How far would you go to keep the hope of love alive?

Far enough to the point where the best I could do is to set the person I love free. There's no point on holding to a relationship where it is being pitied. A battle that has long been over is not worth fighting for. No matter how hard you do to save the old good times, all ends just refuse to meet, the only choice we left to do is break away. Real loss occurs when you loss something that you love more than yourself.

As far as I can go, if it is worth it. Although I have done that with our relationship. When we were still apart we never argue that much but if the time we argue it ended of breaking up. I always doubt about how he felt for me or our relationship will last. That was hard, thinking about the time we have been through and just ended with nothing. We kept going on. What encourage us are the time and effort we have dedicated to our relationship. Arguments are indeed normal to a relationship and that what we always tell to ourselves. I love him and I believe he does loves me too. I have sacrificed a lot just to survive in our relationship and same with him. So, we will continue keep going and hold on with our relationship.

I believe that would have to be really up to you! You are the only one that really knows you and it is very easy to loose yourself in a situation like this one. Couples do go through alot and they do have alot of adjustment periods to deal with. Some make it and some don't. I know that when my husband and I experienced this challenge we did separate and well time did tell if we actually really did love each other or not. "If you let go of love and it comes back to you then it was your love to keep to begin with" (just a quote). I have found this to be true. I know that my husband thought that he didn't love me any more and when I let him go he took a step back and realized what he did have and what was important in his life to him. It is very hard to understand another and why they do the things they do. It is o.k. though to just say "can we both calm down and try to talk about this again when we both are calm" Sometimes we interrupt one another while they are speaking and don't let them finish eiather and this is where most fights begin. I read an article the other day and it made alot of sense! Flip a quarter and ask heads or tails. Get a timer and whoever won the quarter toss gets to talk uninterrupted for 5 miniutes. Once the 5 minutes is over the next person takes their turn. Trying to stay calm and talking rationally. As time passes hopefully you both will beable to complete what you were trying to say and you will be able to understand each other better.

hope of love? you still believe in love? I am married for5 years and been with my hubby for 8 years now and I no longer believe in love the way I used to, what we had is a commitment, a commitment that no matter what we will stand by each other specially now that we have kids, I think love is just an emotion, for me what is more important is the commitment and living up to it. but of course we still say I love you, our commitment to love each other is very strong, stronger than the flush of blood in the heart that makes you say I love you to someone whom you just met. Oh you may find my post upsetting or agnostic about love but really my friend, I really think that love only last for some months, or year but a relationship last if both are committed to each other. My philandering father once told me that love is no the only thing that makes a relationship work and I can say he was right, you need commitment and standing up for your responsibility to the person you promise yourself to.

First of all don't give up hopes i know its easy to tell but still just look at your kids, because their future is also very important See that what best can be done to improve your relationship but don't take the extreme step of leaving you sacrifice the most don't expect much then you will be really happy

Hi, Well i can relate with your situation coz every couple goes thru this phase. I also come across such situations and to handle them is really difficult. Whenever we argue and it seems that it is going nowhere, i just leave it then n there. After that i try not to react atleast till 24 hours and you know what things become better. And in that time period both of us get time to analyse the situation and say sorry to each other. My husband is temperamental but i know that he loves me. So when we give space to each other to refresh, we react in a more positive way. And if that bond n love is there which is beyond any fight then everything will be fine. On the other hand, When every discussion turns into a fight , then i guess the problem is deep. When a person always react in a negative way then it is something else which is bothering him/you. Because even if love is there you cannot survive with a person who is having a constant negative approach towards you. I think talk to each other about this and just give each other space to think and analyse the whole situation.

I have yet to meet one lucky couple who haven't gone through what you're going through. I've been through such times with my husband too. How far did I go? I went as far as setting him free. Sometimes people only realize what they have once they've lost it... so he came back. But it sure did take a lot to make it work this time. I guess it will all be up to the two of you how things will turn out but I hope and pray that it will all be for the best.

I know what you mean because I am in the same situation as you with the exception that i am sure that i love my husband but am not sure of how much he loves or respects me! Just like you many times thing flare up and end up in a big argument .I feel sometimes that we are not able to communicate any longer. I also question of what is the best thing to do,quit the relationship or continue going on ,maybe someday it will get better. As you said even the children suffer and many times i think we also have to think what is best for them also in this situation. It is a very difficult situation because it does not depend only on us but even on how much our partners are ready to take some blames for the situationand i think this is very difficult because men always put the blame on us . Many times I think that all we can do is leave ourselves in the hands of God and pray to him to help us through this situation and to solve it the best he can! Most of the time life is rather difficult but we have to make the most of it the best we can especially for our children whom we surely love so much!

as far as i can. sure, there is not perfect relationship. but if you most look for a good reason to stay, it most be for the children. If you will say "What about me-how about my happiness" you most weight things out. If you are still happy to be with him-go on. if not then- quit. as for the children-- they will understand in time. but you most explain, let them understnad why you have to do it. otherwise they will hate themselves why they did not help both of you during those difficult times. But if you love your partner- you will not question. instead-you will embraced all that happened. because love is forgiving and sacrificing.