How Easy is it ....................

dear Celtic Eagle: Depends on what you consider a good man .......... Have been waiting for that sweet kind hearted woman to come into my life .... no success so far :)...... i think it takes 2 hands to clap ....... not just one

Good men have always been hard to find, as have good women. Are they rare, in my personal experience, they are a bit of an outlier in the entire breed. But, it all depends on definition of a good man. If women are looking for some ideal, a sensitive man who is still masculine enough to get in a bar fight and win, they might be setting themselves up for a fall. I think our expectations actually make this debate difficult to parse through. Men and women are people. How hard is it to find good friends? Very hard. Acquanitances are easy, a dime a dozen, but a good friend. Someone who sticks by you and up for you, those are the ones you search for. Why would finding your mate be any easier? There are a lot of factors involved in finding a partner, more than in finding a friend. So, it would seem harder. But when you find that person, it's worth every ounce of effort you put into it.

I would suppose so. it really always was. sometimes ya have to live with them for awhile to see how they are ya really cant take any ones word for it. ANd have friends observe how he treats you and how sad or happy ya seeem to be. When I found 2nd hubby my friends told me how much he loved me adn I asked them how and they told me when he cameinto a room his eyes looked only for me then they lit up . See I didnt really see that until years later .

i think so.. good think i found mine earlier!hehehe well, my boyfriend and i are together for almost 3 years and i could really tell he is sincere and he loves and even my friends likes him for me.. they keep saying that they hope to find a guy like him. i am really proud of my boyfriend and i love hims so much too. i havent caught him cheating or anything.. so i would say he is a good guy, he spends time, a lot of his time with me.. and most especially, he is not gay..hehehe i am just happy to be in this relationship.. i honestly prayed for him.. and he came my way!

I think there are still alot of good men out there. You just have to know what you want and know how to have a good relationship. If you sleep with a guy on the first date and say no strings attached dont yell when he doesnt call. There are a lot of crappy women out there too that guys have to watch out for. Also some people say they want a good man but what they want is a bad boy they can turn into a good man. If your dating a bad boy dont be shocked when he acts like a bad boy. If you want a good man...date a good man. My man can be a bad boy but he is a damn good man.

Hey girls i am there :-) I may be married, so what? Is that a disqualification? More the merrier. :-)