Should a man pick up the bill at dinner?

United States
October 10, 2008 10:20pm CST
Should the man be the sole person that picks up the bill at the dinner table? Should women have to pay? What do you think of men that make women pay? Is it ok to ask a women to pay?
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8 responses
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
18 Oct 08
As a male and maybe it's male pride, but I prefer to pay. I would never ask her to pay. However I do have a friend that has the means and sometimes she takes me out for supper and pays. I would not fight he when she insists.
@soooobored (1184)
• United States
16 Oct 08
During early dating, I believe that whoever asks the other person out should pay the bill. That's usually the guy, but I've asked a guy out before, and when I did, I paid the bill. Later on in dating, splitting the bill or taking turns with it is fine. Unless there is a substantial difference in income, I think sharing dinner costs is appropriate.
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
Paying a bill in a certain date may be done by both of you. But for me, during the first date, it is good for the man to pay the bill.This is to show that the man is not that too tight in money and it is very disappointing if the girl will have to pay. During the succeeding dates, both may pay the bill. Whoever have enough money may pay.
@zeroflashx2 (2491)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
Well, I just find it a courtesy to the lady and I usually pick up the bill. I can remember a couple of times when I'm out with some lady friends and they offer way before I even pick up the bill. I don't wait for them though I just pick it up but when they insist on paying the bill that time around, I would still try to offer to pay the tab. But if they insist the second time around, I just let them pay for it. I think it's fine especially if you're really close friends with them. But I rarely ask ladies to pay. Only when I'm out and can't really pay it and if that meal wasn't planned before and I was asked to join in.
• Canada
12 Oct 08
As with many areas of life this one is negotiable. I have paid for many dinners when I was more affluent. Sometimes the bill has been shared (known as "going Dutch"). Other times my date has paid. In my most recent relationship I paid most of the time, though we didn't have many dinner dates. She recently advised me that she never "goes Dutch". Sometimes she manipulated me into paying, as in suggesting we go somewhere then waiting for me to pay. It's taken me almost 6 months to extract myself emotionally from this woman. I think I finally made it.
@tuyakiki (3016)
• India
11 Oct 08
Its not a formality that every time a man will pay. It depends on who is putting forward the offer of spending time in a restaurant.And I have noticed,every time my boyfriend does it.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
Well once in a while my gf pays the bill, really I don't like the idea she pays the bill, but she tells me her reasons is just usually treat me anyway so let ib be my turn this time. I can't say anything when she does pay the bill. I don't ask her to pay it, but she wants too. Relationships is sharing both your blessings and life. Relationship is not only me it's us. Have a nice day!
• Mexico
11 Oct 08
Is not ok to ask a women to pay but to let her pay i think is ok, if she wants let her pay. Mens that dont allow women to pay, kind of stupid if she can and want to pay why shouldnt you allow her?