What do feel about old age homes?

It's not about the privacy actually its about the growin' concept of nuclear family in our mind.Most of us rather want to escape from our responsibilites. But somewhere i dont support these laws as accordin' to me no law can change a person's mentality.If a person aint no interest'd in keepin' his parents wid him but do just becoz of the law then his parents have no choice but to bear humiliation and frustration.I suggest old age homes are far more better than this. A person can bear a physical wound but not a emotional one.

I respect different cultures arthi_88. What I have to sy is this. Your culture is wonderful. I think it is very honorable to keep your family at home. We here in the States often put family in homes. I wish we didn't, and wish more people had the resources to keep family at home. I worked in nursing homes for a long time, and it was depressing. I think it is best to keep family at home as long as possible. Now with that being said, my father has Alzhiemer's. We have him at home right now. We are considering putting him in a home pretty soon for his own safety. My mom is almost 80 and is having a hard time caring for him by herself. I live 2200 miles away. I would certainly take him in if it were feasable. I agree putting family in a home only to have privacy and get rid of them is wrong. I applaud any one that can keep their family home until they pass. That is my wish for my dad, but he is becoming a wandering risk. Sometimes safety has to come first.

I am one of those who are strongly against putting up parents in homecares or old age homes. At their old age, our parents needed us the most, not those strangers to cater all their needs. No, I am not here to judge those who put up their parents in homecares, I guess they have personal reasons in doing so and I don't want to interfere with that. But in my opinion, I think it's unfair for my parents to be taken care by others when I'm here to take care of them. I owe my parents a lot. They've been the best parents ever even though we've been through strains all these years. I just don't have the heart to leave them out there in the care of others who don't really love them and not even related to them. My parents will never ask me to pay them in everything that they've given me but I still have the dignity to make them at least comfortable with me. I love my parents so much. Great discussion arthi. Keep it up!

I am a senior, and I was there when my parents took their parents in, and cared for them till their passings. It was a hardship my parents endured. When my Mother was 90 she signed herself into the local Nursing Home because she didn't want to impose on her Family. My Father was about the same age when he went in to be with her. They lived happily together in the Nursing Home for 4 years. During that time the Family visited every week and sometimes twice a week. We became familiar with the Home. We were very happy with that Nursing Home,and we realised that there was no way we could have duplicated,(at our home)the special care an ailing senior needs. We noticed that when a family member was admitted, against their will, they sometimes cried for a week, but when they became adjusted to the life, their whole attitude changed and they began to enjoy the nursing Home life. I believe my Mother was right to go into the Nursing Home, and when the time comes I intend to spend my last days and hours in a Nursing Home, so I won't be a burden on my Family.

hi arthi. like you, i also say that parents sgould be cared for at home by the family members. i coudn't bear to just let them stay in foster homes. i mean children and grandchildren are our old families' strength and keeping them apart from them can certainly affect their vigor with life. good day to you!

In my home country in the Philippines, we dont put our elder loved ones in old age homes. we take care of them til the end.

You are coming to a point that people in the west have already passed and it is so sad. Children are so busy working that they cannot care for their aged parents and relatives so they dump them in a home and visit them occasionally. I think this is so sad as it removes aged people from society. What ever happened to extended families when parents and grandparents shared homes and lives and all worked for each other and cared for each other. To me this is so sad that you are becoming nuclear families where the wife has to work but has not help so she is actually working 2 jobs the ones that brings in money and caring for the house and her children. With no grandparents the children grow up with no understanding of getting old and you start getting the problems of children who think they are all grown up at 15. As to how I feel about age homes, I see them as the last resort. I know I will end up in one because there is no one to care for me. I am the youngest child and I have no children so one day I will be too sick to care for myself and I will have to go into a home but it is not something I want to happen.

I think it's sad how old people need to be cared for by other people outside of their families. But at the same time I understand that old age homes are necessary for some people. It may be because their kids are far away or that they have a disorder that makes it hard for them to live with their family. It really depends on the circumstances. Some old people are very difficult to manage and they aren't as easy to care for compared to children. I would never send my own parents to an old age place though.

