Take a Chance or Reconsider...

I think that in both instances it all comes down to the status of each individual at the given time. When it comes to my wife for example; I would personally announce to her that I was considering taking a risk only at such time as I had the ability to lay out all of the potential consequences and outcomes and what it may mean for us overall, good and bad. It is only when these foundations have been determined that I can make an educated decision or not anyway and by sharing all the points it means that I have the chance to hear a fresh perspective as well. As for the reconsideration angle; I think that it is important to step in and state your case when a time arises that the actions of the person concerned start to border on obsession or if their lines of thought and actions do not appear to be taking everything into consideration as effectively as you believe they should. We are all guilty of seeking solace and belief in any area we can when we become caught up in something and our reasoning can often be blinded as a result. We may not react well to criticism or questioning even if it is actually constructive either; but again, a fresh perspective helps keep us grounded. Regardless of any points anyone may put forward in reference to your discussion, the underlying requirement is always strong communication skills between people. People who are open communicators will generally hold a high level of trust for each other as well. This in turn eases our ability to tell each other EXACTLY how it is sometimes. We all need a reality check once in a while!

It depends on what your position in their life is. I think some people just gotta take risks and I also believe that it's rewarding, I wish I took more. However depending on what the risk is, whether it's life threatening, there are children involved, things like that. I would take those decisions one at a time.

Hi Anne, I think it depends on the situation. I have to weigh the positive against the negative outcome of taking the risk. However, I rarely tell someone to go ahead and take the risk without stepping back and reconsider first. I think reconsidering important matters is very important especially if it involves risks in life.

if i know that he can do it then I'll encourage him to take a risk like chances are 75/25 now if know he will not make it and there are a lot of consequences to face after I'll rather advice him to step back..I have the tendency to analyze things first before stepping in forward

The best thing you can do is allow other people to make their own choices. If it's somebody that is especially important to you and you have a feeling about what they are doing the first thing you should do is ask yourself what you are feeling. If you are afraid that they are going to get themselves in trouble or make a 'wrong' decision then it's best not to share that. If you have information that they may not be aware of then of course you should share that knowledge with them, but really, the best thing you can do for anyone is to support them in whatever they choose, and always encourage them to follow their own hunches. If it's something that concerns both of you and you have your preferences then you should discuss it with them and let them know what you would prefer and why you would prefer it. Somebody should only take risks when they are feeling confident and inspired. To take a risk when you are feeling insecure and doubtful usually leads to trouble.

Everytime an important decision is about to be made especially if it concerns the future of the family. Particular examples of these would be changing careers, moving to another place, or transferring school, etc. Happy posting!

I would tell someone i care about to go ahead and take a risk when i think that the consequences can be handled by the person and i know for sure i can be there to back up the person. It would be me suggesting the risk,so i need to be there to be able to support and standby the person in case of dissapointments. I success then its great. On the other hand and this happens most of the time, if i get the feeling of uncertainity then i ask them to reconsider.

That totally depends on the situation. If it's something to do with investing....well as you can see it has it's ups and downs....in love as an outsider I might have a different prespective so maybe will lay out what I see and let them make their own decision. When it has something to do with my children and they ask my advice I look everything over and then give them my opinion...if its something they feel strongly about I tell them to go for it....if it's a big money expenditure.....I probably tell them to step back and reconsider!

My most special someone is much less of a risk taker than me. He laughs and says the proof of that is the risk I took hooking up with him. So when do I tell him to go ahead and take more risks? Almost every day! When do I tell him to stop and reconsider? Never! But that is him. Often I find myself telling people to slow down in their romantic relationships. Stop and think, I tell them. Don't take a chance on someone you don't know. Back in college my roommates use to hitchhike down to another university on weekends to try to meet guys. I would tell them not to do that as it was not safe to hitch hike and they would say there are more guys down there (and better guys!) and if I wanted them to be safe I should go with them! They were right about the guys, as the one I ended up marrying came from that school not the one I attended, but I never hitch hiked anywhere and ran across him some other way. Job risks? Those I usually encourage people to take. If people are not happy where they work it is usually a good idea to keep trying for something better. It would only be the risk involving other people where I would say "Wait!" and ask "How is this going to impact others?"

it will really depends on the risk he/she will have to take. everything in life is a risk. But you must be careful in taking risk. You must first pause and think, not just plunge into it. This is what we call healthy risk. Sometimes you have you make some risk so that you will not have "what if's".

When someone got a major assignment and is hesitant, I'll always advise to go ahead and take a risk in life? We should always keep the courage to take up the challenge. Without that one can't succeed. When one is going to do someone, which could made some bad (which he mayn't foresee and I can't tell to keep our good terms) I'll advise to reconsider. Sadly most time people will go ahead with it. This is my experience.

Well since I'm a married woman its been awhile since I've had to make that type or decision, but in my memory I would tell someone I cared for them only if I thought there was a chance the feeling was mutual. No need to make someone feel awkward over a silly crush. I'd watch for signs of interest and of course make sure there was no one else involved with the person at the time. Making the first move is always difficult. I am very impressed when a woman makes the first move since it is stereo typically thought to be the mans job. I think that men really appreciate it too. Thanks for posting and happy mylotting.

Good discussion SaintAnne. I think it depends on the situation and the risk involved. How many people are affected, and does that person have small children that could bear the brunt of that risk? I would say if it is a single person with no one else to be responsible for- It is easier to take the risk. There aren't as many people involved and if you fail it would be easier to pick up and start again. Now, If this is a person with a family, I would say the risk of doing it has to out weigh the risk of not doing it. I hope that makes sense. With all that said, sometimes you just have to take that big leap.