felt like giving up the relationsip ?
By jlsolbrich
@jlsolbrich (42)
Germany
October 15, 2008 4:45am CST
They say that finding the right person and be in a relationship is not easy, but keeping the right person in a relationship is even harder. There will be times when one or both of you would like to get out of the relationship and feel that he or she had reached the edge of giving up.... Have you ever felt this and how were you able to cope up with it ?
6 responses
@ProudMommy22 (705)
• United States
15 Oct 08
Well Actually i myself just did walk away from a 2 year relationship. Was engaged as well but i walked away from it all. I had a chioce to stay but it was jsut better for me to walk away for the simple fact it was way to many lies and i cant stand someone that will choose there friends over there child. Thats jsut one thing i wont deal with.so after that it was the last straw for me. Yes i love him and care about him but that was just over the edge for me so i had to walk away. But they also say if you love someone let them go if they come back you know its real. but how do you cope with it, Well some do and some dont cope with it. Me however i will go on about my daily doings and take care of my children and well thats that. no its not as simple as it sounds but i try to make it simple.
@jlsolbrich (42)
• Germany
15 Oct 08
i am sorry to hear about the broken engagement but i do understand where you are coming from. A relationsip should be bound by love and not lies, if the foundation of the said relationship is weak, then a time will come that it would collapse. the last relationship i had before the currrent was almost the same. I was also engaged to be married when a few months before we say " i do ", i found out one important thing which he never told me about . I asked him about it, but the only answer i got was "it wasn´t that important , so he did not bother saying it " maybe for him, it wasn´t but for me it was a HUGE issue. After what i found out, hat was the time i started to think and ask myself, if he was able to keep a huge secret from me, it would definitely easier for him to do little things and not tell me . a week after, i call the engagement off and never look back...
I wish you good luck and dont forget to keep your head up ! and thank you for your response
@kitikatz (191)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
In my case, its not like I want to get out of the relationship but its more of asking myself if the other party is still happy with the relationship. Its a long distance love affair and he seems so busy with work lately which means the communication is lesser. I cant do anything for now but to be hopeful that everything will be okay soon. The coldness is killing me.
@jlsolbrich (42)
• Germany
15 Oct 08
i know what you mean, once the communication becomes a little lesser, there is a huge tendency that the relationship suffers. This would lead you to think a lot of things such as questioning your partner´s committment to the said relationship and if your partner is still happy or not.
Good luck to your long distance relationship, that alone is alrady difficult to keep and you should at least try to keep the communication open for you need to at least hear from each other to know what the others feel and think..
Thank you for your reply..
@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
15 Oct 08
Yes, it has happened that I felt like giving up. There has been one or two occasions, when I thought that it was simply easier to give up. Oh, I love my fiance. I really do. But there have been some fights when I simply felt like giving up. In the end, though, we talked it through and worked through those times. No matter how hard it is, if you really love someone, you should work through the rough times. Even if it seems impossible and the best way may be to give up.
@flance101 (137)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
I have been into that kind of situation. I tried to keep the relationship working for the two of us. Well, the guy did try, too. But there are times when people change, and your relationship gets affected. I did try my best, changing for the better. :) Despite our differences in opinions and some other things, we did make it through.
What made me give up is his not being able to change his ways that usually hurts me. As for example, I belong to a close knit family, and even though I am the most independent emotionally speaking, my care and love for our family will never change. I turned down a lot of job offers just to be able to stay and to keep watch on my sister studying here with me (she's got scolio). But even after a number of discussions about it, he would always insist that I move to where he's working so that we can be together. I know, there will come a time that I will have lesser time for my sisters, so while I am still single, and so are they, I want to be here for them.
I love him but he was hurting me, unknowingly. And maybe, I was also hurting him. I cant take the thoughts of us hurting each other by being ourselves. Sadly speaking, even after four years, we didnt make it through.
@kimirio66 (94)
• New Zealand
15 Oct 08
My partner & I meet through my job...We have a 3yr old son together...On the 3rd year of our relationship I discovered my partner suffers from Epileptic Seizures...For 3yrs he managed to hide that from me!...Once we started the tests to find out what was causing the seizures, I made it very clear to my partner that I was here for good & he has my support...It has been 2yrs since this happened & my patience is waring thin!...When he has a seizure, he has to rest...Sometimes he will sleep for over 3hrs...That is not a problem for me at all...I understand that totally...But now he returns home without an acknowledgement towards me...We have stopped talking & having fun together...In fact, days like Fathers Day, his birthday, I dont even get to have his time anymore...I am 42yrs old & love my partner dearly, which is why I am still where I am today...Behind a great man, is a great woman!...And even though he tests my patience daily...I have no plans to let him go...I plan to be that "great woman" & hope to God he wont drive me away!
