do you believe in long engagement?

I knew my husband for less than a year before we were engaged, and our engagement was about 11 months. I think it varies from couple to couple. We spent a lot of time together getting to know each other, so I think we knew what we were getting into. Must have done something right as we are approaching our 10 year anniversary. Some people take marriage too lightly, they always think that if it doesn't work they can always get a divorce. It should not work like that. Marriage is a serious commitment and should be treated as such. People who want their relationship to work need to work at it, get to know each other and then they can enjoy the benefit of a wonderfully fulfilling marriage.

Well if it worked well for you then I would like to congratulate you my dear! 12 years is so long enough for you to really know each other well before getting into marriage. It certainly had given you enough preparation for the biggest even of your life. Sometimes though if you have really find the right person....long engagement is not at all necessary. Like in my case...indeed my hubby started courting me when we were in high school.We were still very young then.. I did not even know what love really meant the. I did not even like him then. Then we separated school when we went to college and he was unable to continue courting. It was only when we were already employed and stable did we meet again and then he courted me. Two months after...I accepted his proposal...six months after we got married. So short as compared to your 12 years but despite the brevity... our marriage which is now running 23 years is getting stronger and stronger each day and is on to last for life. I thank God for this!

I do believe in long engagement too, we need to know more about our partners, because it's it hard know a person for short period of time. Long engagement really helps a lot, because as i've noticed to some marriage that they don't give time to know each other falls into failure. But of course not all.

12 years is a really long time. i had a four-year relationship but unfortunately, it didn't last. Now, i am 9 months married with my one-year boyfriend. Before, i thought being engaged for a long time would help build the relationship. Maybe it does but most people, nowadays, don't really count the number of years or even months, before they settle down. As long as they truly love each other. One will feel when someone is really the one for them. they will both do.

Well, I do believe in getting to know someone REALLY well before you think about marrying them, because I can't stand the idea of divorce. I mean, I understand when people have to get divorced, but it's so common nowadays! that's the part that I really hate. So I would rather take a few extra years of getting to know each other rather than getting married and finding out you've made a mistake. As far as engagements go, I don't really get the idea of a long engagement. In my mind, if I got engaged to someone I would expect to be getting married pretty soon. That's just me, how I define the word "engagement" in my mind.