Can you have a long distance best friend?
By starryeyes90
@starryeyes90 (108)
United States
October 15, 2008 10:45pm CST
My best friend and I met when we were freshmen in high school. That was almost eleven years ago. Up until about five years ago, we still lived in the same town and did absolutely everything together. Then I got married and moved to Italy for 2 years and she went off to college. We still kept in touch and were still really close. After I came back from Italy she was still gone, and slowly over time we've stopped talking as much. As of right now I haven't heard from her in over three months and it's weird that I really don't know much of what's going on in her life anymore. I still consider her my best friend, but the last time I heard from her it was a quick "congratulations on having the baby, I hope everyone is ok." Do you have a person you don't keep in close contact with. but that you consider a best friend?
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@manny1337 (51)
• United States
16 Oct 08
i think it is possible to have a long distance friend but call each other like 3-4 times a week to tell each other wat they did your problems you know just as if she were right next to you o and congrats on the baby
@starryeyes90 (108)
• United States
16 Oct 08
You're right. It seems like right now we're both so caught up in our own lives that we haven't really made time to keep in touch. Thanks for your congrats, and for your response!
@Helenmonster (1)
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19 Aug 09
My best friend and I met in primary school in our last year, and after another year she moved to New Zealand for three years. She moved back and we had stayed best friends the whole time, texting occasionally and ringing most weekends with the occasional email. I used to her about once a year when she lived away. Having been back here for three years she moves back tomorrow and I'm confident we can stay in touch, even though it does become difficult when you can't relate to each other's day to day lives any more. It's definitely worth the effort though. =)
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
16 Oct 08
I have tons of friends who I only see once or twice a year at disability rights events, but they're still the people I want when the "sh_t is hitting the fan" so to speak. We email, we call, and we really make an effort to stay connected.
@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Oct 08
I think a situation like this is a testimony to each individual. If the friendship is important and they don't get too caught up in other things and have time to devote to a friendship then, yes, you can.
@mimi_sexy (1)
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17 Oct 08
yes you can have a lokng distance friend.i have a few and actually i find them to be more trustworthy and better at giving advice that your close personal ones.for some reason they arent afriad to say exactly wats on their mind, and i admire that about them.
@sarkuhn (3)
• United States
16 Oct 08
My best friend of 5 some years lives across the country from me. No we don't see each other every day, but when we do get the chance to talk, we're thrilled and we can talk for hours. Definition in my eyes of a best friend, someone you'd trust with every aspect of your life, a lean on, laugh for hours, non judgmental, no matter what the time of day they are going to be there for you and simply one who cares about you enough to be honest with you.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
16 Oct 08
my best friend i hadnmt seen in a long time i did know what was going on in her life.all i knew was i missed her so much .but one we got in contact with each other al the things we talked about cry over everything just came back and we was just close as ever.so don,t worry she loves you and you will see her soon
@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
First of all, I don't have any best friends. I just have closest friends. I think it's very possible that you can have long distance friendships. It just takes more effort to keep the relationship growing. You need to take time to email her updates about your life and the other person has to do her part as well. You can also call her and you can chat using YM.
As for me, I keep in touch with them from time to time but not that often. I do email and sent them greetings during special occasions.
@pinkpassion5 (351)
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16 Oct 08
Yes you can have a long distance best friend. I met someone online eight and a half years ago and he is one of my best friends. We chat online and on the phone. We also write letters to one another - not eamils - real letters. He is in Afghanistan fighting the war as I write this but he calls me once a week. We have never met but we share everything that's going on it our lives. When I need an objective opinion I talk to him. Come November we will be meeting for the first time!! I can't wait!!!!
@sudais2006 (349)
• Pakistan
16 Oct 08
hi friends
no sorry i have no long distance friend at all ..
but not sad cos now i ve the mylot in which i can discuss everything and can get good friends
but recently i have none of long distance friend
Prince Sad
@ladybug185 (35)
• India
16 Oct 08
actually i also have a long distance friend. at time months goes by without talking to each other. but the moment we call its like we just talked yesterday. i guess she'll always be my bestfriend no matter what and no matter where she is.
@mrgeekindpink (19)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
Best friends are the ones you keep regardless of place. The thing is that, the person whom you consider your best friend has probably taught you many things and has shared with you your experiences in life and you to him as well. Priorities will be priorities but in the end memories last. So irregardless of you see him or her, if you consider him as one of your closest and best friends ever, then that will be and I'm sure the other person will feel the same too!
I have several friends that I consider bests. We do not meet often but they are still my best friends, those that belong to my inner circle.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
16 Oct 08
when people can engage in long distance love, why not best friends. i believe if both the parties try, it is possible. i have seen that. i used to be very good fiend with some whom i mistook a sbest friend. i kept all contact despite moving away ohysically. he chjeated me, that is another story
@tintusam (1168)
• India
16 Oct 08
I have had many good friends that lived far away. Most of them I met on the internet. I had one good friend for years who lived in England,Her name is Erica. another in Nepal. I've lost touch with many of them ... not because we quit being friends, we just got busy with other things. And we'll talk now and then and catch up. Good friendships don't require maintenance ... They take on a life of their own.
@Wyrus168 (131)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 08
Long distance... I have a really good friend... both of us are really playful and stuff... but when we went to different University and college, I started to feels that I don't wanna remember the old time... so I guess... I can't have a long distance best friend...
@walnutbrownie (745)
• India
16 Oct 08
well..my best fren from school days and i have been staying in different country for 3 yrs ever since she moved to the US, and due to work commitments we dont share much time together, except exchange mails once a while n phone calls but yes i still consider her as my best fren..cos we can catch up where we left ..each time we are talking..
@pweety_princess (2012)
• Australia
16 Oct 08
You can but it get's difficult.
The longest distance of a friend I have is 1 and a half hours away.
@myhllim (272)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 08
Yes. All my best friends are way apart from me. I need to drive about 4 hours to reach them. I don't think the long distance will harm our relationship. As long as the foundation is strong, we will always in each other's heart. Moreover, with advanced technology today, a phone call, an IM just a step away to reach them.
