do you easily make friends?

@jhl930 (3601)
United States
October 13, 2008 4:44pm CST
i know with me when i go out somewhere i am always going to find someone to talk to because i am just like that i can talk to anyone about just about anything and actually carry on a conversation, and it is really easy for me to make friends and it always has been honestly, i guess im just that type of person who doesn't care to just start talking...but ive heard some people say that they can't just start talking to someone, so i was just wondering about all of you, is it easy for you to just start talking to someone and make friends? i would like to thank you for taking the time out of your day to come by and read and review my discussion and hopefully answer, i hope that you all have had a great day so far and that you have a great and safe evening today, thanks again for taking the time to come by...
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@Wyrus168 (131)
• Malaysia
14 Oct 08
Me too... I can just start a conversation with a guy, as I tells really great dirty jokes... but when it came to women, I just can't find some great topic to start with... I can't tell dirty jokes, can't say anything stupid... other than just asking them how nice the weather was... Since you're so good, can you teach me a few ways to... start a conversation with girls...
• Canada
14 Oct 08
Haha...dirty jokes are awesome ice breakers... it's true...it's really awkward at the start when you're talking to a girl...the weather comes up quite a bit whenever i'm drunk I seem to be able to talk and be enrapturing enough, but I'm pretty sure I always talk about absolutely stupid things...I like how that gets me further than when I'm sober and talking about creationism vs evolution or politics or public health, etc... I wish I could help you...but I'm not good at talking either but I did notice you're from malaysia...where do you live...in respect to KL? I know this could be a really dumb question to you...but I've only been to KL
• United States
14 Oct 08
personally i find it harder to make friends unless you are with friends so unless im with sumone i kno i usually just stay quiet but after i while i start to loosten up and get more social with ppl
• China
14 Oct 08
It is difficult for me ,sometimes i don't have any words talk about.
@nheil472 (157)
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
hi, you must start first on simple topic and then the topic will go deeper as you go along you know..don't be shy and of course don't be boastful of what you know sometimes what you know may hurt you and you don't like that to happen don't you.and so try to use like indeed, definitely, well of course these are few words you can use while you are thinking of words to say in having a conversation. happy posting!!!
• China
15 Oct 08
Thanks for your posting and sharing,I'll try it next time. Have a nice day,my friend
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
15 Oct 08
It is not difficult to make new friends for me. However, the continuity of friendship depends upon lots of factors. I believe, it is a two traffic and if the other fellow reciprocate in the same manner, we get along well and if does not show consistency, it becomes difficutl to pull along the relationship. I make friends with those persons only, whom I feel that their line of thinking and approach is similar to me.
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
i'm a bit shy so i'm not really that good with making friends. i'm just lucky that people come to me to make friends with me.
• China
14 Oct 08
You are a lucky and kind man,I think
@myhllim (272)
• Malaysia
14 Oct 08
If just get start with introduction and talk on some common topic, then that is easy for me. But this kind of relationship will turn out to be just give a smile or say 'Hi' later. It is not easy for me to make a real friend, whom I will keep in touch after a while.
@ALouie (118)
• United States
14 Oct 08
It is also not easy for me to make many real friends, whom I will keep in touch after a while. I have minor attention deficit and I feel that I unintentionally yet easily offend many potential future friends. I also do not have a very "exciting" personality. Other than my closest friends, who are my immediate family members, it is very difficult to connect with people.
• United States
13 Oct 08
I have a lot of friends that are like you. They are always making friends everywhere they go. I personally am not able to do that. I am good in groups. If I'm surrounded by my friends and someone approaches us, I'll be the one to do all the talking and socializing. I can't seem to make myself talk to strangers one on one, though, unless I'm at work and I'm just making pointless conversation or answering questions.
@jhl930 (3601)
• United States
13 Oct 08
i know what you mean even though i am able to start conversations i am better in groups, i really like just talking to people, thanks for taking the time to reply to my discussion!
@subha12 (18441)
• India
15 Oct 08
not really. I am a little introvert. i take time before making any friends. so its not taht i always make new friends easily.
