Which gynecologist would you prefer?

Philippines
October 11, 2008 12:53am CST
Would you rather have a male gynecologist or a female? I had a female gynecologist for 5 years back in my country and she has become a friend to me. Today i am going to a new gyniecologist and i chose to go to a woman because they seem to understand us better than male gynecologists do. What do you think? Is your doctor a male or a female?
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13 responses
@jags420 (189)
• India
13 Oct 08
as a woman, every one prefers a female. not because they are more competent or they have extra super natural powers. only because of the fact that the patient is at ease. she feels relaxed. they are at ease...
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• Philippines
13 Oct 08
I do agree with you. But i don't think every woman prefers woman gynie. SOme of them prefer competence and track record regardless of the doctor's gender.
@Barbietre (1438)
• United States
12 Oct 08
I have had both, I does not matter to me at all. I am not sure my new female one is better, in fact the ones before were more in agreeement with me than she is. But they all have been very professional.
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• Philippines
13 Oct 08
They should be professional or else who will go to them? Thanks for sharing your experience my friend. All the best.
@JoyfulOne (6232)
• United States
13 Oct 08
My regular gyno was a woman, but after it was found that I had cancer a few years ago, she sent me to a male gynecologist/oncologist (just for women's type cancers.) If it wasn't for him I would probably be a statistic. There was never one moment that I felt uncomfortable with the exams or talking with him. It's his job, and I still have to see him for check-ups. Even though it's not a woman, I feel he really attempts to understand, and since he only takes care of women, I think he's dealt with enough women that he understands better than most.
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
Well said there about your male gynecologist, JoyfulOne. He had actually journeyed with you to your healing. I am happy to hear your story of survival. Thanks for sharing it with us. All the best.
@emarie (5442)
• United States
11 Oct 08
i don't really mind either way as long as they're good. right now mine is female, but i've seen a male before. every time they examine you they're required by law to have a female nurse inside the room with you, at least here they do. when i was pregnant, i had a female examine me, but my actual OBGYN was male and he just checked in and delivered my babies. he was very good about it though since i didn't tear or have to get cut. i would feel more comfortable with a female giving me my paps though, but thats just common for us. either way, it doesn't feel good when they do it.
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
I've just been to get my paps today with a new (still) female gynecologist. She was great. I like her. It's also easier to talk about female stuffs with her because i feel like we're having girl talk but with really good sense because she's a doctor. My mother had a male gynie when she had all 6 of us. He was also very kind, nice and gentle. I think it doesn't really matter as long as one is comfortable with the gynie.
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
That's also one of the reasons why i prefer female doctors. I always feel comfortable telling her anything about this part of my health and life.
• United States
12 Oct 08
I had seen both Female and Male ObGyns prior to getting pregnant. Once I was pregnant I really wanted a female doc. I found one and saw her, and the other doctors in the practice, throughout my 1st pregnancy but I didn't really care for her personality, she just really didn't seem to take any interest in her patients, or maybe she just didn't with me. The other female in the practice was the one who actually delivered my son. The second time around I went to the same practice and throughout my "rotations" found I really liked one of the male docs. He made me feel extremely comfortable and I felt I could discuss anything with him. He actually delivered my daughter and I have continued to see him as my primary ObGyn.
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
Even if they are female and can seem to understand us better, the quality of their work still differ. So sometimes we do need someone better and it could be a male. I agree that there are female gynie who do not seem to value their profession. You are lucky to have one good gynecologist.
• United States
12 Oct 08
It doesn't matter for me as long as they don't hurt me down there. However, I prefer not to have an older female gynecologist. One who looks like she is about my grandmas age. I find that the older ladies like to preach to you too much and that irritates the mess out of me. my gyn is male. He is very gentle when he goes down there. ( I don't mean for that statemnet to sound kinky). I have been through about 4 or 5 gyn doctors until i found one i was comfortable with.
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
I do not like older ladies for a gynie too. It's nice to have someone at least 30 something or so. Good that you found one gentle gynecologist. How a doctor handles a patient matters most to me and my gynie is super gentle and quite good too.
@CJay77 (4438)
• Australia
11 Oct 08
Hi pinky, I prefer to go to a female gynecologist, as I much feel comfortable. I never been in male gynecologist and if I have no choice I wouldn't mind if its male or female. The last time I been in gynecologist was two years ago and that was in our country. Thanks!
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
Hi CJay. Yes, i also would feel uneasy having a male doctor check me. And like you, i will not refuse a medical service from a male gynie if i need an emergency and there is no female available. Thanks for your response.
