A Spouse That Cheats-Or A Friend That Steals?
@miraclefreebies (3043)
United States
October 16, 2008 12:46am CST
Which one is worst?...
A good friend of mine just discovered last night that one of her best friends stole her piggy bank which she had saved up over $600.00 over 2 years, and they have been the best of friends for 8 years tops, and she admits to her that she stole it.
On top of that, she also discovered that her spouse for 6 years has been cheating on her for at least 4 months now, and he has a baby on the way, and he admits it.
My friend is a really good loving person, I just can't imagine the pain she must be feeling right now.
Which do you think is worst? The cheating spouse, or the thieving friend?
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83 responses
@onlydia (2808)
• United States
16 Oct 08
I'm not ot sure on that as both happened to me and you know they both hurt about the same. Tell her to kick his butt out. And tell the friend to pay her back even in small amounts keep track. unless friend is the one having affair with husband. Now that would bite. Does she have Kids with him? Take him for a ride on the reading railroad of heck. I feel for her it bites. Tell her she is not alone in this. As it has happened to a few of us. Your friend onlydia... give her a hug for me.
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@kylaerin (145)
• United States
17 Oct 08
I would have to say the cheating husband would be worse. The fact that her friend would steal from her is horrible. However, she didn't pledge to spend the rest of her life devoted to her friend. Her husband took an oath in front of God and then went back on it. I think a promise made like that would hurt me alot more than just losing a few bucks.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Oct 08
oh my 600 dollars is a lot more than a few bucks. and betraying trust is worth more than any money. its just horrible.
@schulzie (4061)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Those are both horrible situations.
I would have to say though that the cheating husband is worse than the friend stealing from her. She took vows with the husband and now they are broken by him. She did not take vows with her friend, but that is just awful. I bet that now she feels she cannot trust anyone. That will take her time to get over.
Have a nice day and happy myLotting!!!
I would have to say though that the cheating husband is worse than the friend stealing from her. She took vows with the husband and now they are broken by him. She did not take vows with her friend, but that is just awful. I bet that now she feels she cannot trust anyone. That will take her time to get over.
Have a nice day and happy myLotting!!!
@patms1 (521)
• United States
20 Oct 08
The cheating husband. As bad as it is you a can just drop your so called friend but a husband your stuck with. Ask him why he did what he did. If you want to save your marriage try working it out. I know it hurts. Been there, done that have the wet hankies to prove it. Ask yourself the question, is your life better with him or without him. Then make your decision.
@jdyrj777 (6528)
• United States
22 Oct 08
What is worse? How about a signifiant other that cheats and steals. Your frend should dump both her husband and her friend. She is better off with out them. I dumped the no good i had. Im happier with out that mess.
@insulin (2479)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
Well cheating is always the worst part of me because I just experience the both and the scars that still remain is the cheating one..I am sure there are some reasons why he steal it but cheating is really not good because you are really dealin in a relationship that is worst to all..
God bless and have a nice day..:-0
@rosesthorns14 (803)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
The cheating spouse is worst. Infidelity is a grave sin.
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@jhenn22 (1242)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
I think the cheating spouse would be the worst. If she founds out that her friend is stealing it, i am pretty sure that she can still bears with it and stop seeing that friend, but a cheating spouse? it's a big down for her. I know it would be very hard to see that a person you love and you promise to be with for the rest of your life is cheating with you and worst is having a baby with another woman. It must be very hard for her to accept it.
@suruchi86 (1873)
• India
3 May 09
I'm so sorry for coming so late. I think cheating spouse is worse than cheating friend. After all friend is other person only but whole of our and our children's life depends on spouse.
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
16 Oct 08
While both of them broke her heart and well did not care to lose her trust, I would say the cheating husband is the worst.
She can always try to get the money back from her friend even if she chooses not to talk to her or at least recover her money, I am not sure she can reconstruct her marriage the way it was.
