I am not a good parent
By longbangod
@longbangod (1785)
Philippines
October 14, 2008 9:48pm CST
I don't know if you also feel the same way I feel these past few days. When I resigned from my work abroad and get the chance to be with my family, my kids in particular almost every hour for 3 months now. Of course I enjoyed being with them but there were times wherein I was not able to control my temper. Few days back I hit my son with my belt hard as I never did before, and it really bothers me. I easily get angry and shout at them more often. I know scolding them or hitting them once in a while as the need arises is normal but I really felt guilty in doing it. As much as possible I don't want to hit them but i did already.
How do you fell about this???
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2 responses
@thebeaddoodler (4262)
• Lubbock, Texas
15 Oct 08
Being a parent isn't easy. When you're not used to being with children all the time they can really get on your nerves. We all react negatively to our children's bad behavior, but you realize that what you are doing isn't the kind of parent you truly want to be and that's the first step to correcting it.
Try to figure out a way to get away from family for an hour or so on a regular basis for some "me" time. It's really important have some time to just relax and not have the responsibility of the children all the time.
@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
I think thats a good idea. Finding some time for myself has been a less priority these past days. I got preoccupied with the thought of giving all my time to them since this is not for always. I know time will come and I'll leave them again for a work abroad.
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@thebeaddoodler (4262)
• Lubbock, Texas
15 Oct 08
It's very understandable that knowing you will have to leave again you want to spend as much time as possible with them, but do you want them to remember you yelling and hitting them when you go away? Take it from a mother that stayed at home with 4 children 24 hours a day 7 days a week until they started school, you need time for yourself. Then the memories you leave them with until you can come back will be happier.
@baleleng2008 (917)
• United States
16 Nov 08
I understand how you feel long bcoz I did that too to my kids sometimes.I attend in parenting class bfore and they said that hitting our children is really not the answered.Mostly parents here if the kids make something thats not good then we have to ask them to go in the corner and when they done go to the corner for 10 or 15 mins they should ask sorry to you.If they don;t want to ask sorry put them back in the corner till they say sorry.And guess what long?it works for me.
