What a mother can do to be respected by a child?
By lovelyvelle
@lovelyvelle (639)
October 10, 2008 9:29am CST
Any idea or advice why some mothers are not respected by their children? Based in my surroundings I saw a lot of kids that are not showing respect or honor their mother. One day, I asked a mother, why does his child's behaviour is disrespectful. He don't even have good manners. A mother answered with tears in her eyes, saying, I did try my best to teach him and discipline him that a mother should do. But still I don't know why he's behaving like that, and I don't know what to do anymore.
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@censae (72)
• United States
12 Oct 08
A mother must first respect herself. she must evaluate her own level of self-esteem. Children look and listen to adults as to what are the appropriate ways to respond to all elements in his or her environment. What you accept you teach. Why are you accepting such behavior from a child. You should not accept disrespectful responses from anyone. Sometimes our best is not good enough. Get assistance to pump up your parenting skills. Honor yourself and you will honor your child. You both deserve better. If you do not teach him the ways of this world, believe me there are those out there who will---and not to his or her benifit. Take charge of yourself and your child. You can do this!
@lovelyvelle (639)
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14 Oct 08
I can say my mother was an irresponsible mom, because she prefers to follow my dad everywhere he went, and just left us ( her children). And so, since I was a teenager I was the one who stands as mom for my younger siblings. I told my mom how we(her kids) had to suffer without their presence, and how we survive without them. But even how difficult we had to struggle to survive with the absence of our parents, that still don't made me disrespect her as a mother.
@Sillychick (3275)
• United States
10 Oct 08
Respect does not come naturally, it needs to be taught. The best way to teach something to young children is to model it for them. Show your children respect, let them see you showing respect to others, and they will pick it up. There is no lesson that is more effective.
@mddolz (4)
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
remember being a mother really is not an easy task...but very rewarding...one of the rewards that a mother gets is respect from her children & from the people around her...
so as a mother you should know how to respect other people in order for your children to respect you....meaning be a role model always to your children...remember sometimes we are not aware of what we are doing infront of our children...they are very observant..they will not ask but they got every single word that comes out in your mouth as well as every attitude that they see in you...they duplicate it...so mothers be careful & be aware how to be a good mother even if your children is not around....
also...it is very important for us mothers or for us parents to respect our children ...because they deserve the respect they need as a child and as a person...thats one thing that we (always?) forgot...happy mylotting
@jenboops (96)
• United States
12 Oct 08
If a child is behaving disrespectfully to their parents or anyone, then I think there is one of 3 things wrong. Number one, the parent may be trying to be friends with the child and keep him happy, however I expect and give respect to my friends too. I don't think that you can be an effective parent when you're afraid to have your child mad at you. Number two, there is something wrong, there are developmental, and mental disorders that can cause indifference and anger problems, have the child checked out and tested, if this is the case then early intervention is key. Number three, the child is hanging out with the wrong kids, it can happen to the best raised, most privileged kids. Once they are really involved with them, it's not exactly easy to get out of. So find out why your child is disrespectful beyond normal childhood and your doctor, other parents, a family therapist or even teachers can tell you what's normal. There is a solution for all of these issues if caught early. I don't think looking back and saying I did everything I could can be completely true. There is something that didn't get seen or done. Changing the behavior is a lot harder than preventing it or stopping it young.
GL
Jenboops
@jastabs (19)
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10 Oct 08
i think for a child to learn how to respect, the parents should first how to respect other people. it's called learning by leading. what a child sees in his home is what he will show to the world. however, if a child is exposed to an environment where disrespect is rampant, i think no matter how hard a mother disciplines her child, such bad manner will still evolve.
