i tried this, did you?
By despompa
@despompa (472)
Philippines
October 13, 2008 12:52am CST
i tried to help people who couldn't help themselves or has no means to cope with the problems they face. but i ended up as the villain. why do some people forget the goodness you've shown them? why can't they be thankful that you extended them help during the times that they need it most? this has happened to me several times.
it hurts that after all the hard ships and efforts you exerted to help them, still you end up to be bad, why are people unappreciative? they must realize that what they have right now will not be theirs if you didn't extend the stuffs you have to them.
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5 responses
@cliff_lim (54)
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
hi despompa,
I think their is nothing wrong with helping others. but you ending up as the villain is another story. (can i ask why). Sometimes others tend to wait in return for whatever goodness they've shown for others (i'm not implying your one of them).
It's just more fulfilling if you know that the souls you once help could not really return the favor. Leave it up to God, Move on.....
@brady2moss (700)
• Singapore
12 Mar 09
The thing is there really are people like that. In your PoV that's how it looks like, but did you stop and listen to those you've helped PoVs? The thing is I have a friend who receives constant help from her sister working in another country. He stresses that his sister acts as if she owns him, and would freak out if he happens to not obey or do as her bidding. In other words, the sister wants to control this friend of mine like a puppet. Naturally that is where the friction started..well you get the idea. I'm not saying you are like my friend's sister, but do remember the people you've helped must have their reasons for treating you like a villain. If it's just their nature then forget about them. Cheers!
@wallney (44)
• China
13 Oct 08
i'm sorry for that, despompa.and i have thhis kind of experience too.i try my best to help other people,when the things is gone,the people's passion wan gone,you can't feel any appreciate,even a "thanks". maybe some people disagree me,help just help,you can look forward to appreciate,but "thanks" is so easy.it's just a word.it makes us feel worth helping others.isn't it?
@JOIEMARVIC (2335)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
i know how you feel.you give others a willing helpful hand,then at the end you end up being the bad one.Let put it ths way.Do not let them stress you out.You have done your part.You ofered help.If in the end they considered you the bad one,then stop.people like them do not deserve to be treated like that.and you,the loving helpful person you are do not deserve to be treated that way.
if you lend somebody 20$ and never see the person again, it was probably worth it.
charge it all to experience.
stay helpful and happy posting!