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
I prefer it to be female, I know OB are professional even if they are guys but I think my hubby would not like it if my Ob is guy. My Ob is very kind and very good. In fact when I had my second son and we were like two hours away from her clinic I still travel to consult to her and still gave birth at the hospital she is in.
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
My husband doesn't really mind but whenever we have some concerns about our intimate life, he would always tell me why don't i "go and talk about it with your doctor?" I am sure he would not tell me that if my Gynecologist is a male. I am sure he will be the first one to go there. But he also always come along with me to my check ups.
• United States
12 Oct 08
I prefer female gynos. I had a male gyno before when I was a little younger, and I didn't think much of it. When I got pregnant, I wanted a female ob, but I ended up getting a male. Since I moved, I went ahead a got a female ob. I like that she's female. It just makes me feel more comfy. If you see a woman dr. about your issues, they just seem to understand better. I guess because we have the same parts. lol. Male ob/gyn's of creep me out. Like what makes them decide to choose this as their profession?? I don't know...I think I'll be sticking with female dr. from here on out.
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
They do seem to understand better though both male and female gynecologists are educated the same way. Oh maybe there is a soft/maternal side to these men who choose this practice because they probably like the "delivering a baby" part. To most it is one procedure that kind of welcomes a miracle.
@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
11 Oct 08
Hi pinkytabor For the past 5 years I have had a make gyno and yes it was uncomfortable at 1st but 7 months later when i was deliverying my 1st child I didnt care if a ape was my gyno I have figured out that yes a female may6 understand you better but they all know the same thing about your health no a male doctor may not know the feelings when it comes to that area but there still going to treat you like a female doc would
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
I think it's really normal to feel that way when you are in labor. There was a male nurse who assisted during the delivery of my first baby and he was saying "Push ma'am, push!" i thought i was hearing my brother say it. I couldn't care less.
@lil_32072 (114)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
I been with my first geny for 2 years only, she was our neighboor but left for Australia .Before leaving she recommend me to her another fellow female also. 10 years already im under her handling. But i could share how it looks and how it feel when your have gyno. During my first delivery , the very time i was about to labor in the hospital, it happened my gyne was in a conference. I was admitted around 7 in the evening. The doctor on duty after talking my gyne thru phone, said: your gyne will be here tomorrow, dont worry she advised me to monitor you or else she will emergency be here depends on how much CM you are. That very right moment i had IE. My eyes get huge seeing his big hands wearing gloves. i wanna go home... grasped my breath, hold tightly the nurse hands who was assisting him. After said, 3 cm. i was ferried again to my room. After few hours nurse woke me and said have an IE again, i pretend i wanna get inside the toilet and loose and standby there for few minutes just for an escape. Another advise again after another 2 hours, i instruct my husband not to wake, as i was very exhausted and sleep. That very morning, after having fix my self, walk around the lobbies of maternity wings area. We hide and seek with the male doctor on duty. At noontime, another shift doctor came, this time i was thankful, shes female and im at ease with her. She took care of me before my ob-gyne arrived. Happy my lotting.
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
You have one funny experience there, Lil, playing hide and seek with a male gyniecologist. Well maybe if you had let him IE you again and again, you might have eventually gotten used to it and think of it as a really normal medical procedure. Though good for you as well that the next shift was a female. Thanks for sharing your funny story. All the best!
@rakittera (802)
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
I've had a female ob-gyne for the past 4 years and I wouldn't want it any other way. Like the others, I would not be comfortable with a male gyne. I mean, I can't imagine a guy other than my husband touching or probing my private part. :-)
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
Some women feel the same way too but to some it doesn't really matter. Expertise matters more to them and they have eventually gotten used to a male doctor. Thanks for replying.
• United States
11 Oct 08
I always went to a female gyno because the thought of a man working in that region terrified me. Until I moved and had to go to a male gyno. I have now had three female and two male gynos and I have to say I much prefer males. They seem to be much gentler and they also seem to listen better. The females that I've seen have all been a little rough and didn't really seem to care whether they were hurting me or making me uncomfortable. Men just seem to have a much healthier respect for female anatomy than do women gynecologists. I will never ever go to a woman again unless she is extremely well recommended.
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
It's kind of uncomfortable for me too. But i have never tried a male gynie so i could not compare who has gentler hands. But in my experience with my female gynie, i would say she is the gentlest and most reassurring. I think she is the best in my province and is a diplomate. I also feel secure with her because she tells me everything i need to know, explains well about my condition, and her clinic feels so relaxing, with her slow jazz music playing.