Drinks at work
By chrisroets
@chrisroets (28)
South Africa
October 13, 2008 2:06am CST
I have this problem.My wife sometimes stays after work
to have drinks with workfriends.I have no direct problem with
this as I have learned to trust her. However my major issue
is that she sometimes neglets to notify me that she would
be late and does infuriates me.On Friday she did the same,arrived
home three hours later and then calmly apologised for not advising
me as she left her cell phone in her office. Needless to say I
almost blew a Gasket and she can not understand why I get angry.
Maybe I am being stupid?
Please give me your input!
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4 responses
@jammyt (2818)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
I think you have a point in being angry. Forgetting once or twice is forgivable but if more than that, I think it's being quite inconsiderate already. To think, she's a girl. You have to settle this issue before it becomes bigger. I don't think you want it to reach the point where you'd get so mad at her and start suspecting about things...
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@chrisroets (28)
• South Africa
13 Oct 08
She is employed as a P.A. at a private school and they
have a Restaurant on the premises. So i Know exactly where
she is. It is purely the fact that she does not keep me informed
about this.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
I guess you have the right to get angry for her being so irresponsible ind doing so. There are many ways to contact you like telephone or any other means to communicate with you like borrowing cellphone from her office mates to inform you of your whereabouts. Although apologizing is already a good gesture from her but the worry that you have to carry all those hours that you have waited is just unacceptable. But of course I know you love her and maybe make compromise what she could do in case same situation happens.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
You are very right there. Being the man in this relationship it is easy for us to do the same. But you are right in realizing that you cannot correct a mistake with another mistake. You are a very responsible person I guess for realizing this. I just hope that your wife would realized that yourself.
@chrisroets (28)
• South Africa
13 Oct 08
Thank you,
I am not a spitefull person , but am considering doing exactly the same to her.
However,my minds tells me that 2 wrongs does not equal one right.
The thought to start hanging about with my friends becomes more and more
tempting.
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@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
I have to agree with those who have replied here, there should be a limit and you guys should talk about this. Tell her what your feelings about her drinking and going home late. She may have her individuality but in return I believe that it's not just about her individuality but also being true to the term "commitment". 
@chrisroets (28)
• South Africa
13 Oct 08
Financialy we have gone through a bit of a tough time
and this might have rocked her boat slightly.However we are
just shaking these finance problems of and i am very optmistic.
I have sympathy with the fact that she might need to speak
to other people than me , but my point remains to communicate
her being late.
