SUDDEN DEATH. How to deal with it?

I am so sorry to read about your loss. Several years ago, I lost my grandfather pretty much in the same way. Suddenly, without warning he said he wasn't feeling too well and sat down to watch a baseball game on tv. A few seconds later, he had a massive heart attack and passed with the remote control still in hand. It was quite a shock to have that happen as you say so sudden, but after several years have gone by, we are glad it was that way and that he didn't suffer through a long illness. According to the doctor, he passed before feeling any pain. I can only tell you to take each day at a time, and don't blame yourself for not being there, instead use the opportunity to treasure each and every day with your loved ones and make the most of it. In time, you will feel better and appreciate your grandfather even more. It is your responsibility to teach Nicholas all about him and how wonderful he was. This way you can honor his memory and keep his spirit alive in your hearts. I'll pray for you and your family.

This is a very sad time for you and your family, I am very sorry for your loss. You must let yourself grieve it is ok to do this, but always remember the good times you had with your Garandpa, I think he will always linger around you as this is what i believe happens to loved ones...he is on a new journey now a peaceful one...we have still got to go through a lot before we earn the right to go as well...celebrate for him...take care.

Three months have passed since your grandfather loss. I really hope that you feel better with your baby even though I bet that you still miss your grandfather. Mine has passed away around ten years ago and I do still miss him. I just look at photos and try to remember the good things that we used to do together. I still miss him despite being a grown up and have my own family.

Oh sweetheart! I'm so sorry! If only I could reach you I'd give you a big ole hug and a big ole ear to talk to for as long as you'd like! Sweetie, grieving doesn't have a certain way or a time frame. No one grieves the same way so take your time and grieve for how ever long it takes for it's not going to be easy. Your grandfather is in a better place and what ever it was that made him so sick, he's in no more pain. Try to know that you'll get to see him again some day and you will!! Trust me on that!

hi dear maple_kisses i understand your pain an agony for the loss which can not just be fulfilled!! the so important life has gone out!! well it is all GOD , the almighty and the cycle of life must stop all of us one day or the other. this is the destiny!! nothing will stop after any such event!! the why the mylot association!! move on and you will have to!! the sooner you do , the better!! good luck and sweet memories of your grandpa, and his blessings are with you!

i am sorry to hear that,but we can't prevent sth happening.we just accept that.

I am sorry, it must be so hard for you whilst you are pregnant too. Your grandfether is in a better place than this world now. It may take a while but it will stop hurting so much. He will see your baby,he will be watching over him and protecting him.

our condolences to you and your family maple kisses. Life is really full of trials, and losing our love ones is a part of it. We will missed all those loved ones who passed away, but do remember that we will go with them also at the right time. We have to pass this life one at a time. For sure your grandfather is now resting in peace. May God comforts you and your family in this time...

Dealing with a loss is always hard. Dealing with an unexpected loss when your away from home is unimaginable to me. I think that your reaction is completely normal and expected. Not being able to say goodbye doesn't give us that sense of closure. The fact that you are with child makes it even more difficult. All I can say is to hang tight to your memories. Talk it out with those close to you. And love little Nicholas. My prayers are with you.

Maple, I am very sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers during this very difficult time as you and your family deal with the loss of someone so dear. You ask how to you deal with sudden loss? I don't think you ever do. I lost one set of grandparents before I was born, and the other when I was 9. I didn't know them very well, and I still think I treat the situation as out of sight out of mind. Three years ago I realized what it truly meant to lose someone so dear when my little brother was taken away from me and my other siblings in a work accident. We were heart-broken. And three years later, we still are. We miss him, but have that peace to know he is in a better place. The only advice I can give you Maple is "Time" does ease the pain slowly. It never fully gets better, but it eases. You'll never forget, and you are not supposed to. You have wonderful memories now that you can share. Years of wonderful stories to tell Nicholas. And as time goes on, the wonderful thing is, the more stories you tell, the more smiles you will have on your face telling him. My little brother never got to meet my daughter. I wasn't supposed to have children. After 10 years of trying, I now have a daughter. And I cannot wait to tell her stories of her Uncle Josh and all the trouble we got into. All the fun we had. And I have to believe in my heart, he looks after her. That maybe he is her angel. Time.. It will get better, and you have Nicholas, he will help you too as well as time..

I have dealt with Sudden Loss a little more than someone at 31 should. Some older and some way too young to die. No words will help you heal however time will. When you are sad, remember the happy times that you had with your Grandpa and that he lived a good life. Know that he likely passed away with no regrets and very happy. This will give you peace to move on. Hang in there and time heals.