What's More Important to you? Looks or Personality?
@miraclefreebies (3043)
United States
October 15, 2008 1:38am CST
If a person isn't considered physically attractive, but they are internally beautiful, would you date them, maybe even marry he/she, if that person was...
1.smart
2.funny
3.loving and caring
3.trustworthy
4.faithful
5.honest
6.family oriented etc.
In my opinion, everyone has an uniqueness glow to them, and I don't consider anyone bad looking or anything else that may be negative or off-balance.
What's your thoughts on this?..What if you weren't too fond of this person looks, but their heart is pure GOLD? Then what?
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@red_amethyst (3518)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
hi there.
for me i prefer personality. it is more important. with the looks, you can avail products that can enhance your looks. but with personality. its deep inside you. it makes who you are.
take care!
happy posting
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@schulzie (4061)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I have always thought and said that if a person is the most beautiful physically but on the other hand is cruel or mean, or ugly on the inside then they are just plain ugly no matter what their physical appearance is.
On the other hand, if the person is kind, loving, warm hearted, compassionate, giving, etc. and just beautiful on the inside while their outward appearance is not all that attractive it makes them beautiful and attractive to me.
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." "Beauty is skin deep, but ugly goes all the way to the bone."
Those are very true statements, don't you think?
Have a great day and happy myLotting!!!
@Jessamy (36)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I totally agree with you! Those statements have always stuck in my head from the first time that I heard them! I think that people judge to much, before they get to see what somebody really has to offer! Looks aren't everything! You want somebody who is caring, loving, and warm hearted, then somebody whos not! So what if that person is as attractive as the girl right next to her, shes got the personality that the other one doesn't have! I picked my hubby for his personality, which made him physically attractive to me no matter what!
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@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
I always believe that what's important is the inner beauty of the person, not the superficial or the way he looks. Because as they say, beauty fades. But in relationships, physical attraction is quite important. How can you like a person if you're not attracted to him even in a small way. For me, it doesnt matter much but somehow i should feel something for him or be attracted to him so that it wouldnt be awkward if i kiss him.
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@miraclefreebies (3043)
• United States
15 Oct 08
In some cases I've heard that even though someone may not be your original choice when it comes to physical looks, but if the internal connection is strong enough, you (you as in general) could find that the person's inner beauty also shines through to the surface (inside AND out)
This is what happened to me in high school. At first I didn't want to date a particular person because I wasn't attracted to him in a physical sense, but he had a heart of Gold, but I still remained friends with him.
But after a while (2-3 months) from spending a lot of time with him, I slowly fell in love with him, and this sounds strange, but I didn't see him the same way I seen him a few months ago.
When I looked into his eyes, I seen nothing but the man I loved, because I started to see that SAME inner beauty shine from the outside.
He passed away, but I will always treasure every second we spent together.
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@asselg1984 (375)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
looks could be deceiving as what they say, if judge a person's character through is looks, then we are doing it wrongly. here in manila, there are so many beautiful and handsome people, but when they speak, gosh, you would want to faint because they are disrespectful, and they curse a lot. i would go for personality because looks could be improved, thanks to the latest aesthetic technology. it is really hard to find someone nice and true these days. i would go for someone who is
1. honest
2. sincere
3. loyal
4. open minded
5. smar
6. funny
7. God fearing
but it will be better to have them both lol..
@miraclefreebies (3043)
• United States
15 Oct 08
You're right, better watch out! Looks CAN be deceiving.
Thanks for the reply.
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@arthi_88 (1516)
• India
15 Oct 08
Firstly as you said no one can be bad looking or ugly...And if a person possess all the qualities mentioned by you then he is a gem of a life partner and wont trade him for the best looking guy in the world
...Looks will go with time but what remains there is the person,his heart,his thoughts and his personality which can never be replaced by good looks..
Have a nice day
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...Looks will go with time but what remains there is the person,his heart,his thoughts and his personality which can never be replaced by good looks..
Have a nice day!2 people like this
@miraclefreebies (3043)
• United States
15 Oct 08
Right-On friend!
You're right, in time looks will change for some reason, but a truly good heart will never change.Thanks a lot!
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@loxion (1553)
• India
15 Oct 08
But most of you ladies would always prefer someone who is good looking both physically and financially.Yes everyone has their unique ways but up to far most of us would rather be with someone who are fun,but only to find that someone isn't that funny or outgoing kind of person but their dignity is awesome and with good heart and always looking to welcome almost everyone.For me i rather be with the ugliest but a GOLD heart partner rather than smart looking monster for the rest of my life
@miraclefreebies (3043)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I heard dat!
Thanks for your reply.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
15 Oct 08
personality is so much more important.. looks dont matter to me because all i pay attention to is their soul.. i have dated some really unattractive people but it didnt matter at the time.. i do know now looking back but they were also ugly on the inside which might be why i noticed it with them.. couldnt find anything good there so i looked on the outside lol
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@miraclefreebies (3043)
• United States
15 Oct 08
One thing I've never done in my life is judge the book by it's cover.
Thanks
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@thebohemianheart (8827)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I think that personality wins out over looks any day. I try to know people for who they are on the inside, not what they look like. A person can be the most beautiful person in the world, physically, and still have the personality of the devil. There are people who others consider not attractive that I find very attractive, simply because they possess the qualities you listed.
