Bridesmaid issue!
@xthisisglamourx (45)
United States
October 15, 2008 4:21pm CST
Ok, so I am gonna go ahead and warn you guys now that for the next year I am going to be coming to all of you for loads of questions! Thanks in advance for helping me figure all of these crazy things out. I asked one of my best friends to be a bridesmaid in my wedding. She has a huge tattoo on her forearm, and my mom just asks that tattoos be covered seeing as she is paying for the wedding. I have several tattoos, and I am buying a special cover up make up stuff just out of respect for my mother and other family members and also to make my wedding look more sophisticated. My bridesmaid REFUSES to cover her tattoo!!! What should I do??? Please give me suggestions on how to handle this because I want to keep her in my wedding I just want her to play by the rules.
4 responses
@teejams (88)
• Philippines
30 Oct 08
ok first of all it's your wedding....her refusal to cover her tattoo is just a little thing to ask from her. the least thing she could do is support you with what you want on your wedding day....ok sorry for getting carried away...well another option would be other dress accessories that can cover it throughout the wedding day. although a make up would be more convenient. try to talk to her about it. but if she's still being difficult....you gotta choose girl...the bridesmaid or the total look you want to have for your wedding.
@xthisisglamourx (45)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Yeah. And now she is talking about how she is gonna have soooo many more tattoos by the time I get married. You would think that she would at least be respectful of me and hold off just a little bit longer. But that is her choice, she can go ahead and get all the tattoos that she wants, that just means more makeup that she will have to buy and find a way to make it look decent on her skin.
@teejams (88)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
don't you think she's just bluffing? or if she's trying to piss you off? i mean why would a close friend do something to sabotage your wedding. well i just wish you luck and i just hope that the rest of your guests would be more cooperative with what you really want for your wedding day.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
16 Oct 08
I would tell her that this is a rule you have, you are going out of your way to cover yours and she must do the same thing out of respect. If she can't respect your wishes, she shouldn't be in the wedding party.
Can you buy her a gown that covers her tattoos?
@xthisisglamourx (45)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Her tattoo is HUGE.. It goes from the inside of her wrist to the inside of her elbow...so there are no hopes of finding a gown to cover. I guess I am just gonna have to talk to her again!
@writer_girl (83)
• Canada
15 Oct 08
If she doesn't want to do make up then maybe a longer sleeved gown or a shawl type thing would be good.If she still refuses then you'll have to tell her she won't be a bridesmaid.
I'm facing the same problem but I haven't had the talk with the girl yet. I'm hoping that I'll find a dress I like that will cover her tattoos.
@lilnik76 (5)
• United States
15 Oct 08
Very easy solution dear. This is your very special day. If your mom is paying. First go to your mom and tell her your problem. If your mom is fixed that it has to be covered, maybe consider another dress for her, if that is not an option, then explain to your friend, this is your day. Your mom set one special ground rule since she is paying. Ask your friend again nicely. Tell her you are not asking her to remove it. It isn't a big deal and if your friend loves you she will do this for you. If she refuses, then tell her she is out. If she thinks she is out, she may abide by the rules. If not, then she isn't a friend. Like I said, this is your day, and everyone, with the exception of your mother who IS fronting the cash, needs to abide by the rules.
