If you quarrelled with your boyfriend or girlfriend,will you say sorry first?
By xzg555898
@xzg555898 (210)
China
October 13, 2008 4:09am CST
In our daily life,we are always leading a happy life.But sometimes,there is some discrimination with different things,and sometimes,we even quarrelled with each other.If it did happen,will you say sorry to your lovers first?will you leave the quarrel to tomorrow?At the same time,I wish you lead a happier life without quarrel.
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17 responses
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
13 Oct 08
It depends on who start the quarell first ... i won't say sorry to any mistakes which i didn't do it 
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@xzg555898 (210)
• China
13 Oct 08
usually we donot know who start the quarrel,and how can i make sure who start it?
could you tell me the method to judge it ?
thank u
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@AltheGreat2430 (2716)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
hey there! i would apologize first, only if I'm the one at fault. I would not let it last another day. I'd fix the matter and talk to my girlfriend. Have a nice day.
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@xzg555898 (210)
• China
13 Oct 08
I also think the contradition should be settlled in time,or the contradiction will be worse and worse.
How do you think it is her fault rather than yours?
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@xzg555898 (210)
• China
13 Oct 08
But sometimes,the people think himself is right,the other is wrong ,and if there is no sollution,the contradiction will be bigger and bigger.If you want to maintain the relationship.will you say sorry?
@eiram25 (1076)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
n0pe,i don't.most of the time,it's my bf's fault why we quarell anyway.but i say also say sorry first when it's me who is at fault.i'm not a hypocrite and i also admit my mistakes as i'm not perfect.having a relationship without quarrels and misunderstandings is close to impossible.me and my bf are two different individuals so conflicts will always arise.it's a matter of compromise,collaboration and acceptance.
happy mylotting!
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@xzg555898 (210)
• China
13 Oct 08
I also think no quarrels and misunderstanding in two people life is impossible.Sometimes,i heard that if there are no quarrels and misunderstanding ,there is something wrong with there relationship.maybe there is the third people.
we need to understanding eachother .sometimes we need collaboration and compromise.
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@savitha_r86 (904)
• India
13 Oct 08
I have never heistated to say a SORRY if I feel that I have really done something wrong. When that's not the case I will not speak immediately,wil just wait for the other person to get back,will not expect a SORRY ofcourse. But if he doesn't I will not make things go beyond hands,will sit and speak and try to resolve the problem,after all the relationship is more important than our ego. Will make him realise as to what he did and why I was hurt. A person who compromises is not going to lose anything like self respect and all,infact we just gain mental peace and few good relationships :)
Cheers :)
@savitha_r86 (904)
• India
13 Oct 08
Yessss,I totally agree.. Men know everything,but then they are so rebellious not to follow them. He he he :-P Take care!! Keep smiling
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@xzg555898 (210)
• China
13 Oct 08
hehe,
what you do is the same as my girlfriend .
As a man .maybe we men need to learn more about the womens' psychology.
In relationship.evey people is equal.and every people should be respected to each other.
Did you agree with me ?
@loxion (1553)
• India
13 Oct 08
Sometime is not easy to say the word sorry depending on a situation but first you have to say whats on your mind no matter how you say it.you may have a fight with your lover about something and through your anger you can say all the things that doesnt make you happy,sometimes it can hurt but you have just said whats on your mind and you can say "sorry" in the end but atleast know they know what you want and what you don't
@xzg555898 (210)
• China
13 Oct 08
yes ,that is true ,and i have not find a good way to deal with the situation that you said yet.there are many complex situation that we can not control,whatever,we are get together to discuss this prolem ,it means we pay attention to it ,we do not want it to happen
and the same time ,i want someone to give us a good way to cope with this situation ,because if we can not solve this problem in time ,there will be much more trouble with us.
@xzg555898 (210)
• China
13 Oct 08
thank you .in some way,the quarrel is the way of your expression.you do know what you want and what you donot want.but do you think this is the best way to express yourself? maybe the more communication,the more you know each other.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
13 Oct 08
to hubby, yes I will apologize if I'm wrong
he never hurts me intentionally so I wouldn't want to hurt him
usually if I'm angry I could throw really hurtful words
so if it turns out I am wrong I certainly would apologize
and be careful next time
on the other hand if hubby is wrong he would apologize
but even if he doesn't I don't hold a grudge with him
since I know him enough to know he will never hurt me intentionally
@xzg555898 (210)
• China
14 Oct 08
of course we will not hurt each intentionally ,but the misunderstanding is in evitable ,what should we do,just as you said ,we can deal with this situation in the end
@xzg555898 (210)
• China
16 Oct 08
you also mean that you haven't quarreled with your boyfriend since you got together ,how have you done that ,will you please give us some advices on how to get well on between the lovers ?thank you
@cassie_502 (141)
• China
14 Oct 08
Generally, quarrel is not a good thing for it will make people in bad mood and have a distance. I'm a girl of high selfesteen,I usually don't say sorry first, however, i'm softhearted,if he say sorry first to me, i will forgive his and forget the quarrel.but if he don't do first, i wouldn't too.