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@miraclefreebies (3043)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Right ON! I seen a lot of sugar devils, even dated a few, I can tell ya, it sucks being treated like you're gum stuck on the bottom of their shoe.
Instead of telling me how beautiful I am, they would spend that time telling themselves in the mirror.
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@miraclefreebies (3043)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Yes, that's what life is about..,all types of people which we have to breathe the same air with. It sucks huh?...
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@thebohemianheart (8827)
• United States
16 Oct 08
I like that, sugar devils.*S*
I dated one of those in high school. Always more concerned with his appearance than my feelings. Oh well, it takes all kinds to make the world go round, huh?
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Well, you know I have gone out with the most pretty 
men around in the past. You heard that right. I found that it don't matter. I never thought that my friend now was not cute until someone said really look at him. I did I had to laugh if I had to say he looks like a pitbull. He is so ugly he is cute. 
But he has these steal blue eyes oh my. so yeah looks don't matter. Your friend onlydia
men around in the past. You heard that right. I found that it don't matter. I never thought that my friend now was not cute until someone said really look at him. I did I had to laugh if I had to say he looks like a pitbull. He is so ugly he is cute. But he has these steal blue eyes oh my. so yeah looks don't matter. Your friend onlydia2 people like this
@marshiemallows (1010)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
i think what matters most is personality. with technology, a lot of girls/guys can improve their looks if they want too. well, i've never heard of anything that could improve one's personality except when the person is really willing to change.=D
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@miraclefreebies (3043)
• United States
15 Oct 08
Right. If there not willing to change for the better, then they'll always be rotten inside.
Thanks for the GIG!
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@summersatine (85)
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16 Oct 08
i go for personality..looks now can be fake..but personality-nahhh, its in you. my husband sure not looks good but got a heart of gold!! just got lucky-we have good combination-our children all pretty..hehehe
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@KePasa1982 (49)
• Ireland
15 Oct 08
Most important thing for me is how I percieve what I see. If I feel my mind puting a filter in front of my eyes I do not accept that as true. It is not about how ather person is, it's more about how you persieve the ather person. Are you looking through a vail of your own or collective condissioning or are you seeing what is infront of your eyes with no jugement.
We can connect to ather persons on a mind level and on a spiritual level. I tend to connect on a spiritual level, bypassing the mind!
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@jordiex (1)
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9 Apr 09
Hey :), So I really like this boy called Perry. He is the most caring, funny boy that I have so much in common with. He really likes me aswell. My problem lies where people have been commenting saying things like I am way out of his league and I think I want to be with him, and if I do without all these nasty comments. We both go to the same college in the same class 5 days a week. So its going to be tricky. Wht do you think I should do? xx
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
I preffer both but you ask which is important. For me Personality because the true beauty of ones person is render to his good attitude towards life. A good positive outlook bring us the looks that we want to see in one person. In here you will see a beauty of freshness. Hoping you will find a people like that! :)
@MH4444 (2161)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I think they both matter. I like the way a person thinks much more than the way they look. To me intelligence is an attractive thing. I guess it would depend on the person; but I lean towards what's the personality. I was with a guy once that really had nothing going on in his head except football. He was adorable; but come on. Sometimes you have to be able to talk to your mate.
@miraclefreebies (3043)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Hehe! Football is fine, but "HELLO!" I'm still here ya know.
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@Linda4ualways (2282)
• United States
15 Oct 08
A person's looks should not be the first thing that enters a persons mind when wanting to start a relationship. Now I am not saying that I would go with just anyone, but a person's personality is definitely more important to me. Take care and God Bless!
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@littleone3 (2063)
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15 Oct 08
For me it is most defiantly personality. I am not bothered by what they look look as long as they are loving and caring and all the other things that you described.
They do say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Whats inside is more important than what is on the outside.
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@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
15 Oct 08
When you're talking about physical beauty, you also have to consider personal opinions. What's beautiful to one person may not be so beautiful to another. Different person find different things attractive. That being said, I do think attraction plays a large role in a relationship, it may not necessary have to do with physical attraction but in different aspect as well, such as the list you have. Although I believe going by looks alone or putting so much importance on looks alone is shallow, I do believe attraction is very important. If you ask anybody, looks alone is hardly at the top of the list, although it may be on the list itself but rarely at the top. I do love my girl friend very much & I do think she's very attractive, physically & personality wise.
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@miraclefreebies (3043)
• United States
16 Oct 08
That's really a beautiful answer!! Feeling dat! Thanks.
@mojcica (1511)
• Slovenia
15 Oct 08
In the perfect world we would get both 
Since its not, we just get someone close enough to what we want. Saying I dont mind at all about the looks is a lie..there has to be just enough of both. One without the other doesnt work.
But If i really had to choose between two men, if there really wasnt anyother option, I would choose a personality, because you learn to love every flaw a person have when you fall in love with the person within :)
Since its not, we just get someone close enough to what we want. Saying I dont mind at all about the looks is a lie..there has to be just enough of both. One without the other doesnt work.
But If i really had to choose between two men, if there really wasnt anyother option, I would choose a personality, because you learn to love every flaw a person have when you fall in love with the person within :)1 person likes this
