when do you stop hoping and accept the fact that the relationship is over?

hi there. i think its time to let go when you think that the relationship is not going anywhere, like he doesn't love you and you do not trust him. i think its important that the two of you will have a good communication. i don't think there is always a good chance to relinquish old relationships and i guees you have to move on without the other guy tolearn more about yourself and love the solitude for the mean time. i hope to hear more from you, and also i have added you as a friend. i hope you will approve. i'm also from the philippines.

I knew it was completely over with my ex-husband when it no longer hurt me to see him around. I still cared, but it didn't feel like a knife cutting into my heart. The first time I looked at him, and didn't feel that pain, I knew it was time to move on. If it comes to a point in a relationship when it doesn't effect you to be around that peson, you know it is over. Even if you feel anger when you see them, you are still feeling for them. You may not want to be with them at this point, but you are not ready to move forward either. In order for a relationship to truly be over, you have to no longer have the emotional hold. If you are in a situation where you are unsure of your true feelings, try looking at it from the outside, and ask yourself what you would tell a friend in the same situation. The most important thing, i think there is to do it to hold on to your pride. Even if you are not ready to move on to another relationship, do not lose your pride by oontinually seeking the person out and deliberately making unwanted contact. Time will tell if you are meant to be, but in the meantime, take pride in yourself. Smile, dress yourself as normal, and continue on with your day-to-day life. Fill the voids with other activities, such as chatting with a friend, about things other than him, going for a walk, or reading that book you have been putting off. Then, ask yourself, do you want to be with this person because it is what you are used to doing, or because you really do love him?