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@xzg555898 (210)
• China
14 Oct 08
hehe,just like my girl friend
but at the same time ,you should pay a attention to your boyfriend ,if it is obvious that it just your fault,maybe you should say sorry first
@xzg555898 (210)
• China
13 Oct 08
thank you
but if you insisted the quarrel was caused by him,and at the same time,your boyfriend didnot think he was wrong.then both of you will not stand out and the situation is very hard.what will you do ?
@marshiemallows (1010)
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
i know when it's my fault so i say sorry. but when i know that it's his, then i don't say a word and i wait for him to do the right thing.
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@xzg555898 (210)
• China
15 Oct 08
hehe ,i find many girls just like you in china too ,wishing a happy life
thanks for you comment
@qinchenglim510156 (83)
• China
15 Oct 08
I think it is normal that happen quarrel between couple,it is impossible that you and your partner have the same idea all the time,when quarrel happen,that indicate need to increase communication,perhaps viewpoint you think is right , your partner think it is wrong,so quarrel happend.stop quarrel and communicate with each other,tell your partner what you think and learn from your partner what she think,as say sorry i think man should say sorry to his partner
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@xzg555898 (210)
• China
15 Oct 08
i hold the same view,my girlfriend ofen quarrel with me ,luckly ,we usually communicate after quarreling ,so we get on well with each other ,bu t i will not tell my parents ,i think it is just my business,what is more ,i do not want them to be worried.
thank you for your point!
@highfiveulation (44)
• United States
13 Oct 08
I don't think the fight matters at all, I will apologize when I'm calmed down and can at least get the words out without throwing paperclips in his eyes or something. I made it a rule with my boyfriend that we can never go to bed angry, we have to in the least say I'm sorry and I love you. Grudges aren't good for your heart in more way than one.
@xzg555898 (210)
• China
14 Oct 08
it is a good rule ,perhaps i will introduce it to my girlfriend ,thank you for your commend
@Xiaoyou520 (36)
• China
20 Oct 08
Although I am not the person who firstly say sorry, I, sometimes, can not think of why I have been angry. In my opinion, who say sorry first is not the most umportant. While the most important is that after their quarrel, they can relize both of them are of very importane to eath other. And they can live a happy life.
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@xzg555898 (210)
• China
20 Oct 08
hehe ,it is great what's you said ,in fact ,just as you said ,who saying sorry first is not important ,the most important thing is how we treat the quarrel,we can sum up the experience of the problems and get much better ,thank you for your comment ,happy mylotting
@gemini_rose (16264)
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6 Nov 08
I very rarely fall out with my hubby, anything for a peaceful life me I hate arguing. But on the very rare occasion that we do fall out then I never say sorry, not unless I am 100% certain that I may have been in the wrong or I was just taking a bad day out on him. I will not say sorry for any other reason I just do not talk to him for a few hours until I have calmed down again.
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@despompa (472)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
quarrel don't just happen to boyfriend or girlfriend, it is also applicable to husband and wife. if me and my hubby had a misunderstanding, i don't say sorry. i just let it slip away when it's already time to settle things. i don't want to insist that we should be doing these and that when its still very premature to do so. i also don't want to jump ahead of things, which are not yet to happen. plus, i always tell my husband that what's the point of saying sorry if you can't avoid to repeat the same mistakes again? for me, it's like the been there done that thing.
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@xzg555898 (210)
• China
13 Oct 08
that is a good method ,but not everyone can cope with the problem like you ,sometimes ,if there is a misunderstanding,and we do not deal with it in time
there may be much more misuderstanings coming to us ,so we can not be waiting ,we must do it in time
@silent2crazy (4)
•
13 Oct 08
No GF now,I have seen this before, And I also think I can do that esaily. But the tures is much more times the first one saied "sorry" is not me. It's really hard to be a man.
@xzg555898 (210)
• China
13 Oct 08
I think to say sorry to others' is not a easy thing to a man.But to your darling,could you say that word?
sometimes,i say sorry to my girlfriend, i love her,so i would like to say sorry to maintain the relations.