@niki_26 (125)
• India
14 Oct 08
Well to me i must be comfortable with a person whom i first meet.....i usually make friends easily but it really takes time to trust them ;)
@ALouie (118)
• United States
14 Oct 08
It is actually very difficult for me to make friends, even though I really enjoy it when I do. I have struggled with why this is this case, because I find that I am generally a very gentle person. Lately, I thought of a concept that really helped me out: If anyone is nice to me...they are my friend. Luckily, every once in a while a person is nice to me. I have very few friends, although I would definitely welcome more. Part of the problem is that I am a very quiet, and most people don't have the patience to withstand stretches of awkward silence when I am around. Generally, my friends tend to be people who lead the conversation and don't pressure me into answering questions that I may not feel comfortable answering.
14 Oct 08
no, i make friends slowly and difficultly with awkward moments all the time and a lack of confidence etc. most people like to chat about trivial nonsence and are so superficial it pisses me off. I dont have anything to say to these people. With that said its hard to say who is going to be like that and who isnt. I find it hard to talk to people my age as they are usually more superficial and more prone to personal attacks which i find hard to deal with. I tend to make friendly aquaintences with people much older, im 20 and i would say most people i like are at least 10 years older than me. What do you talk about to someone you just met in order to make friends? especially if you think soaps are a waste of time, the chart music is terrible, WHAT. TELL MEEEEEE!!!! ahem:D
14 Oct 08
[b]well....as far as i am concerned, it totally depends on the other person.. I always try to be friendly with each n everyone no matter if I know him before or not..I always believe that sharing love is the best thing humans could do.. So i always make good friends very easily
@jackiew (915)
• Canada
14 Oct 08
I have always found it easy to make friends.I talk to everybody. I can easily start a conversation no matter where i am. happy mylotting
• India
14 Oct 08
Well I believe in the fact that friends should be limited but those who are your friend should be true friends.So I dont make friends easily.That doesn't means that I am reserve nature person.But to make any person my friend I need a lot of time to spend with him first.Thats why I have 5 best friends and those are from school time.I can talk to any person and in conversation I have no problem but to name any person my friend I want first great understanding.
• India
14 Oct 08
i know that in my life i need some person to share my feeling (happiness and sorrow).obviously god has named them as friends.i can easily make friends because is always seek hospitality with others.when i am new to the environment i go and frankly speek to any unknown face .making friends is not an ordeal but to respect that friend and his friends ship matters.i have the same thinking as my friend.
@nheil472 (157)
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
i can start a conversation easily, they find me naturally conversationalist and easy to get along with, we can talk whatever there is under the sun but not on censored topics of course for clarifications, i met new persons and in just a couple of minute i'm talking to her/him i like it though it seems that i guess they are interested in me not that i interested in them of course ..for friends and just for friends..well i met people in seminars, conference, camp site, school, public places, well there are a lot of places where you can met a conversation not only conversation but good and brilliant conversation sometimes, some conversation to be honest are well thought and well spoken, some are so so and some are boring but as we go long the road in boring conversation in the end you will find it interesting, both beneficial for you and the person your talking with, group conversation are good also as for a team,one-on-one conversation in times of problems and really difficult undertakings of our life which can not be avoided.every time you converse to others bring more knowledge to you as well as to him/her..and that's how i get my friends by the way a nice and interesting conversation..happy posting!!
@zhaosonghan (1039)
• China
14 Oct 08
It is easy to make friends,but makeing a real friend is not easy as you think.If you known each other and you can be friends,we just need that talking more what others are interest,in this way,they like talking with you,so it is easy.For a real friend,it's not enough that just talking,acting is the most important,then eyes and acting are important and instead of talking,anyway,don't forget honest.
@rrowenaa (834)
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
it's not hard for me to make friends. i would really just say "hi" or "hey, come sit here beside me". it's always great to know someone and go along with them really well. oh! i miss my acl friends so much!!! =)
14 Oct 08
If we talk about making friends then it is easy to make friends but its very difficult to make a good one which we call as best friend. Everyone has a lot of friends but out of them very few will be the best one or none.So its a bit difficult to make a good or say best friend and more over its not easy to get so.
@gotetet (197)
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
yes i do. i just simply ask "where you from?" "where to go" how to get there, this will start a lot of topics to go about until i finally ask someone's name. but i usually do that with a woman like me.
@Emilyzhu (147)
• China
14 Oct 08
Me too.I am also person that can get along well with others soon .I think maybe because of my extroverted character .I am talktive ,helpful ,and easygoing .So ,i can always find friends quickly .However ,with the age growing ,i did find that we should not always say everything to others ,especially the strangers .In a word ,we can make friends selectively!