I just called to say I love you...
By ahgong
@ahgong (10064)
Singapore
October 13, 2008 1:43am CST
Was listening to the radio when this song came up.
"I just called to say I love you
I just called to say how much I care"
I am sure when we were wooing our significant other, we were all lovey dovey then. Spouting the three words "I Love You" is very easy. The question is, after you are married, do you still proclaim your love to your partner?
DO you only say I love you to your partner?
Do you call your mum or dad and tell her or him you love them as well? How about even saying you care?
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@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
13 Oct 08
yes i do remember this song very well. in fact, it is a song i still sing to my partner. some days i'll just call him out of the blue and sing this sentence to him. it can get mushy some days but i believe that it's important to let our partner know how we feel.
as for my parents, they are the conservative type. i've tried to tell them i love them but they felt so awkward. since then, i just try to show my love through other ways. they know i love them by the things i do for them. cheers ;p
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
13 Oct 08
Yeah. I guess it is the same for me.
They find it too mushy. I too find it mushy to have to say it to them. 8p
As long as they can feel that we love them by our ways, then it should be the same.
Heh heh... you still call your hubby to serenade to him over the phone eh?
Does he do the same for you?
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
14 Oct 08
That is so sweet of him.
Heh heh heh... well, it is good that the both of you still find the spark of love burning bright after a decade together.
Yeah, people can usually feel the love we have for them by the way we act.
But some love, well, is just hard to express. And those who look for the mushy mushy actions, may overlook the fact that they are being loved, but not they way they want it.
@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
13 Oct 08
yes my parents know that i love them. sometimes they'll manja with me like a little child. my partner and i have taken to call them the boy and the girl. 
they really are like our son and daughter. if they are not feeling well, they wait for me to bring them to the doctor. when they feel like eating something, they'll ask me to cook for them.
well, i'm not married so he is just my partner. we don't really subscribe to the idea of marriage but it's almost like we are married as we've been together for more than ten years. he does call me in the day to hear my voice. 
they really are like our son and daughter. if they are not feeling well, they wait for me to bring them to the doctor. when they feel like eating something, they'll ask me to cook for them.
well, i'm not married so he is just my partner. we don't really subscribe to the idea of marriage but it's almost like we are married as we've been together for more than ten years. he does call me in the day to hear my voice. 1 person likes this
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
14 Oct 08
Saying I love u, is actually very simple and easy.. We can always tell others to say it, and we can always say the 3 words very casually.. But when it comes to my other half or parents, we always cant seem to bring it up, because maybe we feel shy?? haha =D As one gets older and matured, the 3 words are just like a taboo again, because most will feel, it's not necessary anymore..
BUt in reality, i love u, still matters alot to the other half, and it's just like a magic potion, it can brighten their day ^_^ Sometimes, even a simple hug or kiss will be fine too, but we have forgotten how to do that at times ^_^
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
14 Oct 08
Yeah... exactly my sentiments.
I guess it is the way we are brought up.
When we were kids, we do not have inhibitions and would speak our mind without caring or fearing the consequence of the truth.
We we grow up, we start to have opinions. And the fear of rejection from saying "I love you" to the person, we start to avoid doing it to dodge the rejection.
I guess time sure changes a person eh?
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
14 Oct 08
Yeah... change is the only constant we know of.
And with time, it is definitely change to a person. Be it good or bad. We have to accept it.
Just that some people change for the worse, and we cannot do anything about it.
Those are the changes that we loath!
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
14 Oct 08
I guess only the english educated ple are more likely to be more open about their feelings and that to them saying, i love u, to their partners or family is very normal ^_^ MAybe it's their culture?? hehe ^_^
Time definitely change a man, be it for the better or worse.. it's still a change where we cant avoid ^_^
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
13 Oct 08
Saying I love you is very important in my home and to my family as a whole. it's very important to let those you love that you love them. I say it to my hubby, my children, my aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends. i think it's very important to say it as well as to hear it! so say I love you as often as you like to as many people as you wish
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
14 Oct 08
I guess want to say it to everyone, is gonna take some time.
It is a habit that is not cultivated by us in our upbringing.
Also, when we say it, we must mean it as well.
I know of people who puts the three words by their mouth. But they never ever mean what they say. Very hypocritical.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
14 Oct 08
Sure we still say "I love you". And I do often tell my mom I love her too. I do care about them and I like to tell them that I do. Not all the time, but often.
Some people have trouble saying that they care. Some prefer to show it only. The problem with that is that although it's nice, it can lead to confusion. The actions that tell me that someone loves me might not be the same ones that someone might use to show me so.
Oh well, saying it solves the problem:)
@thestar (304)
• Egypt
14 Oct 08
well there is a service in my country called call tone you could sign a a song for ppl you decide them before to listen it when they try to call you mobile phone i remember that i signed this song to my gf once she was very happy when she listen it while she was calling me sure ppl most say i care and i love for ppl whom they love them but i think that as much as u saying that you losing the meaning of the word so i think that only one or two time is enough every month and let your acts prove it that is the most important idea not only words but acts too this is the real love . best wishes dear friend and happy posting buddy
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
14 Oct 08
I have heard of that service before.
I know a long time ago, there is such a thing as a singing telegram.
I wonder if this is a new version of it where you use the cell phone instead.
Have you ever subscribed to the service before? How much is it to do that for one person?
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
13 Oct 08
ha ha ha ha ha... I am sure you are not alone.
I too do not call mum just to tell her I love her.
I do show her when we meet up for those family get-together though.
Just the other day, I saw a kid on the bus just out of the blue proclaim that he loves mummy. We do it with no inhibitions when we were kids. How things have changed as the years go by eh?