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@msedge (4011)
• United States
24 Jan 09
It hurts more when the husband cheats than a bestfriend stole from you.We can forgive the friend specially she done it with valid or very important reason.Besides,we can always find a friend though its hard to find a real one but definitely we could.But for the husband, as you always see him everyday it would always remind whatever mistake he had done.For me, cheating is unforgivable because it would be a great insult for me as a wife.I maybe forgive him but i will never live with him anymore.
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
16 Oct 08
I think cheating spouse is the worst. A friend is someone who is not bounded in any commitment, but a spouse, there's a legal action, there is a spiritual bond, there's a wedding vow and cheating means doing something violate them all. It is easier to leave a friend, but it is hard to leave a husband. You can still limit your relationship with your friend but you cannot limit your relationship with your husband, he's already your husband.
I am so sorry for your friend, I hope she do alright
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@JOIEMARVIC (2335)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
Well i guess nothing would be worst that having found her husband cheating and her friend stealing from her together.
Seriously thought,both things are painful.Both people betrayed and disrespected her.You said that your friend is a good one,so basically,she does not deserve to experience that.I guess she need to pick up the pieces,charge things to experience then go on with her life.I hope she find happiness that she deserves.
If i were in her shoes,the worst thing for me is finding out that my husband cheated.I can forgive my friend for stealing,but my husband,i dont know if i can forgive him,and most of all,the children would suffer once they discover about their fathers infedelity.
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@kmurti (100)
• Russian Federation
16 Oct 08
Oh god!!
i thought i had problems in life..with crazy friends ..but looks like there are worst cases..
the husband who cheats?? i am sure it is he who is worst of the lot..
cos all realationships are built on trust and faith ..if he really wanted someone else why hang on to the wife?he could have told her and walked out why cheat??
k
@krissy32 (205)
• United States
17 Oct 08
My sentiments exactly!! I can't stand cheaters at all. Thanks be to God above that I have not been cursed with a spouse who cheats, and then to top it off he has the nerve to have a child with this other woman. What gall!!. He should be man enough to tell her to her face what she did that was so wrong to cause him to cheat on her, not that there is an excuse, mind you. But some men do blame their cheating on their wife, to absolve their own guilt. She should kick them both the curb, but first call the police to report the theft of her money and since the friend already confessed to it, then she ought to press charges against the friend and teach her a lesson in stealing from others. Kick him to the curb too and try to get alimony and child support set, so its impossible for him and this other home wrecker to have a decent life. HAhahahahha! Teach them both a lesson for adultery.
@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
27 Oct 08
They both are bad and they both broke her heart. But if I have to give an answer as to which one I think is worse I would have to say the cheating husband especially since she has a baby on the way. I bet your friend is really sad right now. Did that friend tell her why she stole the money since she admitted to stealing it? That's just wrong. I would never take something that didn't belong to me. And if someone wants something that is mine all they have to do is ask me for it and more than likely I would give it to them. I hope things get better for your friend. But at least she has you that she can talk to and you can try to make her feel better about things.
@ashvini_urs (415)
• India
15 Dec 08
well according to me cheating your spouse is the far worst thing done
the other i.e., being cheated by your best friend is tolerable to an extent but being cheated by the person whom you have given everything of yours and given yourself for one smile of that person and for loving you........
you friend must have suffered a lot and for sure she is hurt ........ this shouldn't have happened ..........
@mercuryman3a (2477)
• India
15 Dec 08
I think the thieving friend is worse than the cheating spouse. A cheaqting spouse can bre brought around and made to see sense, but a thieving friend can not change his or her stealing habits and can rob you again some time. your hard earned money is of immense value and specially when you ahve scrounged each penny.
@ChloeStrawberry (285)
• Philippines
27 Oct 08
Wow! That's tough. But both are worst. I empathize with your friend for having an unfaithful spouse. I'm not married yet but no woman is deserving to be cheated on.
