Wish it was me and not her!
By omar0913
@omar0913 (942)
Legaspi, Philippines
October 12, 2008 1:18am CST
a friend phoned me last night, he was crying, he told me that his wife died just an hour ago. I did not asked her what had happen, instead I went directly to the hospital and found him in the lobby. He is embracing a huge pillow that I think was used by her wife in the hospital bed, he is still crying and have'nt noticed my arrival, I stand right in front of him and he look up, he got up and I embraced him, I too was crying I do'nt know why. There he told me that he asked her wife to buy him some cigar in a convinience store, at the road her wife was hit by speeding motorcycle' and damage much on the head part. His wife's head was fractured and later died in the hospital. He said that he wish it was him not his wife who suffered that kind of death, and that he should be the one to buy things for his own habbit. I tried my best to calm him down but I thought by crying the pain could be lessen.
Have you ever say that word, " wish it was me and not him or her"?
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5 responses
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
16 Oct 08
Oh my, oh my, oh my! 
Horrible , horrible, horrible!
Horrible , horrible, horrible!
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
17 Oct 08
If it was hard for me to read this. I can't even imagine the kind of hell he must be going through. Try to be there to support him the best you can.
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@sirrob (4108)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
there are things in life that is so hard to accept, whether we like it or not it has done so much damage already if not physically, emotionally it eats you up from inside out. there are so many things that happened that is so hard for us to understand and in some point, we questioned everyone why it happened including God himself. we shouldn't be saying the phrase in your discussion if we know what will happen tomorrow but we just don't know and no one knows what would happen next. life is riddled with so many uncertain things, some happened when we least expect it and some don't when we do. things happened for a reason, it's just we don't know what it is. all we have to do is to believe and have faith.
this is just what i thought it is.
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@faln_angel1205 (1192)
• United States
19 Oct 08
I have never actually said the words but have felt the same way. Its sad to think this way i know, but when someone passes and you are in any way connected to how it happened, you cnat help but feel it. Such is the case with your friend. He absolutely was not to blame, but he feels that had he not asked her to make the stop at the store for her it wouldnt have happened, and maybe it wouldnt have, but u cant wish it was you, becuase then the person you have lost, would be sitting there feeling what you are feeling, and that isnt good either. Its a tough feeling to have but its quite common in situations as this..my prayers and thoughts are with your friend..stay strong!
@omar0913 (942)
• Legaspi, Philippines
20 Oct 08
I know that nobody has to be blame, and I also know the guilt in my friend's heart. That's what I'm trying to get rid in his feeling. Last night he had been standing in front of the couffin looking at the remains of his wife, I noticed that there are no tears flowing down his eyes, I touched his shoulder and he look at me, I was surprised by the sudden strong grip of his hand to my shirt that almost tear it apart, but as tears flows he losses his grip and emraced me. I sitted him in the couch and his parents came and we all pamper him. When I turn my back as I have to go home, that's the only time I released my tears. I was deeply touched.
@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
12 Oct 08
Hi omar0913
Iam sorry to hear about the loss of your friend
Unfourtnaly what he is going through is a m=normal reaction to this he will always blame himself even if she had been going for herself he will always feel there is something he could have done diffrently
Once again Iam sorry about your loss and may you and him lookto God for guidance
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