do you believe in long distance relationships??
@unleashdreamz (43)
India
October 14, 2008 12:22pm CST
they say,..tough times last...tough people don't,,..i have seen people advocating for the fact that no matter the distance...love will remain intact...but in the past one year i hv seen enough to go against this fact...it is very rare to come across ppl who can actually go on and maintain their relation even when they are far apart..n unmarried..i have even seen 6 yr old relationships breakin apart..once they went on to live in different cities and continued 4 a while...sooner or later comes the fact that unless you are very focussed and satisfied..u will long for your partner to stay with you..and will not be able to handle the long distance..u will want to meet him/her whenever u feel like..to spend time with them alone..to have them around always..hence i feel long distance relationships are a rarity now...whats ur take??
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@russorusso11 (13)
• United States
14 Oct 08
I think they dont last but would last longer if ypu talk useing a webcam and you talk to each other.
@Aurone (4755)
• United States
14 Oct 08
I think you are right. I don't think they last. There are probably some exceptions but as a general they don't work. Its hard enough to be separated for a long time when you are married. My husband was gone to Sweden for 5 weeks and that was too long. So I can imagine dating relationships lasting through the separation of a longer time period. Him being gone like that makes me really admire military wives/husbands who are separated from their husbands/wives for months on end. They really must have some stick-with-it-ness.
@DoriLentrich (1016)
• United States
14 Oct 08
I agree with you and disagree with you at the same time. I have witnessed long distance relationships that have stood the test of time, however, I've seen the reverse. The only quality that seemed to separate the two was commitment. A commitment to grow together despite the separation.
People forget, sometimes, that relationships are not stagnant. Once you find that right person, the job isn't over, it's just beginning. When you then put the added pressure of distance into the equation, people find it easier to become lax in their maintenance of the relationship. However, if they make it a priority to continue to be part of each other's lives, they tend to have a stronger chance at survival. Growing together is a huge part of a successful and happy relationship. This doesn't mean you lose your individual identity, but rather, you become different in the same ways. If you can do that, any relationship, near or far, becomes stronger as a result.
