don't argue with your kids!
@doubleloveyou (2466)
United States
October 15, 2008 11:09am CST
That is the message that my wife was writing about today in her daily blog.
http://reneehuff.blogspot.com/2008/10/foolish-arguments.html
I realize that many of you will have differing opinions, but the truth of the matter is this. We, as parents, have been given the responcibility to raise our children. This, I believe, is a main concern for children growing up in today's society. There is no respect for authority. We as parents need to make sure we instill in them the need to respect authority. Please read my wife's blog and tell me what you think. Thanks.
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@DaddyOfTheRose (2934)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I would think that I've heard a similar point of view previously from other people. A child should be taught to respect their parents, but child rearing has many complications. Personally, I think it is important to listen to your children. Sometimes people tend to brush off the concerns of a child. If the child doesn't learn that what they are trying to say will be considered and listened to, then they will have no reason to talk to you about their issues when they become teenagers.
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@doubleloveyou (2466)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I do agree that it VERY important to listen to your children. Basically the point of this devotion is "post listening". In other words you have litened to their opinions and/or ideas. You have made your decission. But then they want to come back and argue about the decission you made.
It is important that they learn this lesson before they become adults. They can express their opinion and ideas, but once your boss, or a police person makes a decission, they need to learn that is the end of it.
My dad is a chaplain for the police in Indiana. He has told me several stories about what goes on. One of the most common things that get people in trouble is when they are pulled over (for whatever reason). They explain what was going on. The police get ready to let them off on a warning. The person then begins to argue so they get ticketed instead.
It is not about ignoring your kids. It is about teaching them. The word "Discipline" comes for the the word Disciple or to Teach. I believe you should not discipline your children unless it will teach them something.
Thanks for your responce
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@DaddyOfTheRose (2934)
• United States
15 Oct 08
A very defensible point of view... :)
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
15 Oct 08
That is a very wonderful and very real message! I have no kids but I know from experience that my parents are there to listen to my view all the time and when I am wrong, they will not point it out but I remember them saying, I guess it is better.......SO, in that way, I feel that they appreciate my view and that they are just guiding me and helps me respect them more!
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@doubleloveyou (2466)
• United States
15 Oct 08
One must understand the importance of authority and learn that there are times when, even if you know you are right, you should back down because someone in authority has made a decission.
We don't have to agree with it, but we do have to respect it. Thanks for your response.
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@darlette (26)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
I agree with what you said. Parents are the most important factor in order that their children will respect them. It is a matter of giving more attention, understanding their point of view and most of all listening to them. Our children specially teenagers need us to listen to them. It is their transformation stage where they feel like adults and yet are quite dependent on us parents. Let us appreciate them and give them a chance to grow in their decisions and actions. After all they are our children.
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I think that your wife's blog does make some sense. Arguing doesn't really lead to anything good anyway and sometimes as a parent you just have to choose your battles wisely.
We are given the responsibility to raise our children as effectively as we can and hope that we can ingrain God's will into them if we can. It could teach them the patience that they need as grown adults. Thank you for your post.
@doubleloveyou (2466)
• United States
15 Oct 08
It also teaches them the importance of authority. I would much rather them learn this lesson while they are living in my house, than when they are out on their own and try to go argue with their boss or worse a law enforcement officer.
Thanks for the response.
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