how do we bring up trust in a relationship?

For me trust is the most difficult to mend amongst everything else in a relationship. But for me for as long as there is love and forgiveness and there is a genuine change in your partners commitment to you then in time trust would again be gained back. But, I truly believe there is no true and proven way to really regain the trust back that easy. It should be earned back depending on how the person who violated your trust is really determined to amend his/her doings.

Oh! That was one of the difficult question that I've read here in mylot.. Well, it is really hard to trust someone especially if he/she broke it once already.. It is hard to give the full trust again when someone had hurt you so badly.. Honestly, I trust my boyfriend and I think because of trusting him so much I can say that we have a strong relationship even though we are in a long distance relationship right now (for almost 6 months already).. I trust him in a sense that he will not cheat on me.. I know that my boyfriend is a good person and he love me so much so he can't do anything that can hurt me and lose me in his life.. Same thing in him, he trust me.. He knows that I won't cheat on him and do something that can hurt him.. We both have trust each other so much.. Back to your question,if that situation happen to me maybe I will still forgive him.. Yes, I will forgive him for the sake that I love him so much... I don't want to lose him in my life so I'm willing to forgive him no matter how painful that he cause to me.. For the trust, maybe I won't be able to give him my full trust again.. Of course I will still trust him once again but not my whole trust unless he showed me that he is worthy to be trust again.. I guess when you really love someone you are willing to forgive and forget all the pain that he/she caused.. No matter how painful it is you will not stop loving him/her unless you don't truly love him/her.. Well, this is just my own point of view.. OF course, others might not the same as me.. Happy Posting..

I think that the trust can be brought only with the help of joint efforts. One person in the relationship cannot do much to build the trust between them. For that both of them or to start atleast one of them has to be positive. May be once or twice one has to forgive the other one. But at that time the forgiver has to make sure that the other person knows that he or she has been forgiven by the partner and if the same thing is repeated, the parter will not forgive and they will have to break. It is not easy to forgive and very difficult to forgive many times just for the sake of your love. It is something like that the other person does not love the forgiver so the same thing is repeated. So it becomes prime duty of the partner if he or she is forgiven, then the same thing should not be repeated at any cost.

no one is perfect in this world, and we all should forgive for us to be forgiven by our Creator. my relationship with my ex bf started with a lie and it is not good to start it with that kind of situation. there should be honesty and open communication to both partners. i had forgiven him for lying about his age and his status, he said he was not married only to find out that he was divorced, and then there was a time he called me another name. he said that there was only me, that he was not seeing anybody else only to found out he had another one aside from me. i loved him enough to keep on giving him the chances that he needed, and i tried to build up the shaky relationship. he often said "everything is up to me" that was then i realized that he never loved me as much as i did, and everything relies on me. trust is like a glass, if it is broken, it will never be rebuilt on its original self again. if only he made mistakes without any intention, things could have been better. he was never worthy of my trust anymore.

trust is some thing that couldn't be brought up by ourselves but we could put our efforts to bring it up our efforts could be truthful,helpful and friendly as much as possible our relationships are really really trusty..........

Personally I feel that a relationship can only work as a true partnership and without the trust there is no partnership. I have been through three marriages because of a relationship breakdown between my spouses and myself. Always on the road with my band was hardly a place for a married man to be and my first love was always the music so my marriages suffered because of this. I am still a young man and want another try at this as I still have love to give. AS we grow older or more mature we can find a better space for the two becoming one in a union of love. db

Hi there! I think it is very difficult to re-build and re-construct a relationship, when one has been cheated in the past. It requires a lion's heart to trust the other fellow, because it is said that "once beaten twice shy". Nonetheless, a chance needs to be given to other partner with a positive frame of mind so that things could go smoothly and if second time also, there is some kind of mistrust/trouble, it is better to separate.

it's always difficult to rebuild trust once it's broken that's what they say.. but it all really depends on you.. if you think that the person is sincere and that he really loves you.. if he is willing to change and make it up to you then there is always a room for a second chance..forgiving it should not be that difficult..but it should depend on the degree of the damage done too..

This is a very good discussion. I believe trust is a very tangible thing and it can be broken easily but to earn it, takes time. To repair it takes a considerable amount of time as well. That is what I believe. However, with that said, I do think that it's important for love ones to be given at least a 2nd chance to prove themselves right. I shall not use the rule of 'once bitten, twice shy' here. If I'm cheated (say hypothetically), I would listen to reasons first and from there make my way through the relationship. I believe for someone whom have been hurt and wanting to work at the r/s again, the partner whom has broken the trust should work together into making the foundation of their love strong again. That is to learn how to trust again and not raking the past. Couples whom always rake the past find that they can't live happily together. The past would always haunt them. I believe in sincerity and I have heard cases whereby those that have done wrong totally repent in this sense because they see the sincerity of their partners. Like how they try their best to create a new life together.

trust is something we don't just bring up. in order to gain someone's trust, you have to work hard to earn it. it's hard just to trust anybody but i guess as your relationship grows, so does yo trust for each other. just make sure not to do anything to break someone's trust because once it's broken, it's hard to bring it back.

Giving a second chance to the person you love is the best option.. Let me not call this second chance unless the situation is worse.. If there is a fight talk it out.. Not immediately but give it a gap.. In fact in a relation more downs will rise as it is easy to misunderstand and misinterpret a person. It is always nice to avoid misunderstandings in any relation.. FOr this we should trust our partner. trust doesn't come just like that. Giving space to each other will bring more trust and the vice versa could also happen.. Understanding is the best part and being true to the person you love is the only thing that will increase the trust.. If its acceptable I'll forgive him from the bottom of my heart.. Though it ll take me some extra time to do it!:(

I would say communication is the key. If you have something to hide maybe tell the wife or husband anyway because chances are they could help you with it. It really does make me wonder though how some marriages last 50 years or more. That is being really true to your partner.

I dont know if I can really answer your question because I did not yet experience that to my husband cheating on me. Anyway, as we speak of trust to gain it is to have hardwork because if trust will be broken it is very hard to gain back. But I think if my husband do that maybe as we say time heals all wounds. So maybe as time pass by you can again regain the trust to your husband. As wife our priority in life is our children and we don't want our children to experience a broken family so as long as we can take all the problems that our husband cause us we always forgive but there is a limit to all the actions that they do.