment. My mom watched my kids for me too when they were younger and i had to pay her too. Nothing in life is free these days.
@jenj38 (51)
• United States
13 Oct 08
No...they didn't give me any notice. One day i had him...the next day i didn't. And yes...the money i was making was helping us out. Now i'm in search of another child to care for. I charge only $100.00 a week and i'm sure the daycares are more than that so hopefully it shouldn't be long before i get another child. :o)
@jenboops (96)
• United States
12 Oct 08
I often have my sisters living with me and that is hard enough, couldn't imagine anything more. Sounds like they are better off then 90 percent of us financially, you did kinda get mistreated. I'm sure at that point that money helped you out, did they give you any notice or anything at least.
@rainmark (4302)
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11 Oct 08
Well if the in-law moved into there home and they knew it in advance they must asked you a favor at frist and then changed their mind coz that sounds annoying to your part and you already had a deal. You just need to talk to the parents about it and your opinion about it.
Happy posting.
@jenj38 (51)
• United States
11 Oct 08
No...i was wishing that they did ask me a favor to keep the child until the in law got there, then i won't feel used in a way. But our agreement was for me to take care of the child until the child started school. But see now...some items was left at my house for the child because they are unsure whether the inlaw is true to what she said she will do. So now i feel i should just give the parents the items and tell them that once the child is removed, then the child loses the spot. That's what happens in daycare.
