Ladies, Has this ever happened to you..
By iampissed08
@iampissed08 (8)
United States
October 13, 2008 11:59am CST
My husband and I went out to dinner with other couple from our church, this past weekend. There was a waitress that caught his eye and he kept looking at her the entire time we were there. Needless to say, I was silently fumming on the inside at him. It was like a nervous look, like he was trying not to but kept doing it...? I'm a good looking woman, not necessarily insecure, but I felt very disrespected. I'm angry and don't think I can forgive him. Has anything like this ever happened to anyone eles?
angry and bitter,
iampissed
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2 responses
@ndaniel229 (419)
• United States
13 Oct 08
I think this has happened to EVERYONE at one point or another. But ... was it done as he was checking her out, drooling or he stole some quick glances finding attractive and admired her? I'll give you 2 scenerios:
1. A girlfriend of mine was with her husband and children at a family amusment park. Young adults/ teenagers wearing what they wear... her husband couldn't keep his eyes in his head... total disrespect.
2. M husband, sweetest guy... I caught him catching a glance at a girl at the mall. He got embarassed and looked away. I told him "yeah, she's cute" And he said "not compared to you" as corny as that is ... He knew I caught him and that was his way of apologizing.
It's human nature to find someone else attractive - it's unrealsitc to think that our significant others find NO one else attractive. I can understand you feeling disrespected but I would let him know that you didn't appreciate it. And pick your battles. If he's been faithful and sincere so far... chances are he will always be - but he's human. We all make mistakes.
@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
13 Oct 08
I would be mad and very jealous, even a little hurt, but I could forgive him for doing such a thing. It's not like he was making out with her or smacking her bottom...
It's human nature to look at other people, and I get very jealous also, but it's not something that's unforgiveable!
@iampissed08 (8)
• United States
14 Oct 08
Thank you so very much for you responses and support in this matter. I think my challenge is .. it was like he couldn't help himself. He was really shifty in the eyes..trying to look at the tv in the bar..but I kept watching him watching her. Like I sad..I'm no charity case and confident. But, it's like initally he was trying to play this game on his phone then when I got him to put that down. This is what he did. ..
I think I was just really needed this time to connect with my husband and it was a silent slap in the face to me.
It's been a tough road and I felt he should've checked that. Then when I said something (smart) he stormed off, proceeded to walk 5 miles home instead of watching the movie we were going to see.
Obviously, this isn't the only problem going right now.. I've felt extremely disrespected overall for a while now. When he did address it he was like I wasn't looking, but if I was (??) it wasn't b/c I wanted to f*&%^! her, that's in your own insecure mind. If I did look, which I didn't, it's ok to look I didn't do anytning, if I had a relationship like you have with so and so then you'd have a problem (bringing something up not related to this as a default) but I didn't do anything wrong, I don't even like skinny girls ( I'm 5'7" 140lbs btw...and how did you know I was talkin about the skinny one.)
OMG! Ladies it's hard.
