I Want My Daddy!!!!!! Part 2.
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
October 14, 2008 11:48pm CST
Remember how I told you guys earlier this year how I had found out through doing my family tree, that my father had died in 1974, when I was five years old. Also that he had had Epilepsy. Well that was a sad story, that has become a bitter sweet story that I feel I have to share.
I came across a family tree last week that only had the name of my father's parents and one other person. So I contacted them through the site to find out who they were. As it turned out, it was my aunt who lives in Louisiana where my dad was born. In 1969, four months before I was born, my dad's mother passed away. He went home for the funeral and told his family that he would never come home again and he never did.
He blamed his family for his mother's dead. Saying that they stressed her to death by bringing their kids over for her to watch. But the truth of the matter was, my dad could not cope with his mother's death. After what happened to him as a child, he had really clung to his mother and she had gave him special attention and care, because he had become so fragile.
Now let me tell you what happened to him. I have to warn you though. This story will make you so angry and sad. Every time I think of it, I want to cry. When my dad was about eight years old, his brother's were out teasing and making fun of a big girl that lived in the neighborhood. After they got her real upset, they ran off.
Later on, my dad comes along, having know idea what his brother's had done. The girl took a bat and beat my dad in the head with it mercilessly. I am assuming that at some point he got away or she probably would have killed him. Ever since that day, he suffered from seizures so bad that he could not drive. He always blamed his brother's for what had happened.
My aunt said that her mom tried to go after the girl, but she was pregnant and it was a very long walk to where she was. I can not imagine someone being so evil. She could have killed my father. I think that she should have been charged with attempted murder.
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7 responses
@Flight84 (3048)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I was absolutely shocked when I read this. Your dad must have had a rougher life than originally thought, huh? Whatever happened to this girl? Were any charges ever pressed on her for what she did? I am deeply sorry to hear this. No child deserves that to happen to them. I'm glad you are doing your family tree because you are finding out so much. I think it's good for you to know about your past and considering that you were troubled over your dad anyway, this site you are doing seems to have helped. I'm sorry you have found out sad news though. What did your sister's think about this story with the girl?
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
17 Oct 08
When I started doing my family tree, there was no way I could have imagined all that I have learned. I did it for the purpose of finding out what became of my dad. It seems like such a sad story from beginning to end to me. I am glad that he seems to have had a good marriage with my mom, at least, the first five or six years. After that, who knows what went wrong.
My sister's were sad upon hearing what happened with my dad. But they have not been physically abused as much as me, so they don't react the same way that I do. I just keep picturing it in my mind and it makes me so angry. But talking about it helps. Just the thought of someone doing something so horrible to a little child, makes me cringe.
My aunt in Louisiana never said anything about the girl being punished, but she got what was coming to her, one way or the other. You get what you give and that is a little bit too evil for a slap on the wrist.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
15 Oct 08
Oh my gosh!!! That is just terrible. None of his family had her prosecuted? oh my oh my, that is just wrong, VERY WRONG!!
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@GardenGerty (161165)
• United States
15 Oct 08
This is sad that it happened to your dad. That does tell me then that the seizures are not heriditary, and that is one thing you do not need to worry about. I think he disliked his brothers because they were mean, and he probably felt like they were mean to their mom as well, because that was all he had seen from them.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
17 Oct 08
You are probably right. That may be why he was so quiet. Anytime I ask someone what kind of person my dad was, this is all they say, he was quiet. I was bullied as a child. I never got quite as upset as this girl did, but it hurt real bad. Maybe she felt justified in getting their brother, since she could not get them. I do not get along well with mean people.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
15 Oct 08
I can not imagine seeing any child go through something so horrible. I know that there is something to be said about children not teasing each other and I can understand her being so angry. But to take her anger out on a helpless, innocent child, who didn't even know what was going on, was just wrong. I am glad that it did not kill my father or totally ruin his life or I would not even be here.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
18 Oct 08
How sad for your father to have to live like that. I am so sorry to hear he had such a horrible beating from that girl/woman. You know she will have to answer to God for her actions if she has not already.
How did you find out all of this information? Did you get a hold of an Aunt or Uncle who told you this story.
How are things going with your court case? When do you go to court. I hope your landlord is not giving you grief.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
18 Oct 08
I just found two of my dad's sisters last week, through Ancestry.com. It is so amazing finding them after all this time. My sister's and I did not even know that he had sister's and brother's. The first court date will be this Wednesday at 8:30a.m. For some reason the owner is now trying to help me find a place to move. All of a sudden, he does not want me to go to court. I think that it is because I told him that I do not mind going. I am just at the point where I am saying that whatever God wants me to do, he will give me the strength and grace to accomplish it.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
20 Oct 08
I will keep you in my prayers for Wednesday. I will be out of town then. My daughter and I are flying up to Washington and renting a truck to bring the stuff home that I want from my Granny's.
I will be home on Saturday. I will be away from a computer for most of that time. I will get caught up with discussions ASAP
@donn_juan (325)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
oh my god, it's so sad your father has to answer for what his brothers has done..if i were you i would track down that girl and tell her your dad's story or write her a letter with an ending 'that girl was YOU!'..what a big burden of guilt that would have on her..grrrrrrr hate evil persons! we just dont know what things people are capable of doing...
im so sorry about your father..
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