children and dicipline

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We can all agree that parenting is no 9-5 and definately takes alot of on the job training especially for new parents. I have a 2 1/2 year old son and I am learning that boys are definatley more work than girls, as some days I go through a love/hate relationship with my toddler especially when he goes through his tantrum phases. Dicipline MUST be consistent as all the way from babyhood to their teenage years children will challenge your right to exert authority over them. Children are quick to learn when their parent are afraid to essert their authority and can be relied upon to give in. We can excercise our authority without becoming a tyrant. Clear family rules Must be define and enforce promptly; Let your Yes mean Yes and your No mean No. Often times we as parent/s are afraid of crushing our children's spirit by excercising our authority. We should also have balance as parents assuring our children of our love for them everyday and therefore should not worry if we have to dicipline them out of love. Types of dicipline;Abusing your child is not a form of dicipline for the record; punching to cause bodily harm, using objects to hurt your child and slapping in the face are a few and will definately have a negative effect on children who are still learning to develop characteristics and desirable human behaviour. As I mentioned parenting is also an on the job training and after my toddler threw the glass smashing it on the floor I had definatley had it; I pull down his pull-ups and wack him on his bum with the palm of my hand, few days after he started wacking me back on the bum saying, "rude mommy" that got me thinking what form of dicipline is more effective and for what age group? I definately got his attention the next time I gave him a 5 minute timeout in his play yard/crib as Toddlers do not like confine space neither can they stay still for long period. Be a consistent parent in diciplining your children, be a balance parent, children need love even teenagers just not around their friends and other adults and they also need communication even when diciplining as they need to know why they are being punished. As parent we should also be an example and a good role model for our children, we can not tell our teenager not to smoke and that it is bad if mom and dad smoke, it definately confuses the message and you can not tell your toddler not to swear when mom and dad does not scensor their language and enjoys movies that have too much explicits. It's definately a tough call but then again being a parent is a special role and more important than the President's job as we shape the future of the next president, the next doctor, the next lawyer, the next policeman, the next nurse, the next teacher and a great human being. Do not be afraid to excercise your parental authority.