It's really sad and ask of me i also get mad, our parents guide us and taking care of us when we just started "from wombs,being a baby and as we grow up" then why do we need to leave them behind???if they take good care of us why can't we??but sad to say that it is really happen...for me I'll not do that kind of thing as long as i live i will take good care of them... But if i see some couples with old grandparents, instead of taking care of them they just treating her/him like an animal kind maybe i'll just ask them to take their parents to Old home age atleast in that place we know that the Old man/woman is safe than in the hands of their own child... =(

I would do my best to care for my parents if they needed assistance whether they had to live with me or I had to hire help. But often times it is not out of neglect that kids place their parents in this type place. Sometimes the parents need the type of assistance that they may not be able to offer. If my parents needed constant help and medical attention that is outside of what I am able to do for them alone. One should not judge as to why another person makes a decision without knowing the basis by which the decision was made. Like I said for me it would be to get the best care for my parents which may not necessarily be in my care.

i don't know what is happening to todays generation. we are dependent on them when we are kids, so its our duty to take care of them in their old age. when we are sick or having some problem, they are always right their beside us no matter what happens. but the moment we start earning, we just ditch them. i wish the kids who turn their backs on their parents experience the same thing in future. thatz the only way they could understand their parents feelings.

I agree with you. Parents have to sacrifice lot of things to bring up their kids and I wonder why the children cannot do a little bit of a sacrifice to look after them. Now a days people are thinking only about money and their happiness. They don't think of the family values. I think media should talk about this subject more and let these type of children understand certain things in life and give them a chance to think of their parents.

those children who feel that they are losing their privacy because of their parents are the most stupid ones indeed. and at the same time they should remember that their parents have taken all the pains in bringing them up and now they are denouncing them and sending them to the old age homes just because they want to remain alone. how foolish! actually the old age home were meant for those people who did not have the kids. but now they are meant for those whose kids do not want to stay with them. well these people should never hope that their children will ever keep them. and they should make themselves ready to stay at these places.

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I feel sorry for them. I hate people who sends their parent/s in old age homes. They don't seems have a heart. After their parents take care of them, feed them. They will just live their old parents and send it to old age homes! They are so selfish! They don't think how lonely to be alone and separated from their love ones. Others think that they are no use and just a burden because they're old. Sorry to say but that's how feel.

Hi Arthi...Old age homes are really good for the needful.But most them are misusing them..like, rich people are getting rid of there old parents and even there grand parents.The old age homes should consider the background of the childrens and then they should allow when they are finacially poor and if they cannot afford to medicate them...The thing that parents should do is,they should not give all the money to there children. Parents live there whole life for there children but,there children are not even bothering about them when they need help.That is why there are many old age homes,and very few orphanage homes...I Promise that I'll never leave my parents in a old age home... Have a nice day!!Keep smiling

I feel oldage home's counts are increasing on a large scale,feel it's good,what if there are no oldage homes at all,we'll spot the old people in some platforms or they'd spare their life in the fear of living. But the people who send their parents to such places should never forget that that's going to be the place where they should also dwell in future when they become old. History will repeat. After all,the wheel turns round and round. But,I just don't want to generalise things because there are some people who do everything for their parents to keep them happy in their second childhood stage. U think I would ever do that????Nah!! After all I am here because of them,will never let them down at any cost. Shall never ever do that. Cheers :)

I feel that the children need to take responsibility and it should come automatically.Then there is also the issue of giving them emotional support which is even more important than just looking after them by providing food and shelter. This is where in some cases old age homes may be a better option as they have some companionship and some little joys in life...

to me , i love old houses very much . nowadays the house are just looks alike . there are rare diffrence in appearance . but the old house always could surprise us by it's special structure and the amazing apperance that we almost dont adopt today . what's more , it shows the history of a country , a culture, so we must protect old house well instead of pulling them down.